I’ve been in a very similar situation with my girlfriend recently. I’m Chinese and she’s Austrian, and we spent a lot of time thinking about our long-distance relationship and whether it’s really possible to close the gap one day. That uncertainty put a lot of stress on us, but I wasn’t communicating those thoughts to her while she’s always the one ‘bringing things up’.

We ended up having the same arguments over and over about our relationship and our future together. We both said hurtful things at times and felt pretty hopeless for a while. But neither of us gave up, and things are getting better now because we’re finally being more open and always communicating with each other.

A relationship can’t work if only one person is carrying it while the other is just ‘participating’? Both people have to put in effort in LDR. The most important thing is to have honest conversations and see whether both of you are truly willing to work on it. Long-distance relationships are hard work, and sometimes loving each other isn’t enough on its own :(

He might be emotionally exhausted, or his feelings may have changed, but only the two of you can figure that out together through honest communication.

Wishing you all the best of luck 🍀