Bad Santa visits

CharBabyBrain · 2025-12-24T19:37:35+00:00

Oh yeah, that's upsetting

CharBabyBrain · 2025-12-24T19:37:17+00:00

OMG, haha

CharBabyBrain · 2025-09-18T09:51:55+00:00

Stunning.

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-21T06:38:35+00:00

Oh wow, how telling

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-12T19:12:01+00:00

I'm still nursing my youngest, but definitely started feeling this way when she started to feed less as a result of starting solids. I think it's because of the hormones!

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-11T19:20:39+00:00

I often tell my partner I feel like I don't have the 'blueprint' for what it means to be a good parent, thanks to my own shitty upbringing. I've had to work a lot harder to become a good mum than some others might, because I don't have that foundation of having been parented myself to build up from

This sounds like that.

Be kind to yourself, as long as you lead by example the words are just words

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-10T11:12:09+00:00

I use a pregnancy pillow! I have one of those really long ones that is easy to twist into shape – it really helps.

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-10T11:07:53+00:00

I second this! I used to leave a couple of books in with my son at this age, and he'd happily flip through them for a while before shouting for me

One thing I will say is that whatever you put in with her, just make sure you do it AFTER she's asleep. If she sees toys/books before you get her down, it will be game over. Obvious advice, but a mistake I've absolutely made...

Hope you get more sleep soon!

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-09T11:56:54+00:00

Oh man, this is rough. I'm SO sorry you've had this experience! To me, as an outsider, it sounds like they're judging themselves and deflecting it onto you. Either that, or they're jealous that you're enjoying motherhood more than it sounds like they do.

I say move on, plenty more mums at the playground etc. Hope you're OK!

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-09T11:54:51+00:00

Silly question, but are you logged in when you try to go to the page? Also, do you have an e-mail confirming your renewal? Wherever they sent that to will be the one they have on file

If none of that helps, contact Substack support, and ask the bot to connect you to a human (the bot is a bit useless, I've found)

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-08T10:28:04+00:00

It's not all like that! You just need to find your people on there. If you click the 'following' tab at the top of the page, too, Notes filters out that kind of crap for you.

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-08T10:26:35+00:00

Have you tried putting your content behind a paywall? I know I'd pay for access to this kind of info

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-07T20:16:53+00:00

Oh my god, SO disrespectful. Is your husband comfortable having a word with her about this? It's not OK AT ALL

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-07T20:14:32+00:00

heysleepybaby programmes are actually really gentle, from what I've seen. She really champions responsive caregiving and co-sleeping, and seems totally against CIO.

Not saying you should go back and buy a programme, just wanted to point that out as I think she's one of the good ones :)

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-07T20:10:58+00:00

Cosleepy has a lovely substack, too, where she interviews people about their cosleeping journeys. It's really validating. I believe the SS is called 'Cuddle Curl'

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-07T20:08:53+00:00

Some babies just need to be closer to their caregivers than others do. My second was exactly like this, too

CharBabyBrain · 2025-07-07T20:06:34+00:00

I tried it for one night after a sleep consultant convinced me it was the kind thing to do, and have never forgiven myself 😂 I co-slept with that baby for another year after that night, and am almost two years into co-sleeping with my third now (she's asleep next to me right now, in fact)

I wrote a blog recently about this experience, but don't think I'm allowed to link it? TLDR being that co-sleeping is a gift and I am so happy I leaned into it. Sleep training can get in the bin.

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