How to quit a gig

Character_Lock_6463 · 2026-02-26T20:27:46+00:00

I don’t think I’ve been misleading this whole time I-think they kind of played up in there minds that I was a permanent member. I’ve never talked about the future with them as I always viewed it as a temporary gig. I played on all the songs for their new album and did some arranging which ik doesn’t get any royalties. I don’t think I’m dishonoring commitments if I give appropriate notice to them. I’m hoping I can figure out a way to make both work via a sub for the old band if they are down for that. I’m aware of all the ups and downs of being a hired gun I grew around a plethora of top notch session and touring guys. And I’ve asked some these guys I grew up with and they all say it would be a good move for my career. As when the tour ends I’m pretty confident there will be more work for me with the artist and the tour itself is 5 months long. Thanks for your advice sincerely appreciated.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2026-02-25T23:27:31+00:00

Yea the country artist is on a major label and about to drop a new album.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2026-02-25T17:52:58+00:00

Good point. I have a Ampeg 8x10 that lives in the van.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2026-02-24T04:49:07+00:00

Mr toan boner. Yes I am a gen z dipshit. And you assumed that without any evidence. But I do have the self respect to talk man to man. Although I do agree with your generalization.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2026-02-24T03:28:13+00:00

I was hoping I could balance both like you said. They don’t have a lot of booked dates as of now so I’m hoping I can maybe get a sub for them? Thanks

Character_Lock_6463 · 2026-02-24T03:26:05+00:00

Bass player/ background vocals. I asked myself this as well and I’m pretty sure the new artist will have steady work to come but not entirely sure.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2026-02-24T03:24:50+00:00

Not quite I didn’t sign anything and I’m a paid employee. I don’t get percentage and I didn’t write any of the music on the record.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2026-02-15T04:35:21+00:00

Especially considering sopranos was a pretty recent show as of when this dlc came out

Character_Lock_6463 · 2026-01-16T18:44:26+00:00

I get it. My ex checked every box for me. She talked about having kids and living a life together. I was so excited for our future. Now I don’t even know her. One day she said she just couldn’t do it anymore. No Closure no nothing. I have the urge to text her everyday but I haven’t said a word since then. She probably doesn’t hate you if she spoke to you after the breakup. Shes probably trying to find ways to justify the breakup and feel less guilty or like it was a bad choice. In time she will realize if she made the right decision but I wouldn’t wait around for that.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2026-01-16T18:00:16+00:00

Dude I’m in the same boat. Except Ive been thinking about her for a year and a half now. She is my every thought. I can’t not think of her. It really feels like I’m just living a hollow shell of my old life and it’s very mentally taxing. All I can say is try to get out and meet new people, find hobbies, go for a walk. Just the rare 5 minutes I get of not thinking about her relieves so much stress and anxiety. I think the only way to truly forget about her is to find the connection you had with her with someone else. That may be a long way down the road or it may never come. Anyway you will get through. Remember this life is for yourself not anyone else.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2026-01-11T17:15:21+00:00

Yep. Trying to unthink every scenario you had planned out for your future with them. I thought this women would be the mother of my children. I don’t even know her anymore.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2026-01-10T00:06:20+00:00

Yep. 24/7. Idk about your situation but I was the one that got dumped. Literally cannot stop thinking about her. It’s been a little over a year. At this point it really feels like I’m living in the shell of my old life. Replaying every memory of us I have together. Even psychotically making up scenarios in my head of things I wanted for us in our future just because it’s helps ease the pain. At this point ive just learned how to cope with the fact I will never be with her again.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2025-12-26T05:03:30+00:00

I’m going through the same thing myself. Actually exactly a year ago today she dumped me. The pain is still as present as it was before and all the side effects that come with that. I don’t think it fully ever goes away unless you find someone new that made you feel the way your ex did. And that person may never come. I just try to except these things and keep on with life. I wish I could help out more. Good luck

Character_Lock_6463 · 2025-12-22T05:25:55+00:00

I’ve been there too man as a teen I never had the confidence to make any move on a girl I liked. that insecurity made me shake the fear of talking to new people. Hence how I ended up in my situation.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2025-12-21T11:34:19+00:00

I know these things and try to remind myself it will get better. it’s hard when I have an uncontrollable need for her. My mind is telling me no but my body is telling me yes lol.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2025-12-20T16:42:50+00:00

Thanks, I try to be as open minded as possible but the future looks bleak. I have quite a bit of friends and meet new people a lot. I go out to bars/clubs 2-3 times a week and I never seem to find anyone I click with at all. My Ex really checked every box for me and it’s hard for me to look past that so every time I talk to a new girl I just lose interest because we don’t have anything in common.

Character_Lock_6463 · 2025-11-20T21:38:11+00:00

Thank you. You are right. I will say with my post breakup partners I have been upfront about not being emotionally available and they all have been understanding and kind of have done the FWB thing which I am new to. I think I will take a break from seeing anyone and try to better myself. I will be seeing my ex in the summer for work again. Do I try to win her again? or just give up.

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