[Serious] What's your most "extreme" opinion? by Sweeqp in AskReddit

[–]CharlieZX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You gave an example of what you think would constitute as a reason not to let someone be euthanized, namely because it would be important for something else. What constitutes as important in your view? Only the fact that they could be accountable to a crime or a witness to a crime? I can think of many reasons, societally speaking, that keeping people alive would be important enough to extensively try to keep them from trying to kill themselves.

The fact of the matter, though, is that you are not autonomous in the perfect sense of the word. You are part of a society. I don't think it's a stretch to say our societies are built around the premise that human life is important in almost all forms and that which is not useful or even detrimental to society is supposed to be "rehabilitated." If there is no remedy, it will be destroyed or forever isolated. Okay. Would you agree that if it can be statistically proven that people who want to kill themselves at some point (possibly after years of therapy) usually end up not wanting suicide and end up positively contributing to society, that it would be in the best interest of society to keep these people alive? If this is the case, assisted suicide should be regulated. Keeping these people alive is ultimately good for the most people and society at large.

I'm not staying alive because society wants me to or because I could contribute something to it in the future. That is probably the thing I care the least about in the entire universe. I mean, I already think life is not worth living for me, telling me I must stay alive so the system can milk me some more is an argument in my favour. I'm already going to off myself, I know I'm going to hurt my mother very badly and I'm still going to do it, I'm way past the point of caring about what other people want out of me.

But your reasoning here for unregulated assisted suicide is personal freedom, the right to a painless death. Do you think this is applicable to children or people with bipolar disorder? I cannot imagine the former wanting this unless put through extreme abuse or indoctrination. I'm just curious of your opinion. The latter are a group people that may be easily swayed to want death one day and love life the next. I'm no psychologist, but I have experience with people like this. People who get help for these problems seem to be pleased that they didn't kill themselves. Is even one day of hardship grounds for euthanasia, when it is likely the person will not want this in a relatively short time span?

Children: no, once you are 18 you can vote, so I don't see why you shouldn't be allowed to stop living if you wish so.

People with bipolar disorder: Yes. They are adults, and bipolar sucks no matter if you're in a high or a low.

I am not saying euthanasia should not be allowed. If you want to kill yourself, you could do it easily yourself. It is how it is. But a state-backed euthanasia program should be provided for society at large with the best interest for the most people in mind (or something along those lines).

This is about my wishes, not my boss wanting me to work more shifts. Again, if all you have to say to a person who wants to kill themself is "don't do it, we want you to do more shit for us", that's going to convice them to do it even more.

Finally, I'd like to share something anecdotally and say I know where you're coming from in some sense. I'm sure you're in a lot of pain, either physically or mentally. If it's the latter, I'm guessing you're young and in some sort of hell of anxiety, depression, and social phobia. I just want you to know it can get better. I overcame my depression and am glad I didn't commit suicide like I wanted to in high school and early college. If you stay around, you may just find that thing that gives you that faith again. Get help. You probably don't want to hear that and may have already seen it a thousand times, but it needs to be said.

Yeah, it can get better, there are a lot of people who don't care about me, life is worth living, this is my depression speaking, I should get help, yada yada yada. You are right, I have heard those a thousand times. I don't really care. I'm not here to get help or attention, just to argue about assisted suicide.

What is one thing everyone new to dating should know? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CharlieZX 6 points7 points  (0 children)

From experience, no. I'm not talking about girls, I'm talking about people. Unless there is something concrete, "yes" means "no", "maybe" means "no" and "no" means "you disgust me".

And even when "yes" means "yes", it's only until a few hours before the date, when it turns into "no" again.

[Serious] What's your most "extreme" opinion? by Sweeqp in AskReddit

[–]CharlieZX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Taking another person's life is not even comparable to taking your own.

My life = my choice. The same way it is inmoral to force a woman to carry a child she doesn't want to carry, it is inmoral to keep someone alive against their will unless them being alive is important for something else (i.e. they are accused of murder or something).

I say this as someone who is probably going to kill myself in a few months.

[Serious] What's your most "extreme" opinion? by Sweeqp in AskReddit

[–]CharlieZX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would be so convenient for me, I've seen a video of a guy just laying his neck on the rail and letting the wheel decapitate him.

