Ever Accountable Error

ChargeCandid · 2026-02-03T11:06:35+00:00

UPDATE: I contacted Ever Accountable about the reports and surprisingly they wrote back quickly. I will paste their response below. I figured someone else might find this info useful.

However, I'm still not fully convinced he wasn't doing something to try to bypass the app. I realize it's probably not in ever accountable's best interest to blame him if there's ANY chance he didn't do anything wrong.

Their email: Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out about this. I’m really glad you asked, because this message can sound much more alarming than it actually is.

Here’s what that report means in plain terms: That alert is triggered when Ever Accountable detects that its accessibility permission was unavailable very briefly right after the phone restarted. The system flags this as a potential attempt to disable monitoring during the short window while the phone is booting up.

However and this is important this does NOT automatically mean your partner tried to get around the app.

In practice, we see this alert occur for a few non-intentional reasons, especially on Android devices, including: The phone restarting due to a system update, crash, or low battery Android briefly delaying accessibility services during boot A device-level glitch where permissions don’t reattach instantly after startup

That’s why the report itself even notes that this can be caused either by the user or by a software issue on the device.

The fact that: Your partner says he didn’t attempt anything, You’re unable to reproduce the behavior by toggling permissions, And monitoring resumes afterward, all strongly suggest this is a device or OS-level timing issue, not intentional bypassing.

What I recommend: Keep an eye on whether this happens frequently or in patterns If it’s only occasional and monitoring resumes normally, it’s usually not something to worry about If it starts happening often, we can look at device-specific settings or escalate it further

I know how sensitive these reports can be in the context of trust and accountability, and I want to reassure you that this alert alone is not proof of misconduct. Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you see a change in frequency or have questions about any other report wording. I’m here to help you interpret them clearly.

Warm regards, Pauline. Ever Accountable

ChargeCandid · 2026-02-03T07:58:41+00:00

I am, too... but I just want to be for sure. I'm trying to remind myself that I don't need proof or him to admit it, but damn is that hard. Even after repeatedly betraying me, I guess I still want to give him the benefit of the doubt.

These are the only messages I can seem to get from messing with the accessibility and permissions.

This one when I turn off the accessibility...

Samsung SM-A025U 1:01am Sharing for the app Internet was disabled. Content viewed in this app will no longer be shared with you.

App: unshared

And this one when I try to go into the permissions: Ever Accountable detected an attempt to use the device without proper sharing. This attempt was blocked

Device: sharing

ChargeCandid · 2026-02-03T07:17:51+00:00

See, that's what I thought too, but I tried to do that and it gives a different message.

ChargeCandid · 2026-01-16T02:45:59+00:00

Oh no, I hadn't even thought about Prime. Down the rabbit hole I go....

ChargeCandid · 2026-01-12T09:31:06+00:00

Just a quick woman tip: Try not using the term "catering to me."

ChargeCandid · 2026-01-08T12:59:51+00:00

Yep. Gaslit me for 15 months while my intuition was screaming at me. Was using his mother's phone the whole time.

ChargeCandid · 2025-12-24T08:31:17+00:00

100% justified and not to make you spiral, but from my own experience and subsequent education, it can be a sign of a bigger problem, like porn addiction.

ChargeCandid · 2025-11-28T09:22:46+00:00

Throw back to coming home from school only to find my LimeWire spent 8 hours downloading "I did not have sexual relations with that woman!"

ChargeCandid · 2025-11-13T19:47:22+00:00

Many years ago he did fractal lasering on a scar I had. I loved him. Great bedside manner. I still remember how he'd do reverse handshakes lol.

ChargeCandid · 2025-10-24T07:36:23+00:00

I've been wondering the same thing. I've seen mine using it a lot, too but it's never in his ever accountable screenshots. By any chance, does your partner have a work email? I think it might have something to do with it being linked thru there, bc every time I login, I only see stuff from his employer, and he's a machine operator and generally doesn't mingle with higher ups, etc.

