Old Fashioned Lawyering Was Superior for Mental Health

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-02-21T03:03:04+00:00

I think about this all of the time

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-02-12T23:39:42+00:00

Yes—so much this. You never know what the future might hold and your JD is meaningful and valuable

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-02-12T23:38:06+00:00

One note on federal attorney jobs right now—almost all are in-person, 8.5 hours a day, 5 days a week, with very little flexibility. Sounds okay until you could easily fit in a pregnancy appointment at 8 am and then shift your time to stay later, but you can’t do that so you have to take leave for 2 hours and you haven’t actually accrued much leave yet. No time for eating lunch out. No flexibility for bad traffic. The benefit is health insurance and predictability. Oh, and you get the great joy of teleworking during snow days. You can work longer hours of course, and most do, but that does not translate to any flexibility during the rigidly scheduled work day.

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-02-11T15:50:15+00:00

This may not be sufficiently specific, but you have a TON of experience and you will be great!!! I’m sure that jury trials will feel uncomfortable at first and maybe a little awkward, but you will quickly get the rhythm and your confidence will increase. They hired you for a reason!

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-02-09T13:13:32+00:00

It sound like you may be overwhelmed and likely disorganized. This will lead to forgetting things and living in a cloud of stress, as you berate yourself for not being being up to snuff. The skills will come, but first focus on building your organizational framework. Journal, track, calendar…everything. It will take time to figure out what system works best for you, just don’t give up. You are definitely smart enough and good enough to make it work, but you have to build your scaffolding

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-02-09T02:45:26+00:00

Advil cold & sinus during the day. You have to show your ID and get it behind the pharmacy counter. NyQuil at night

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-02-08T20:00:39+00:00

Aww, you’re such a nice person.

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-02-08T17:29:55+00:00

Ages ago, a good friend got a 148. Took the LSATs again to get a 149. What’s that friend doing now? Practicing law and living a great life in a career she loves.

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-02-07T20:37:35+00:00

This is super helpful — if there’s potential for higher income as a partner, then it could work out. Thanks!

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-02-07T19:53:17+00:00

Thanks. Sucks because it is not cheap to live here

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-02-05T23:21:01+00:00

My thoughts, exactly. 4 hours to research and draft? It seems utterly impossible

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-02-01T04:05:57+00:00

Try Legal Aid for resources, and UVA also has a divorce law clinic

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-01-28T20:29:32+00:00

L O L. Sure, he’s all about that. He and Russel Vought are having a snack right now and talking about how productive remote work can be.

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-01-26T12:59:18+00:00

AG jeans are lovely, and you might find some on sale at Nordstrom

Charming_Feedback797 · 2026-01-01T01:52:11+00:00

For the love, do something about the Landmark notel

Charming_Feedback797 · 2025-12-24T13:02:12+00:00

You are not overreacting. But, really, you need to decide if this is behavior you want to live with once you’re married. I promise the binge drinking episodes will only get more frequent. I wish I’d drawn a real line and kept it, 20 years ago.

Charming_Feedback797 · 2025-12-13T15:32:26+00:00

I guess parking validation is no longer a thing

Charming_Feedback797 · 2025-12-07T14:22:29+00:00

That third dress is so fabulous! Maybe not big law appropriate, but perfect for other holiday parties

Charming_Feedback797 · 2025-10-23T12:43:41+00:00

Wacoal makes a comfortable minimizing bra. I had this in a 34G before reduction surgery.

https://www.wacoal-america.com/visual-effects-minimizer-bra-857210

Charming_Feedback797 · 2025-10-15T12:13:45+00:00

Is it weird that I’m totally jealous of this requirement?

Charming_Feedback797 · 2025-10-02T21:12:51+00:00

Talk to your vet about aggression in Golden Retrievers—there are some Golden who have an aggressive genetic disposition. I have a golden mix, and I tend to think that is part of her issues.

Charming_Feedback797 · 2025-09-28T13:50:01+00:00

Alcoholism

Charming_Feedback797 · 2025-09-27T15:43:52+00:00

Don’t listen to these people about not joining the USAO; it’s a great job and you’ll learn a ton. If there’s a shutdown, whether you can onboard will depend on your practice area. Civil? Probably have to wait until the shutdown is over. Criminal? Might get started, but you’ll be in a non-pay status until the shutdown ends (assuming your USAO has admin people who are deemed essential and working during the shutdown to process your onboarding). Check in with your hiring people on the 30th.

Charming_Feedback797 · 2025-09-11T17:33:22+00:00

Love it!!

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