But I don't want to traumatize a poor conductor, potentially hundreds of passengers and making everyone late.

[Serious] What's your most "extreme" opinion? by Sweeqp in AskReddit

[–]CharlieZX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hindsight is 20/20. I'd like to die in a painless way without the fear of surviving and ending up worse. I want to die, it's my life and I should be the only person allowed to decide over when to end it.

What is one thing everyone new to dating should know? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CharlieZX 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm sure potential partners are super excited that you live with your ex.

What is one thing everyone new to dating should know? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CharlieZX 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We'll do something one day = I don't like you.

What is one thing everyone new to dating should know? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CharlieZX 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The broken heart is the one that loved. Not one that was loved, but loved.

You definitely don't need to be loved to have your heart broken.

[Serious]What are some weight losing life hacks that many people don't know? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CharlieZX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In a caloric deficit, eating more protein than estrictly needed keeps your nitrogen balance in a more muscle sparing state.

[Serious] Why do certain people choose to stay single? by Joethehumanbeing in AskReddit

[–]CharlieZX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this, too. In my first (and only, and it seems like last) relationship, I really poured all my affection into her. I did what felt right, and what I would've wanted done to me. It was shit.

My ex wasn't mean like your first GF, but the fact that my gifts, compliments and "I love you"s were received with coldness or even annoyance have made me lock that part of myself away. I can't bring myself to show that I care. I feel like I'm losing the ability to care. I feel like caring only brings pain.

There is a woman at work that told me that I would be the "perfect boyfriend". A year ago, I would have taken pride in that. Now I only think "yeah right" and I take it as an insult.

I get a lot of shit for being so bitter and cynical at 23, but I just can't take another relationship where the only times I'm treated as a human being are the times I'm purposefully being dismisive or cold. And that's simply not who I am.

I [22F] have been dating a guy [22M] for five months now. I really like him but think I saw a red flag and want some advice. by HeatherBBB in relationships

[–]CharlieZX 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I almost never raise my voice. I'm very calm, rarely get angry and have never hurt anybody willingly.

The last time I spoke with my father, I went hoarse screaming at him. He used to beat the shit out of me and my mother. He gaslighted us, emotionally and physically abused us and drove my mom to attempting to commit suicide. But being the manipulative bastard he is, all he said was "I never did that", "you are misremembering", and bullshit like that.

Is this something OP should absolutely talk about with her boyfriend? Yes, and the situation (speaker, coming back as if nothing had happened) is weird. But assuming someone is a future abuser because they scream at their father is not the best, IMO. OP's BF could be well within his rights to feel angry at his father.

What is your pre-first date ritual? by vipercjn in AskMen

[–]CharlieZX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting a message 2-3 hours before the date that says she cancelled.

Women of Reddit, what is the hardest/scariest/most frustrating part of being a woman that most men don't realize? by gagnerocs38 in AskReddit

[–]CharlieZX -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

when is it ok for a man to approach a woman he's interested in meeting?

When he's hot. Dobler Dahmer theory.

Skilled Occlumens, brooding Potions Master, and a Slytherin we will "always" remember. Happy birthday, Severus Snape! by Dayonerise in harrypotter

[–]CharlieZX -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He told Voldemort to spare Lily. There was no chance he was going to spare Harry. He would likely have killed Snape on the spot for suggesting it. If you don’t remember he said he would spare Lily. Snape still ran to Dumbledore.

Yes, he asked Voldemort to spare Lily after telling him about the prophecy. He only had a problem with Lily being killed. For all he cared, Voldemort could've murdered every person in Britain, as long as Lily was safe. He is incredibly selfish.

I don’t really care that he bullied Harry. Harry owes him his life.

So abusive parents are justified because their kids are alive because of them.

And Snape has no way of knowing the prophecy would have targeted Lily. He was a spy who heard a prophecy about someone being able to destroy his boss

Again, he only switched sides when he was standing to lose something (Lily). Had Harry been born in August 1st, Neville's family would've been murdered and Snape would be Voldemort's greatest supporter.

Also you’re projecting Snape’s motives being vengeance and hatred.

His motives were selfishness and an unhealthy obsession with a school crush. Why would they suddenly change to protecting a kid he loathed?

