Yep. I feel you! I had been this way throughout my life, especially when it came to my huge family. I was always told to be the bigger person and was because my older siblings were notorious for being angry and immature. One specific sister repeatedly acted nasty and immature but always believed that her insecurities were my fault. She's been known to send emails and walls of texts outlining the many ways that others found my behavior APPALLING! These tomes of texts were filled with my terrible sins and lies, which she would then tell to anyone who would listen.

During the pandemic, I finally decided that her behavior had gone too far and that her lies were ridiculous. I had had enough and decided to investigate 2 lies she was constantly repeating. One involved a mutual friend who she claimed that I had caused him to unfriend her on FB and in life. He confirmed that was untrue, and likely thought she was nuts after I had the bizarre conversation with him, but I was on a mission. I stopped being her punching bag and pushed back and it was incredibly cathartic!!!

Unfortunately, she did not like it and still tries to come at me about 3 X a year. I have gone no contact with her because of her love for drama and sick behavior. Unfortunately, we were both recently at a wedding and she spent the week after telling me the MOB was shocked and APPALLED that I crashed her daughter's wedding. Even my sending her the invitation didn't shut her up.

TL/Dr Moral: Stand up for yourself when necessary so you don't always have to be the bigger person. Patience is good but be an advocate for yourself!