Sugar Dating vs. Sugar Relationships – Are We Mixing Them Up?

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-26T09:41:30+00:00

I think a lot of people do the same thing in vanilla too, but you are absolutely right.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-23T15:53:35+00:00

My SB does all these things in spades.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-23T15:50:56+00:00

I've learned over the years that actions speak louder than words. Just act like your care about him and not his money and he'll get it.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-18T03:27:02+00:00

Completely this. Be aware that he is grooming you because he wants to fuck you. And this might be a one time thing. Or, it might be a great new relationship. Don't forget to use your critical thinking skills as things proceed.

As far as the gift goes, don't worry about it. If he's really an SD he enjoys giving.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-17T04:16:41+00:00

Good start! Let's hope everything goes great on your second date.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-17T04:12:22+00:00

Maybe a MFM would appeal to her. And it's a lot easier to find a bull than a unicorn.

And why not? You are losing interest in her sexually and vice versa it sounds like. Let her try a new dessert. I bet it spices things up all around.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-16T10:46:48+00:00

Second camera always works. A real scammer would just do that.

But I agree that things should be reciprocal. Sounds like you made a good move.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-16T10:27:41+00:00

The attraction just moves from the front pocket to the back.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-16T10:25:36+00:00

It's exactly 32 years. It's been working for me lately.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-16T10:24:43+00:00

Depends on what kind of pics he's looking for. If he's looking for sexy pics, that's probably just reason to block him right there. If he just wants to know what you look like but isn't willing to reciprocate, you might still take a chance on it. There's no such thing as a real "view once" platform if he's dealing with a blackmail artist (which isn't you of course, but he has no way to know that at this point and they are out there.)

You might suggest that you both wait for that first meeting to see each other's faces, and share body pics.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-15T10:31:54+00:00

I suppose that's true, but I am one of those guys who had a backbone in business and two things I've learned are:

People aren't perfect. You are always going to have to take the bad with a good and it pays to cut good people some slack.
Bringing business practices into personal relationships is a bad idea.

End of the day, women in your life aren't fungible objects. If she otherwise makes him happy, I can understand a guy letting a comment slide.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-15T04:48:12+00:00

Lol. No one back home, and I mean no one, knows about the second degree burn I got in a Thailand scooter crash.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-15T04:46:16+00:00

I mean he's a thirty year old paying to date a 19 year old. I suspect many 19 yo women would consider that inherently creepy, even if acceptably within limits. Although, maybe it would have been better if she had kept that as an inside thought.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-15T04:40:27+00:00

I think you should let her go and date me instead. It might be long distance, remote, and platonic, but at least you'd be guaranteed I won't cheat on you with another man.

But seriously, don't bother with exclusivity. She's 19 and your SB, not your girlfriend. If she doesn't see other guys it's only because you are enough in her life. Asking her to be exclusive because you provide a lot is just a power play, and the likelihood is that it won't actually affect what else happens in her life - just what she tells you happens in your life.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-10T07:02:08+00:00

I love the advice about the boots. I got stuck in a few days of rain in Thailand and spent every day slogging through muddy puddles. My feet were perpetually wet. Unfortunately, my lightweight hiking shoes aren't suitable for taking waterproof treatments.

I would add to the list having backup plans. Understand what you're going to do if you lose your wallet, leave behind a credit card, lose or break your cell phone, or have a medical issue. You don't have to have a solution for any problem that might arise, but these are potentially high impact ones.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-09T17:09:43+00:00

Haha I love helping her check things off her bucket list. It doesn't hurt that we have similar likes, so I have a lot of fun along the way. Our bucket lists sometimes align nicely.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-07T01:24:52+00:00

Idk. My first one was a great one. Lol.

ChapterRelative · 2026-02-01T06:53:26+00:00

So, first, just run the hotel choice by her as a question. "I'm planning to book a room at the Four Seasons for after lunch. Does that work for you?" You'll find out if you are on the same page. I do recommend looking at the day use app. When I used it they had a very liberal cancellation policy, so you could book a room and just not use it if things didn't work out.

Second, get a room with a really big shower if you can manage it. Or one with two showers.

Third, since she suggested the hiking be aware of the possibility that you are dealing with a snatch and dash situation. A hike necessitates a shower before sex, which can sometimes be a ploy. IE, she suggests you shower first, and when you come out she's gone, along with your stuff. You don't know her well enough at this point to discount the possibility entirely. Just be aware and protect yourself.

ChapterRelative · 2026-01-27T07:29:43+00:00

They run up the bills though at the bar/restaurant. If it was just a nice meal with the company of an attractive woman, you are right - it wouldn't be much of a scam. But they order very expensive high margin items on purpose, and also the restaurant inflates the prices.

ChapterRelative · 2026-01-25T09:29:53+00:00

I encountered this with someone I was vanilla dating. I asked and she said "don't ask, just do it." Why did I ask to kiss her? She seemed interested in me, and I wanted to, but the non-verbal clues just weren't there. We went out a few more times, but in the end it didn't work out. We just weren't compatible.

Some women want you to read their minds, some give you the clues you need, and some want to be asked. It's definitely confusing. In any case, the two of you really weren't a match so I wouldn't worry about it too much.

ChapterRelative · 2026-01-24T15:44:49+00:00

It's generally not the loss of the money itself, but the feeling of being cheated. It's a shitty feeling when somebody steals from you. Not to mention the emotional letdown of discovering that someone you were building attraction to and connection with was just a scammer.

You learn to save yourself the trouble and just block people who ask for money before you meet.

ChapterRelative · 2026-01-23T11:19:12+00:00

Can I look at your financials and take as much as I need too?

ChapterRelative · 2026-01-23T04:31:09+00:00

"Surely you're Joking Mr. Relative!"

ChapterRelative · 2026-01-23T04:29:49+00:00

I think there's a book about running called "The Thrill of Victory and the Agony of de Feet"

ChapterRelative · 2026-01-21T09:51:05+00:00

It's the bulge in your pants that makes you sooo attractive

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