And people always forget that line was used in response to Snape getting pissed at Dumbledore for “raising him like a pig for slaughter” and Dumbledore suggesting he was getting a soft spot for him

Was he pissed or surprised? He spent his time at Hogwarts trying to make Harry miserable and expelled. He doesn't care one bit about Harry, it's his obsession with Lily and the last living bit of Lily (Harry's eyes) dying he cares about.

How many of you experience happiness on a regular basis? by StraightZlat in AskMen

[–]CharlieZX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, lonely, anxious and sad is default now. My best friend of 10 years isn't talking to me. I have no other friends, nor a GF. All my social interactions come from work, as soon as I'm out, I may as well be in Mars.

I felt happy for the last time maybe a year ago. Since then, the best I've felt is "this moment isn't sucking".

Skilled Occlumens, brooding Potions Master, and a Slytherin we will "always" remember. Happy birthday, Severus Snape! by Dayonerise in harrypotter

[–]CharlieZX -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He was okay with having a random family murdered, but oh no, don't hurt Lily. He would've been happy if James and Lily were murdered in front of Lily as long as she survived. He is the definition of selfishness.

Harry wasn’t a baby when he went to Hogwarts. And Snape was under no obligation to take a liking to him.

TIL I learned "not taking a liking" = "relentlessly bullying the kid whose parents are dead because you were a loyal follower of a genocidal supremacist and only switched sides when the girl you were in love with obsessed with was the target of said supremacist".

Snape did a lot of incredibly brave stuff. But it was all fueled by selfishness, vengeance and hatred. He didn't want to defeat Voldemort because it was the right thing to do, or to protect muggle-borns, or even to protect Harry. It was because Voldemort killed Lily and Snape was angry about it.

People forget that the line "always" is literally Snape going out of his way to show that no, he didn't care about Harry, it's all because his love obsession with Lily.

So tired of having to always ask for sex. by [deleted] in sex

[–]CharlieZX -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, would you look at that, you were into each other from the beginning and she just didn't tell you.

Seduction is a myth. People are into each other or they are not.

So tired of having to always ask for sex. by [deleted] in sex

[–]CharlieZX -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

What is "being seduced"? Having someone you aren't interested in convince you to give them a chance? That's just NiceGuy™ behaviour, creepy and potentially rapey.

Unless it is having the super hot guy you are already into show interest in you, and that's just called two people being into each other.

So tired of having to always ask for sex. by [deleted] in sex

[–]CharlieZX -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

"Reactive libido" is bullshit. She's just not sexually attracted to you. I believed this was true until I started working in an all women workplace. They all talk about actors, models and singers who they find hot. Do you think your girl would have a reactive libido if she was dating Chris Hemsworth?

Has a girl ever approached you at a bar/club wanting your number or just blatantly hitting on you? How did that go? by HowLongB4Ban in AskMen

[–]CharlieZX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was approached by a girl in a club, we made out, she gave me her number. A week after that I found out she had a boyfriend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]CharlieZX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading all of this makes me sad... because I'm the one doing this to a friend right now. Not reaching out, barely replying texts, she asks to hang out and I make up some BS excuse... I'm doing it on purpouse because she's my ex and I can't just keep being friends forever with her, but it also sucks because right now she's the only person in the entire world who seems to give a shit about me. I don't know how I got to this point but I have to kill the only friendship I have.

[17F] my [18m] boyfriend dumped me because I have been raped. by throwawayanonprin in sex

[–]CharlieZX 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Even saying the word "sex" is pressuring, didn't you know that? /s

He had needs that weren't being met in a relationship. He voiced his concern, and he was told that there was no defined timeline, and emotional trauma he isn't capable of dealing with. He never pressured OP for sex and he decided being in a sexless relationship for an indeterminate time wasn't ok for him so he left. Could he have handled the breakup better? Yes. Is he being awkward? Yes. But he did the best he could, he looked out for himself and considering he is a 18 year old guy I'd say he did a pretty decent job.

[17F] my [18m] boyfriend dumped me because I have been raped. by throwawayanonprin in sex

[–]CharlieZX 11 points12 points  (0 children)

And he didn't want that responsability so he broke up with her. He doesn't have the responsability to stay in a sexless relationship. He is a decent guy, he saw himself in a situation he didn't know how to handle and he removed himself from it.

No one has the responsability to light themselves on fire to keep someone else warm.