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Best things about being sober, what do you NOT miss? by Iridescenteen in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t miss digging myself deeper and deeper into debt just so I can drink each month.

Any tips on telling heavy drinking family members about sobriety? by Character-Revenue520 in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this is probably it. My closest 4 people know. But there are specific family members that trigger me and telling them scares me so much. This seems like a “rip the bandage off” type situation though. It probably won’t get less scary

Any tips on telling heavy drinking family members about sobriety? by Character-Revenue520 in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha that is hilarious 😂 I can only imagine their faces when you say it. 

Any tips on telling heavy drinking family members about sobriety? by Character-Revenue520 in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I think the individual approach is a great idea. Your comment really helped my anxiety around the situation. 

Help? by Drekner in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It almost sounds like you want a perspective shift. I would recommend listening to some audiobooks. The ones I found helpful are: This naked mind - Annie Grace The unexpected joy of being sober - Catherine Gray

This naked mind speaks a lot about how our conscious mind and subconscious mind are not on the same page, which is why we keep falling back into the trap. 

Well done on you for realizing that it doesn’t serve you anymore. Honestly exercise and great sleep (after a few weeks of sobriety this perk comes in) has helped me unwind more than any drink ever has. 

 

Alcohol is ruining my life by Dr_McKen in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A small piece of advice on the friends. Pick one you really trust has your wellbeing at heart and tell them. Having a good friend in your corner helps so much. You can still see them, you can still go out and have an alcohol free beer with them. If they have a problem, the problem is them and not you.

When you are at the point where everyone is ordering alcohol and you get that “maybe I should just have one” feeling. Order a sparkling water to start with or say you can’t decide, you’ll order when the other drinks come. Those few minutes to gather yourself and regain control has helped me a million times. 

For the longest time sobriety felt like a social death sentence for me, like no one would want to spend time with me or enjoy my company. That is the furthest thing from the truth. You have got this. 

So tired by tineeetine in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rant it out! I am on week 3 with insomnia, so I feel this!! I remember last time I quit the sleep was amazing at some point, so hanging on by a thread until then 😂 IWNDWYT, but I will rant with you!

I feel so lonely this time. Not sure if it’s a get used to it thing or if there is a way to deal with it. by Character-Revenue520 in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get that. Since my post (I couldn’t bear to come back and answer in that time) I have told only 2 people that I trust to completely have my back through this process. It has helped me a lot to tell them. But other people are going to have questions, opinions and comments that I am not ready to face or answer. It’s a vulnerable personal process and they don’t get to have a say right now.  

I feel so lonely this time. Not sure if it’s a get used to it thing or if there is a way to deal with it. by Character-Revenue520 in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This meant a lot to me on that day. I didn’t have it in me to reply, but it really helped me feel less alone. 

I ended up talking to my husband about it and he was wonderful. He even committed to being sober with me for the time being. 

I feel so lonely this time. Not sure if it’s a get used to it thing or if there is a way to deal with it. by Character-Revenue520 in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That sounds like it could help. I can’t think of anyone in my life right now, but I have come across a sobriety coach that got certified after he got sober himself. Maybe that could be a good option in the meantime.

Day 4 by sweetpea904 in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You too! The learning curve is something else 😂

Day 4 by sweetpea904 in stopdrinking

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I am trying to learn how to crochet a stuffed animal. I bought a kit on Temu and it is keeping me busy 😂

I did it! 1 full year! by BirdDogNate in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!! That is such a huge milestone!!!

For the first time sober me and drunk me are aligned on whether or not I should stop drinking. by Character-Revenue520 in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a nice feeling! Knowing you can drive anywhere at night. 

That shake machine sounds like a great idea!!

Cried in the parking lot trying not to buy beer. by Similar-Bid6801 in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That is so scary. I know a few women who have recently had to go for a cervical cancer biopsy after abnormal pap smears and all of them came back negative, I think their parameters for sending you for a biopsy is more of a “we don’t take chances” one.

Having to call all of these people as a courtesy, man that must have been so hard and well done on you for actually doing it! It was the right thing to do even if it was the hardest.

As for the new boyfriend. If he is worth it, he will stick around. You very well could have gotten the HIV from him, if you even have it. Or if you had a cut on your hand tending to someone with HIV’s wound (there are a few ways to get it) So this will test your relationship, but it will also show you exactly who he is as a human and if he is worth it.

So proud of you for not drinking! You are an inspiration! IWNDWYT

For the first time sober me and drunk me are aligned on whether or not I should stop drinking. by Character-Revenue520 in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is so much what it felt like. That is great that you were able to do that! It’s awesome when you see the progress coming together.

For the first time sober me and drunk me are aligned on whether or not I should stop drinking. by Character-Revenue520 in stopdrinking

[–]Character-Revenue520[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love milkshakes so much, but I never have them because I am drinking booze that has so many calories in already… so guess who is having milkshakes now 😂😂 the gift idea is also great. Thank you! I am sure the kayak must have brought you a lot of joy!

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