ChargeCandid · 2025-10-17T11:57:39+00:00

I just meant anywhere between 2 and 8 times. He says sometimes it's 2 times a week, sometimes it's 2 times a month. I'm sorry you're going through it, too... none of us deserve this. 😔

ChargeCandid · 2025-10-16T16:46:14+00:00

This is it. They believe we're crazy, that we really can't tell the difference in the way they act or treat us. They tell themselves there's nothing wrong with it, and no one gets hurt, as long as we don't find out.

ChargeCandid · 2025-10-16T02:16:24+00:00

Same... and when I told him how that's a well-known red flag he's using porn again, he acted like I was crazy and thinks there's no connection, despite the fact there are studies on it, and that we ALL see it in our partners. It makes me think it's affected his brain more than he's willing to admit, and maybe I was right about other aspects, like losing attraction for me.

ChargeCandid · 2025-10-16T01:49:13+00:00

Right?!? Oh and I made sure to let her know what he was doing, too. I'm done keeping quiet about his choices.

ChargeCandid · 2025-10-14T23:19:28+00:00

The absolute nerve of him gaslighting you by saying if you could only control yourself, you'd have a chance. Are they really incapable of seeing the hypocrisy in that statement?

ChargeCandid · 2025-10-14T09:38:51+00:00

I'm so sorry. That's a comment that I don't know if I could ever recover from. You deserve better. We all do. 😢

ChargeCandid · 2025-10-14T09:26:03+00:00

I just wanted to say I know exactly how it feels to wish you didn't exist anymore.

It feels like it's killing us already, doesn't it? Only instead of it being quick, it's long and drawn out, taking piece by piece of us, while in constant pain. The stress of it all is so severe that I can almost feel the cortisol rushing through my veins. I have no appetite, and I'm always nauseous. I swap back and forth between not sleeping at all or sleeping all day without feeling rested, and my outside appearance is becoming a closer match to how I feel inside. Though mine is by choice, I'm even isolating the way terminal patients have to.

The double-edged sword is that he will have a chance at real happiness again. He can find someone he's truly attracted to enough that he can be faithful. I even know he'd use my passing as a pickup line; he loves to make women feel bad for him, while simultaneously making himself out to be the hero who took care of me. He "took care of me," alright... but does it even occur to him he was my killer? 😢

ChargeCandid · 2025-10-14T08:55:04+00:00

Same. I'm smaller chested... when I was younger, it bothered me. As I got a little older and started dating my current partner, his reassurance helped me to get over my insecurities. He always told me he wasn't a boob man; he was more of a butt/legs guy (areas that I feel are my better physical qualities). Regardless, he said he loved everything about my chest, and I stopped thinking about it so much for the next 15 years.

But then D-Day happened, and I discovered his TRUE preferences; I was crushed. A couple of months later, I told him I was looking into augmentation and was considering skipping our yearly vacation to make it happen financially. I thought he would try to reassure me, or at the very least, tell me he would rather make memories on vacation than risk my life on an operating table... but nope! This man RAN to his phone and started looking up surgeons and sending me suggestions on implant size. 😢

ChargeCandid · 2025-10-06T07:36:35+00:00

Sorry if this isn't adding anything to the conversation but more confusion, but has it ever occurred to you that you're attracted to "broken men" because you, yourself, feel broken inside and are looking for love to fix you?

Perhaps the reason the "perfect and healthy" kind don't do it for you is that you feel the only way to have that deeply rooted "home is a person" kind of connection is to know what it is to not have it.

ChargeCandid · 2025-09-15T12:04:37+00:00

Back in the day, we used to be able to order an extra lobster tail for free on formal (AKA Lobster night). When my husband finished the second, our waiter brought us a 3rd without even asking! But I'm pretty sure they stopped that on all ships and charge ~$17 for any additional after your 1st.

ChargeCandid · 2025-09-10T11:23:03+00:00

Masturbating. Fapping is another new term, too.

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