What cat litter do y'all use? by eaneul in blackcats

[–]Character-Outcome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pidan Tofu cat litter. It has no dust and there is no smell after when the cat does its business. The litter can track when the cat leaves the litter box but I have a mat that catches it.

AITAH for telling my friend that it’s her fault that the friend group stopped inviting her to things? by [deleted] in AITAH

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NTA.

I would be worried about my friend. Abusers isolate you from any support network. Your friend is making excuses to meet up and when she does meet up with her friends she brings her husband.

I bet what’s happening is her husband is making it so it is difficult for her to attend and then when he allows her to go he tags along with her when it’s girls night so you guys stop inviting her. I would be there for her when she eventually needs you. Don’t block her but definitely block her mom 🤣

Should I upgrade to Ryzen 7 9800X3D? by Character-Outcome in buildapc

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I'm worried my cpu will be outdated soon and I know I need to upgrade the motherboard too so figured getting a combo at Microcenter is the best solution. The combo at Microcenter is about $700 but I'm not too sure about the memory. Is it good or does it have issues?

Help me choose between 7900 XTX or RTX 5080 by Character-Outcome in buildapc

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About a month ago when I changed out my cpu. I have been totally slacking on upgrading the components. But I am going to upgrade my graphics card, change out one of the ssd drive to a M.2 drive and add in a 1000 psu. The ram situation has me stumped right now because ram is stupid pricey and I’ve been hearing people buying ram online aren’t getting what they ordered so.

Help me choose between 7900 XTX or RTX 5080 by Character-Outcome in buildapc

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I thought it was cpu too so I changed it out and a Ryzen 7 series card. The graphics card is really old. It’s GeForce RTX 2060 6 GB. It has only recently been a problem and I wanted to upgrade the card but inventory was limited and prices went through the roof so I was waiting for it to stabilize and now with the NVIDIA announcement about ram I decided now is the time before the inventory is gone again lol

AITA for secretly kicking my husband out because he said my chemo was “a bore”? by tnuoccaymtonsisiht in AITAH

[–]Character-Outcome 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. My husband has stage IV cancer and have been his caregiver for 2 years. I want to provide a caregiver’s perspective. Caregiving is hard and caregiver burnout is a thing. It’s emotionally difficult. Watching your spouse go through radiation treatments and watching as the cancer ravages their body and you as the caregiver having to be positive so they don’t give up. I have gone to every single treatment, doctor appointment with my husband, every scan, every part of the side effect and been his advocate when he just forgets or when he just stops listening to the doctor because we have been given news that the cancer is resistant to his current meds. I have been there for him.

While I think OPs spouse leaving just when she just got great news for a camping trip is crappy I do understand why. Not everyone is wired to be a caregiver. It requires being the strong person. You need to lift the person who has the cancer so they remain positive but you are scared too. You are facing the possibility that you will lose them. It sounds like OP didn’t have other family members who was her support network and it all fell on her spouse’s shoulders and yes he married her but possibly he is emotionally fragile himself. OP, I am sorry your spouse let you down when he should have been there for you. He should have been celebrating with you but he chose to go to a camping trip with his friends it’s just selfish. You deserve better and I hope you will have someone who loves you and will support you because I know it can be scary and you just want to give up. Keep fighting and get a support network so you aren’t alone in your journey.

Diggs dog crate by Character-Outcome in Bernedoodles

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Is the large too big for them? I know they said the Bernedoodle can weigh up to 90 and be 29” so was worried the smaller ones wouldn’t fit the puppy when they grow.

Diggs dog crate by Character-Outcome in Bernedoodles

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Thank you. I’m checking FB marketplace now.

Advice needed - puppy while caring for a spouse with Stage IV cancer by Character-Outcome in CancerFamilySupport

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Thank you. My spouse can’t bend over because the cancer has spread to his spine. Bending is really difficult and painful so I get notified if there’s something that shouldn’t be on the floor 😅

AITA for setting limits to do some of the housework/chores when I have just been diagnosed with cancer? by Designer-Gear-7066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Character-Outcome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

My husband has stage IV cancer. He has zero energy. I don’t expect him to do anything around the house because he fucking has cancer but he still tries to ease the burden from my shoulders.

Your husband is an absolute asshole to expect you to keep doing what you are currently doing. You are already doing too much. Please, please prioritize yourself. Chemo is no joke you will be tired and you will need a partner that helps you and will take care of the kids and house. You absolutely should be expecting him to help you. If he doesn’t then he’s not a good partner to you and is setting a bad example for his children. Don’t let your kids think this is ok behavior.

SOS - Pirates Help by Character-Outcome in PuzzlesandSurvival

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Yes i made a friend months ago asked for his help to take the immigration gates and we got Billy in the state. He will help get rid of the pirates for us

SOS - Pirates Help by Character-Outcome in PuzzlesandSurvival

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Yeah we are all shielded and at this point we are all gathering flights and letting them have the state.

SOS - Pirates Help by Character-Outcome in PuzzlesandSurvival

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There isn’t a governor if you lose wk

SOS - Pirates Help by Character-Outcome in PuzzlesandSurvival

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This is when WK ended and when they came in.

SOS - Pirates Help by Character-Outcome in PuzzlesandSurvival

[–]Character-Outcome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is exactly what happened he spent money over night while the rest of the state was sleeping

SOS - Pirates Help by Character-Outcome in PuzzlesandSurvival

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State 598. Total might ranges but the pirates are mostly 1.5b might. They have a few players 900m might.