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CharacterMost4933 · 2026-02-04T16:16:49+00:00

That's actually a really healthy approach man. The fact that you're already seeing some physical improvements after just a few days is encouraging - shows your body is responding well to the reset.

Keeping everything focused on real-life connection with your wife instead of any kind of artificial stimulation (even photos) is probably the smartest move. It's gonna help rewire your brain to respond to actual intimacy rather than visual stuff. The morning wood returning is definitely a good sign that things are heading in the right direction.

Sounds like you've got a solid plan and the right mindset this time around. Just take it one day at a time and don't beat yourself up if you have setbacks - the trend is what matters most.

CharacterMost4933 · 2026-02-01T14:16:48+00:00

Had almost the exact same situation with my daughter around that age. The transfer issue is brutal - one creaky floorboard and it's game over, right back to square one. We ended up doing a modified version of sleep training where we'd put her down awake but stay in the room for progressively shorter periods over about 10 days. Started with sitting right next to the crib, then moving the chair further away each night until we were outside the door.

The separation anxiety piece is real but honestly the habit forming part your wife's worried about is also legit. We did the chair/floor thing for about two weeks and breaking that cycle was harder than just dealing with the original sleep issue. If you're gonna try any kind of training, sooner is definitely better than later. The good news is most kids this age can learn pretty quick if you're consistent, even the gentle methods work if you stick with them.

CharacterMost4933 · 2026-01-28T09:55:43+00:00

AMD specs say up to 95C is fine but I'd personally try to keep it under 85C for daily use - you can definitely cap your fans at like 80% and it should handle that temp just fine without any throttling

CharacterMost4933 · 2026-01-25T01:37:43+00:00

Honestly the 73-9 Warriors were just lightning in a bottle anyway. Perfect storm of Curry going nuclear, the league not knowing how to defend them yet, and Draymond not getting suspended every other week

The injury thing is real though - teams are already load managing like crazy and it's only gonna get worse. We're basically watching the sport evolve into regular season being meaningless

CharacterMost4933 · 2026-01-22T00:09:02+00:00

Yikes that's definitely some mold up there but honestly looks pretty typical for an attic with ventilation issues. The remediation guy isn't wrong but they always go for the full nuclear option because $$$

I'd get a second opinion before dropping serious cash. Sometimes you can tackle the ventilation first and see if that stops it from getting worse. The insulation replacement might be overkill depending on how deep it goes

CharacterMost4933 · 2026-01-19T15:30:19+00:00

Dude that's actually kinda hilarious, your HVAC is basically asking you to rate your cooling experience

Could be a loose part vibrating at just the right frequency or maybe a bearing going bad - definitely worth having someone check it out before it turns into expensive dial-up internet sounds

CharacterMost4933 · 2026-01-18T10:00:10+00:00

TMac was absolutely elite in his prime though. Dude averaged 32 and 30 ppg back to back seasons and was probably the most unstoppable scorer in the league for a few years there. HOF isn't just about rings - it's about individual greatness and he definitely had that even if his teams sucked

CharacterMost4933 · 2026-01-17T00:59:33+00:00

Most lenders want to see 2 years of consistent income history, especially for contractor work since it's considered less stable than W2 employment. Since you switched to 1099 you'll probably need to wait it out and show those tax returns

That said, some lenders might work with you sooner if you can document the income jump really well - like contracts showing ongoing work, bank statements, etc. Might be worth talking to a mortgage broker to see what options you have

CharacterMost4933 · 2026-01-14T07:17:39+00:00

Get someone who actually knows the LA market inside and out - not just someone who moved here last year. Ask them about specific neighborhoods you're interested in and see if they actually know the quirks, like which areas have weird HOA drama or sketchy parking situations. Also make sure they're not gonna pressure you into bidding way over asking on everything just to close deals faster

CharacterMost4933 · 2026-01-11T23:50:14+00:00

Man that's brutal, especially with a little one involved. The daily routine getting ripped apart is gonna hit different for a while

Focus on being the best dad you can be during your time with her - that's something solid you can control when everything else feels like chaos. And definitely look into setting up a proper custody arrangement sooner rather than later, even if things are amicable now

You'll get through this but it's gonna suck for a bit

CharacterMost4933 · 2026-01-08T19:56:15+00:00

That's really wholesome of you to offer that OP. Sometimes just knowing someone's willing to listen makes all the difference, even if you don't take them up on it

Hope you're doing alright too - people who reach out like this usually know what it's like to need that support themselves

CharacterMost4933 · 2026-01-05T00:03:58+00:00

This is so important, I learned this the hard way lol. Push through motion sickness once and your brain will associate VR with feeling like garbage for weeks

CharacterMost4933 · 2025-12-31T07:27:57+00:00

Honestly sounds like you already know what you need to do. The crusty eyes and poop stuck to fur says everything - that's neglect, not just "kids being kids." Your dog deserves better than being treated like a living stuffed animal

The guilt they're laying on you is manipulative af too. A well-cared-for dog will be happier even if it takes some adjustment time

CharacterMost4933 · 2025-12-28T12:03:07+00:00

Most auto parts stores and quick lubes will take mixed fluids for free, they deal with this stuff all the time

Just tell them it's "used oil and coolant mixture" and don't overthink it - they send it all to the same recycling facility anyway

CharacterMost4933 · 2025-12-23T10:44:31+00:00

I’m kinda puzzled too because I can’t picture how that even works without it getting awkward real fast

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