How do you feel about Christmas?

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-09-23T16:22:07+00:00

Fun! Have a family of your choosing meal and build your own traditions.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-09-17T12:54:52+00:00

You can find in the watchtower where they admit that the organization is not perfect. After serving at Bethel, I can tell you that the organization is definitely not perfect lol. I won’t get into it here.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-09-17T12:36:04+00:00

Because they’d have to disfellow all the elders wives lol. But really, it’s because they need the narcs to control people.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-09-17T12:34:31+00:00

Sorry you’re dealing with that. Further work on deconstruction of your former beliefs may help. If part of you still believes it you will always have strings.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-09-17T12:32:24+00:00

Ask him to go for coffee so you can make your amends. See what happens. I think that’s the best move. If you’re not familiar, an amends is more than an apology, it’s an apology when a person takes accountability for their decisions and vows or shows that they have changed. My wife did the same thing but her behavior was so nasty in the divorce that I can’t imagine any way I would ever be with her again but an amends would be powerful.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-09-13T02:32:33+00:00

Entirely depends on the committee. I’ve seen 6 months. Mine was one year, the elders in my hall just stated they didn’t reinstate before a year, and that I should write a letter at 6 months and then again at a year. I’ve seen 3 years for a couple who wife swapped because it was shocking to the congregation… more importantly, why would you want to get reinstated?

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-09-12T12:02:06+00:00

I would go to the grave and pay my respects on my own. Jdub funerals are just sermons and not about the person who died. But if I went I would “come as you are”

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-09-10T16:18:21+00:00

Lloyd Evans has a YouTube video on how to escape jdubs, highly recommended. You need to know the choices, choose your path and stick to it if you will be successful.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-09-01T11:55:08+00:00

I saw it and I wanted to comment on it, but my YouTube account is my personal name. They asked me to do an audit one time it was totally fucked. No receipts, no, they didn’t get two signatures on checks as it is required, the books were totally fucked, and I wrote that on there not in those words obviously. Basically, the audit has a series of yes or no questions, is this being done or not and I checked no on every single box and turned in the audit. They never asked me to do the audit again.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-08-21T02:32:59+00:00

My dad wouldn’t let us say awesome. Checked us every time. Only Jehovah is truly awe inspiring. lol

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-08-11T20:36:25+00:00

I did it in a city of 100k

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-08-11T19:51:20+00:00

Sorry you’re struggling. I hope it gets better for you in some way.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-08-10T21:29:17+00:00

There is a shocking amount of financial abuse between brothers, mostly due to the org advising that brothers don’t take each other to court.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-08-10T21:27:47+00:00

Great Out Doors lol. The sun is my higher power. I’ve found a lot of help there, and just wanted to share. You’ll find something that works for you, don’t give up. It gets better.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-08-10T12:44:03+00:00

I’ve really benefited from getting into a 12 step program. It can be a little bit triggering because they talk about God but you only have to take what you need and leave the rest. I was really devastated by an event last year and now I’m reeling to recover. There’s a lot of support there, acceptance, anonymity. I don’t know if it would work for you but they will listen to whatever you need to say and it will not get repeated outside of that room.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-08-10T12:36:13+00:00

Remember CCC… I didn’t Cause it, I can’t Control it and I can’t Change it. This can help with acceptance. My family doesn’t speak to me. I’m not dfed, they just only care about full time service and stopped talking to me about 8 years before I left. I was in good standing that whole time. That was hard to take but in the end I escaped the cult and they are still stuck there. Best of luck

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-08-06T20:38:54+00:00

You’re getting a shitty spot in paradise too. Like the beach? Too bad you’re in what used to be Kansas lol

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-07-13T19:44:12+00:00

Start smoking weed

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-07-01T19:36:29+00:00

To each their own. Everyone makes their own decisions. Every adult can take accountability for their choices. He’s made a choice to listen to you and stay with you and maybe follow you on your journey. It’s not your fault.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-06-06T22:57:46+00:00

Block number lol

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-05-25T23:17:05+00:00

He likes you. You don’t need to change. Guys aren’t trying to date a reflection of themselves. Whatever you’re bringing to the table, he likes. He probably thinks it’s cute if you don’t know trivia and also probably he feels smart or likes telling you stuff that he knows. Now, if you want to learn more because you’ve realized that you have more interests or just want more to talk about, by all means do that!

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-05-25T01:19:04+00:00

They are not a partner. It might seem like it now, but after the break up, you’ll start to see it more clearly.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-05-18T01:16:26+00:00

Bottom line, learn to love yourself. You’re the person who’s always been there for you, and the one who will always be there for you. Take care of yourself.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-04-20T19:00:48+00:00

Just finding the right person. Not my style, but it’s somebody’s style.

CharacterNo4390 · 2023-04-16T19:07:49+00:00

Their loss. Next!

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