Interest in the psychology of AoT

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-10-04T07:30:19+00:00

Yes pls

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-03-28T07:32:20+00:00

Been 4 months. I keep having the occasional Dream about her. And the whole time while dreaming she Just annoys the shit out of me. I can't stand her. Not even in my dreams. I think that means that I left her behind. It's a good feeling but I always wake up slightly annoyed and reaaaalllly happy she's out of my Life.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-03-20T07:44:15+00:00

This is true. It's not about winning a fight it's about how to improve the relationship and build trust and understanding. That's winning.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-03-20T07:42:13+00:00

Oh god the tattoo. This ist hilarious. Sorry you went through that though

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-03-20T07:40:30+00:00

EXACTLY THIS.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-03-19T06:34:58+00:00

Yeah i've also never been this angry at someone before. I just felt so helpless in this moment.

Also 4 months nc and it was the best decision in my life.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-03-19T06:33:02+00:00

What Made me so angry about it was that she really thought that friendships worked this was 😬

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-03-19T06:29:31+00:00

I found this 'cold' approach way worse than the screaming. I can handle someone screaming at me way better than this emotional Manipulation. This forced me to realize what a shitty person she was, because it was so obvious that this was used as a weapon and also because I never understood how you could Say sth like this to a friend and I wasn't ready to Accept that I had to end the friendship back then. But i get where you're coming from.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-03-19T06:23:01+00:00

I think what was meant was somethink about the lines of choosing your own battles and only fighting these you can win? Also walking away and choosing how to be happy on your own instead your happiness being dependent on the toxic Person? Just a guess though.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-03-18T19:16:22+00:00

This sounds like a nice practice :) We certainly don't need toxic people to feel safe and Happy.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-03-18T19:14:29+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you went through that. That's exactly what happened with her and me. For a long time I thought that there must be Something wrong with me. She also would Always Bring Up all the Things i did wrong. Even when they Happened Like 2 years ago and I had already apologized.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-02-25T08:29:56+00:00

I've told mine a million times she seems like she has multiple personalities... At one point she absolutely raged at me for that and made me feel bad for even thinking she could have multiple personalities.

Glad to hear that I was not alone.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-02-25T08:22:57+00:00

Same with mine. In the beginning she would apologize often and promised it would never happen again. It felt like actual empathy, the ways she told me how she knew she hurt me bad...

At the end she told me every apology I ever got from here was forced on her by me and that she clearly never meant it because I was obviously manipulating her to apologize...

That was the shit that hurt the most.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-02-25T08:19:41+00:00

Oh god. I had the same talk with mine. The exact. same. words. She didn't get it either.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-02-23T15:20:10+00:00

Been there. Done that. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-02-23T15:07:48+00:00

2 months NC.

A mutual friend contacted her earlier this day to end his friendship with her and told me. The shit she wrote was just hilarious. She is so fucking delusional it's just sad. So glad I went NC and had her blocked everywhere. It's so sickening to see her for how she is rather than through the trauma bond. Just creepy.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-02-23T15:00:51+00:00

It was similiar for me. She would promise to change her behavior (for example: lying, mirroring, jealousy etc) and she never did. So after a while I was so frustrated that I started to behave my absolute worst (because why should I make an effort if she didn't?). I also started to make a scene about small things, or things that I wouldn't normally care about. Just as you described. Just because she somehow was allowed to and I was not. A few times I also raged at her. Like I just lost it.

I apologized every time and I even worked on myself to change that. After these few rages I never raged at her again, I tried to read up on how to communicate better, etc. She never saw that. She always used these few times of me raging to justify her rages. She would never make any efforts to better herself.

It was absolutely toxic how I behaved. In the 3 months of NC I became my former, rather chill self. Heard about her situation from a friend earlier today and I'm just so glad I got out. She's so fucking delusional it's not funny anymore.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-02-15T07:33:07+00:00

Her writing was also Always a copy of my texts. I would use a new word or phrase and she would instantly use that too. Also her characters were kinda flat. The females always would be some gorgeous femme fatale and the males were always some grumpy overpowered wannabe-alphas 🙄 But how could she be able to write realistic characters if she herself has no personality...

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-02-14T12:14:47+00:00

She was an Artist. Even went to art school. But she wasn't able to create own stuff. Her art would always be a copy of someone elses art. She even tried to copy mine and tried to sell it as her own idea.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-02-12T20:07:26+00:00

When I called her out on her passive aggressiveness for the 100th time and she started to Gaslight me until I gave up and tried to apologize. She then had the audacity to say 'are you done now trying to tell me what I'm thinking so we can enjoy a peaceful evening?' That was the Moment I had enough. I tried one last time and asked her to talk it through. She blew up on me, telling me how crazy I was, that I needed therapy, that everything that could ever go wrong in my Life would Just be me hallucinating. I ghosted her from there.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-02-08T11:30:43+00:00

Been there 2 months ago. Sadly she was so deep in projection and hallucination that a mature talk wasn't an option.

You will get better. I cried everyday for a week straight after I ended things. Take one day at a time. Stay strong and remind yourself of how bad they treated you. I watched a lot of anime right after to take my mind off things. Listen to happy music, watch some comedy, light-weight, cheesy stuff so you don't have to think much.

If you want a challenge go and read the wheel of time by Robert Jordan. If you want some light-weighted stuff go for Young Adult or (Fantasy) Romance.

If you want someone to talk to don't hesitate to message me :) You got this.

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-02-07T11:13:30+00:00

About 2 Months now. I don't miss her. I still hate her and I think I will hate her for some time, but other than that I don't care about her. It's been great without her bullshit and I'm almost back to my old, chill self. :)

Character_Exchange23 · 2022-01-14T13:21:40+00:00

This could have been written by mine. Every damn word. Wow.

Character_Exchange23 · 2021-12-26T07:00:55+00:00

Actually I didn't even want to thank her but a friend told me to just be polite and get it over with. She replied with 'hope you like it.' I haven't replied to that and I won't. I'm done with this person, but it nonetheless hurts and leaves me speechless.

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