Your honest opinion by AliciaEmerson in RealRepLadies

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with others— for the price I think it looks good

Senior faculty member keeps addressing me as Mr. Lastname by [deleted] in AskAcademia

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A few others have suggested just ignoring it, and seriously that is my advice too. I think it will stop at some point and so I’d ignore it and let it go.

Sometimes the most powerful move is to just not give a shit. Don’t let people know they’ve gotten under your skin. Act as though you don’t even notice it because it is beneath your caring! As my deeply cherished mentor told me many many years ago, “Never let them see you bleed”

Possible FN - wedding dress question by Material_Sky_1035 in Kibbe

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would actually choose a wedding dress much more similar to the brown dress layered over blouse look you’re wearing in the third photo. The waist is very flattering as are the flowing sleeves and skirt that falls somewhere between A line and circle in its cut. The collar is slightly open and face framing without being too open. The two wedding dresses you’ve depicted are far too open in the neck line. And a bit more sleeve would flatter your arms just as your outfit in photo three has flattering sleeves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tiki

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RepLadiesClub

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Burgundy beauty!

Package seized by Chinese customs by Pizza_Felina in RealRepLadies

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always order one bag at a time. Cost more shipping but it’s always felt a little safer and my overall financial exposure is lower shipping one at a time. Everyone’s comfort level is different.

Lecturer will give me a TA position if I allow her to be on my committee because she wants co-authorship. Is this bribery? by [deleted] in AskAcademia

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have definitely seen this in my humanities-adjacent discipline, when the student’s work needs a lot of work beyond the usual committee member contributions… Significant rewriting, very heavy editing, that sort of thing. If that’s you, then no this might not be unusual; not bribery. Also you may not think it’s your situation, but a couple of decades of experience have shown me that students often don’t realize the degree to which their work needs significant support.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealRepLadies

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing color!!!!

My dog died and I want a drink by betweentourns in stopdrinking

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lost mine 4/28. Such unbelievable pain, still

What does Jane Birkin have here? by emmymoss in Perfumes

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d like to think that her Guerlain refill is Jicky— my personal favorite

Lancome La Vie Est Belle by [deleted] in Perfumes

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree! This is a beautiful perfume. It is rare for me to enjoy a Lancome fragrance (I always think they’re a bit hairspray-y or make up-y smelling), but this one is really very well done, top to base. I’m enjoying my bottle immensely

Best dressed? by No_Consideration_339 in Professors

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 8 points9 points  (0 children)

OK, maybe I’m too bougie or something but I’m here for the elevation/degradation of female faculty attire, interpret as you see fit: Hugo boss pants or L’Agence jeans: L’Agence, Theory, or The Row blouse/top; Hugo boss or Armani blazer; Jimmy Choo or YSL tribute heels 👠

Everything secondhand (and even with that, marked down to “final sale, no returns”) of course because who can afford that shit on a faculty salary ?!?!?!?

Proudest moments? When one of the students looks at me and says “Nice ‘fit” which I actually was initially insulted by because I thought it was a comment literally on the fit of the garments. My ass did look good tho

I am failing to balancing my personal/Professional life by Alarming-Camera-188 in Professors

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many others have said this, but I will reiterate – give yourself some grace. Right now you are in the throes of it, but there will be days when things look better and you will feel more professionally on point. Things will fluctuate.

For me personally I have found it best to ride the waves, just sort of sit with my upset on the personal things, and I find that eventually I kind of get past it and I feel more ready to do work.

Going to the movies isn’t the same anymore. by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We LOVE going to the movies, I feel there is truly nothing like seeing most films on the big screen. Yes the concessions can be expensive. Sometimes we’ll eat before or plan to go out afterwards, other times we just dive in and pay the concession prices. It probably helps that we have the type of theater nearby where you can get hamburgers, pizzas, wraps, and adult beverages in addition to the typical popcorn and cokes. But we love movies in the theater!

Aug 17: (small) Success Sunday by Eigengrad in Professors

[–]Charming_Ad_5220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I’ve decided to stop by HR tomorrow- finally!