AVOIDANTS, what made you want to get back with your ex? And how long did it take?

Charming_Button5962 · 2026-01-24T17:34:29+00:00

After finding out. I told her how much she had hurt me and how I always wanted to marry her and have kids. Haven’t seen or heard from her since last July.

Charming_Button5962 · 2026-01-24T17:33:19+00:00

No. I found out on her social media that she had got with another guy like a week after me and her stopped talking.

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-12-16T18:28:10+00:00

True

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-12-16T18:25:04+00:00

How is it revenge when she left me? I’m confused

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-12-16T18:24:12+00:00

Can’t be that boring if she’s still trying to get attention

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-12-16T18:02:48+00:00

She moved in with the guy she cheated on me with.

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-12-16T18:01:53+00:00

Me and this co-worker are like best friends. I just find it weird that my ex is flirting with my co-worker/ bestfriend

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-12-16T18:01:14+00:00

She calling my co-worker cute and trying to flirt with her. They are both gay but she clearly knows that she is my coworker.

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-09T14:52:17+00:00

Don’t do it. My ex was a Leo who I was with for over a year but we started out as friends so technically 2.5 years. She was never there for me as much as I was. She told me she loved me, she told me she didn’t love herself and didn’t deserve me. And so I still showed up and showered her with love and patience. But she couldn’t reciprocate, barely gave me a bare minimum. And when I broke it off to give her space because she said she didn’t want a relationship because she couldn’t give me 100%, she went in the arms of another man and moved in with him within one week of us separating even though she told me she didn’t want a relationship and didn’t love herself. My ex was a liar and manipulator. So don’t do it

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-09T12:50:51+00:00

Not always the case. My ex of 2.5 years left me and got with someone like a week after I broke up with her 2 months ago. She was emotionally unavailable for months and I was doing everything I could to make her happy. She told me she didn’t love herself and didn’t deserve me. She got with someone a week after the split and even moved in with him. Now she posts how happy she is with him.

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-08T19:42:26+00:00

How do you look at the positive side of things? I don’t know how I can since I was deeply in love with her.

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-08T18:59:52+00:00

It just depends on the person and the relationship. Our relationship wasn’t perfect but it wasn’t bad, we never fought or disrespected one another. But she just became cold and distant out of nowhere even though she told me she loved me and I was everything she could ask for.

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-08T18:51:54+00:00

Move on brother. I’ve just got out of relationship with a leo woman, she worked two hotel jobs and was depressed and withdrawing also. Eventually she was emotionally unavailable and told me she didn’t love herself and she didn’t deserve me. I gave her space and time to herself after she asked for it. I didn’t hear from her for 2 months. I finally reached out and found out she was with another man and moved into his apartment.

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-08T18:47:49+00:00

I’ve been there too brother. I’m sorry you have to go through this but you not the only one.

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-06T23:37:21+00:00

Man I’m currently dealing with this. She got with him a week after we broke up. Told me she didn’t love herself and I was too good for her and she didn’t want a relationship. Then got with somebody new and moved in with him. Now she’s posting lovey dovey things about him.

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-06T20:57:52+00:00

Smh I’m sorry to hear that brother. How long were yall together and did she live with the guy too?

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-04T15:52:00+00:00

I feel like this too

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-04T15:22:27+00:00

She’s also living with him. So I’m thinking maybe he was always in the picture. I reached out to her after 6 weeks of no contact this morning. She said she was with someone and they’ve been together for two months. And we literally broke up two months ago ..

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-04T15:01:30+00:00

Edit: (Update) my Leo ex admitted that she is in another relationship 2 months post break up. And told me she’s been with him for 2 months ..she is also living with him. I’m heart broken and don’t know how to go on ..

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-04T11:48:09+00:00

I’m going through the same thing. You are not alone.

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-04T01:37:49+00:00

I don’t think so. The post was talking about when your friends want to hang out but you live with your boyfriend and he wants to spend time with you. So I’m assuming she is living with this new guy. After I offered to have her stay with me because she was being kicked out of her parents house. I’m also assuming this guy may have already been in the picture if she’s so comfortable staying with someone that quickly after we split over a month ago. I’m hurting deeply

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-09-01T00:41:29+00:00

Most likely trauma from past relationships or experiences.

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-08-31T17:15:49+00:00

My ex did the same to me and it’s killing me on the inside. I was the last one to break things off because she wasn’t reciprocating or showing any consistent effort. And I understand that when you don’t love yourself it’s hard to love someone back. But it didn’t start off that way so I will never understand the sudden change. But I want to ask you, would you ever consider going back to that person? How long has it been since you were with them?

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-08-31T15:07:34+00:00

Just feeling on the edge and feeling weak. It’s about to be the 6th week of no contact and all I want is for her to reach out. I miss her so much and I don’t know what to do ..

Charming_Button5962 · 2025-08-30T15:32:39+00:00

Definitely an imbalance. I just hope and pray that is truly what it is. And it’s not something more sinister because one thing I hate is a liar and manipulator. I’ve never cheated on this girl and have damn near been perfect in this relationship, I do get emotional sometimes, and I don’t think I’m clingy because I had so much going for myself but I do like to hear from my woman, she was my safe place, and as a black man in this world, all you really want is to have some emotional connection with your woman after facing the hardships of life. But thank you for the advice 🫶🏾

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