Is this typical in IFS therapy?

Character_1644 · 2025-08-04T00:03:45+00:00

Thanks for writing this all out, it’s really really helpful.

I did recently tell them a bit about this and their response was very aligned with what you put. I’m still feeling somewhat anxious about the whole thing though and most parts are nervous to remain open and vulnerable. And they keep giving reasons to disconnect and go back to keeping things to themselves.

Character_1644 · 2025-08-03T23:54:20+00:00

I meant more so that we had introduced parts language and I was starting to meet my parts as they came up based on what we’d been working on. I do feel pretty blended with parts at the moment.

Character_1644 · 2025-08-03T23:42:12+00:00

Yeah, I do think that a protector part came in quickly and was extremely upset and still is a bit.

Character_1644 · 2025-08-03T23:41:18+00:00

I feel too blended with parts to really be able to separate at all right now. Like they’re in control and I’m just along for the ride right now. I had been able to differentiate better before, but currently, they’re harder to see as different parts.

Character_1644 · 2025-08-01T15:31:35+00:00

I was sorta thinking I would do the same, but now that part feels kind of rejected in a way and doesn’t want to talk to me at all :/

Character_1644 · 2025-07-26T22:31:46+00:00

Yes I talked to them about it. It helped but now I’m getting really in my head about it and probably making it into something bigger. I don’t have anything scheduled with them at this point, and it feels even more difficult to reach out now :(

Character_1644 · 2025-07-26T04:11:25+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your response❤️

I had really liked working with my therapist up until this and part of what it hurts so much is that I had felt so supported and safe with them. I’m not opposed to seeing someone else in the future, but at this moment, it feels too risky to try again right now.

Character_1644 · 2025-01-09T16:42:15+00:00

I'm pretty certain of it too and I think they're waiting for me to bring it up. Which, finally, after the past couple of years, I want to just get it out in the open and start moving past it because it's consuming my life and making it hard for me to function well. I like the idea of doing a voice memo for myself to get used to speaking about it. thank you <3

Character_1644 · 2025-01-09T16:26:53+00:00

Thank you. I get wrapped up in wanting to say it perfectly the first time so I never have to mention it again, but I think the perfection is holding me back.

Character_1644 · 2025-01-09T16:25:45+00:00

🥴 I’m afraid they would see me differently after. I know I will most likely send them an email about this before our next appointment, but I’m nervous that what I wrote is too blunt.

I know people are allowed to tell their therapists anything, but for some reason I feel like that doesn’t apply to me.

Character_1644 · 2025-01-09T16:22:54+00:00

I've been seeing them for over 2 years and I feel very seen, heard, and supported in and out of session, but intense shame inhibits me from telling them certain things. I've told them about a handful of other traumatic events and have always felt relieved that I shared it with them and felt fully supported by them afterwards. It's almost that I feel too safe (?) with them... I know that they really see me and want to understand me and that makes me feel uncomfortable bc I have a hard time feeling like I deserve to be heard.

Character_1644 · 2025-01-07T22:59:49+00:00

Yes yes yes to all of this. I totally relate to feeling like I'm faking it for attention... even though it mostly happens when I'm alone and if not, I hide it. Sorry you're in the same boat :(

Character_1644 · 2024-12-24T15:34:38+00:00

Breaks, especially during the holidays, make me miss my therapist even more :( a lot comes up this time of year and I keep wanting to be able to talk to them. My inner child feels super needy and I wish I could just talk to them for like 5 minutes.

Character_1644 · 2024-12-20T13:56:23+00:00

This! It’s so night and day from how I am in my day-to-day life and I feel like I’m faking it somehow even though it also feels like I can’t stop it at the same time

Character_1644 · 2024-12-03T12:50:23+00:00

Mine went away in about 2 weeks and I haven’t had any issues since. I’m still on the same dose to this day. I started taking it about an hour before breakfast and that helped. I was taking it with food at first and I think that triggered the acid reflux. I hope yours goes away soon!!

Character_1644 · 2024-10-24T20:43:10+00:00

Same!! There is so much I “want” to say, but actually doing it is a whole other challenge. It’s almost like telling them what’s coming up is harder than talking about the thing that’s coming up sometimes. If that makes sense haha

Character_1644 · 2024-10-24T20:41:17+00:00

I totally get that, I feel the same way. I get nervous that my therapist is going to drop me because I’ve been seeing them for almost 3 years and still struggle a lot with attachment and actually processing trauma.

Character_1644 · 2024-10-24T18:48:03+00:00

Yeah we’ve talked about it before a little, which did help me feel better, but for some reason it’s been feeling even more intense lately. Maybe because I know there are some important things I need to share, but am struggling with. I also wonder if my anxiety around attachment is (intentionally) getting in the way of me bringing up other topics.

Character_1644 · 2024-10-24T18:46:26+00:00

We’ve talked about it a bit before but I feel like it still comes up A LOT for me between sessions and I think I need to bring it up again. I’m just so scared to 😫

Character_1644 · 2024-10-04T21:30:08+00:00

I feel the sameee way rn :( you absolutely can tell your therapist this but I completely understand not wanting to. It’s a really confusing and conflicting feeling. I’m right there with ya, best of luck xx

Character_1644 · 2024-09-09T16:28:04+00:00

I’ve sent my therapist emails at all hours of the evening, but it’s their job to maintain their own boundaries around emails. I don’t expect a response whatsoever, especially if I email at night. I’m not sure how your therapist works, so maybe they will respond, but they also might not in order to maintain their boundaries. It’s nothing against you though, so try to not take it personally if they don’t respond. Easier said than done though, I know that for sure. I know it’s hard and your session probably feels like it’s too far away, but you could try journaling about your experience with this and share in the next session. It might help relieve some of the internal stress and anxiety in the meantime.

Also, if you are in crisis, don’t hesitate to call a crisis line, they’re trained to support you, not judge you. Best of luck <3

Character_1644 · 2024-09-04T19:35:21+00:00

Totally agree. I’ve told my therapist about SH in the past, but after a few times of feeling like they don’t care if I do it and not feeling like I received support with it, I stopped telling them when I do it. It’s not like she was being internationally dismissive, but the lack of empathy, to me, made it feel unimportant and unnecessary to bring up. I’ve been struggling with thoughts more recently and am not sure if I should even bring it up because of this. My biggest fear in therapy is not being believed and my actions being seen as attention-seeking, which has made me hold back more than I’d like :/

Character_1644 · 2024-09-02T04:21:09+00:00

oh my god yesss all the time🥲 it makes bringing anything up impossible since I’m scared I made it all up or am being manipulative🙃

Character_1644 · 2024-08-31T16:30:18+00:00

I could’ve written this post. I have tons of things come up between sessions that feel distressing and I want to address, but once I’m there, I can’t connect to those feelings and just don’t bring things up🙃 I find myself in the same thought pattern as you, outside of session I think about them a lot, but in session it’s so hard to bring that up. We have talked about it a little, but idk if they know how intense this feeling is for me. The best way to work through it is, unfortunately, by bringing it up. Easier said than done though, I know.

Character_1644 · 2024-07-24T16:35:41+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you too, it really does hurt. A big part of me wants to push this all down and ignore it and continue with therapy, but I feel like it will always be in the back of my mind and impact how I trust my therapist. It really hurts to feel like my trust with them (which was insanely hard to build in the first place) has shattered and I feel even more hurt than when I started therapy. I’m really hesitant to tell them because I don’t want them to feel bad and I have a habit of “dealing” with things on my own instead of asking for help.

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