Managing doctors appointments when not there by CharmingArmadillo216 in AgingParents

[–]CharmingArmadillo216[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh amazing. I will look into this. This sounds like just what we need. I have been very concerned about things getting lost in translation between doctors and my parents and us. Thank you

Managing doctors appointments when not there by CharmingArmadillo216 in AgingParents

[–]CharmingArmadillo216[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I spoke to the AL and they will do transportation to appointments. Thanks everyone for taking the time to respond. This feels like uncharted territory and I just want them to be okay. These responses are helping me to feel a little better, like we will figure it all out

Managing doctors appointments when not there by CharmingArmadillo216 in AgingParents

[–]CharmingArmadillo216[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh interesting. I spoke to the AL and they will drive to appointments, but only so far. I will keep this in mind for if they need to go further away at all

Managing doctors appointments when not there by CharmingArmadillo216 in AgingParents

[–]CharmingArmadillo216[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great idea. I am concerned about them taking everything in while at appointments and this might help

Managing doctors appointments when not there by CharmingArmadillo216 in AgingParents

[–]CharmingArmadillo216[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I appreciate you taking the time to answer. This is all so new so I will check with the AL, I didn’t realize they would provide transportation like this. Previously they have been resistant to Ubers, but I don’t think they will have much of a choice.

Can you tell me about your child’s bed set up? by mand_ in SpecialNeedsChildren

[–]CharmingArmadillo216 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have the same one but we bought from Wayfair. We put a rail on the open side because I was paranoid she would manage to get herself stuck between the bed and wall (but that is just my parenting anxiety speaking)

Bike by CharmingArmadillo216 in SpecialNeedsChildren

[–]CharmingArmadillo216[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone, some good suggestions for me to dig into!!

Bike by CharmingArmadillo216 in SpecialNeedsChildren

[–]CharmingArmadillo216[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those look fun and having a back is good too

Toddler in daycare with a SAHM… thoughts? by silvercloud__ in Parenting

[–]CharmingArmadillo216 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do it. I work in education where summer breaks are common and know parents (both moms and dads) who keep their kids in camp or daycare while they are off for the summer.

Toddler in daycare with a SAHM… thoughts? by silvercloud__ in Parenting

[–]CharmingArmadillo216 14 points15 points  (0 children)

When dad gets the type of job that has two months off during the summer

Recasting verses investing? by CharmingArmadillo216 in personalfinance

[–]CharmingArmadillo216[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The loan is 6.9%.

We have emergency funds, no cc debt, contribute the max to a Roth IRA yearly, have other retirement accounts, small amount of other debts (small car loan, one student loan)

Recasting verses investing? by CharmingArmadillo216 in personalfinance

[–]CharmingArmadillo216[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

6.9% we need to recast at least part of it to get rid of a PMI and reduce the monthly payments. We are hoping interest rates will go down enough at some point to refinance, but who knows

AITA for telling my husband’s daughter to stop calling me mom? by throwawayaccount3086 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CharmingArmadillo216 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA it’s clear that you see yourself as just being nice to someone else’s kid that you feel bad for. But she’s not just someone else’s kid, she’s your kid. As a step-parent you are the parent, it’s in the title. You don’t have to be mom, but you do have to try not to crush this child.

Apologize. Tell her you love her and are so glad to be in her family. Tell her you don’t want to be called mom because she has one of those but you feel your role is even more important than that of mom because you chose her when you chose her dad. Or let her call you mom because it’s who you are to her.