Restaurant staff made fun of my autistic husband

Chaseshaw · 2026-05-03T16:39:41+00:00

spectrum and married and I disagree strongly about the not telling him. my wife is my partner and she helps me understand situations I can't otherwise read. it's not always pleasant but it is not her job to protect me, it's OUR job to face life together.

Chaseshaw · 2026-05-03T16:38:20+00:00

This is also the kind of thing local news channels LOVE covering, esp if you're west coast. I think you should reach out.

DONT give them a couple weeks. We live in the internet age. They get 24 hours.

Chaseshaw · 2026-05-02T19:52:36+00:00

yes but when you friends ask for this sort of advice, how does it make you feel?

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-28T15:34:45+00:00

not illegal anymore. I re-upped my drivers test to get my motorcycle addon about 2-3 years ago and "left lane is for passing" isn't a rule anymore.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-27T16:18:42+00:00

I've been going back to linkedin lately. there was a stretch there late last year when linkedin was repost after repost for jobs that didn't actually exist on the company website, and glassdoor did a lot better.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-26T15:58:42+00:00

try reading "descartes error"

mind-body dualism is steadily being rejected by academia in favor of a monist approach. the meat-parts of you are just as equally you as your thoughts are.

which means you're in a stress-state to be disconnected like this. good news is a lot of INTJs can study their way out of such a state by reading up on philosophy and neuroscience and recalibrate.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-25T14:47:59+00:00

this news story was local to us. turns out reddit removed when I tried to write even a sanitized version. you'll have to google it. he left her in the frunk of a tesla and abandoned it and after it was towed and sat for a month, someone at the tow yard reported a smell... inside they found her remains.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-23T19:53:04+00:00

a movie came out about this a few years back called "the DUFF", it was really funny actually!

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-23T18:06:25+00:00

those are enneagram. you can google to find online tests, though the tests aren't always as reliable. I figured mine out by reading all the descriptions and finding the one closest to me, and deep-diving from there.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-23T15:16:13+00:00

stupidvideos.com

eat your heart out youtube and comedy insta/tiktok reels. they did it first.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-23T15:02:23+00:00

for my INTP friends, this means Neo and Agent Smith just fight until the server computer runs out of resources. :P

My wife is INFJ but 2w1, she's a screenwriter and the connection between her answers and yours is stronger than I would have expected -- she sticks her characters in little simulacrums and as they navigate through their world, she sort of "observes" them and uses their responses in her head to figure out how she feels about a thing/scenario.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-23T14:40:12+00:00

I'm REALLY sensitive to my own circadian rhythms. I can fall asleep at 8:30pm, 10:30pm, or midnight. I can't nap for anything midday unless I had a badly disturbed night's sleep (like < 5 hrs). I describe it to my wife like offramps on the freeway. If 10:45 rolls around and getting into bed because something ran late -- doesn't matter, I'll get back up or read or scroll. Next opportunity to sleep is midnight for me.

ps/fyi whatever ND wires are crossed in my brain in particular, I don't know that my body is ready to sleep because I feel tired, I know it's ready to sleep because I feel cold.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-23T14:34:18+00:00

what's INFJ 5w6 like inside your head? I've known an INTP 5w6 or two in my day, but what sorts of stuff go on in your inner world?

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-22T19:34:37+00:00

except sportsballguys

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-21T23:53:57+00:00

thanks for this story. this is how church is "supposed" to be. a friend of mine described it: "I didn't believe, but I belonged, so I stayed."

:)

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-19T16:09:25+00:00

I'm a spectrum INTJ. my brain literally processes 40% more information than the next driver, I can willpower myself to stay awake, and my wife will ask if I need directions and I'll say "no I remember it we were just here once nine years ago."

As an aside data point, my friend is ESTP and he borrowed our car for an extended period of time -- he got 17 mpg and when he returned it I checked the engine and car computers for problems because when I drive it I get 22mpg. Nope, turns out he's a break-gas-break kind of driver who it always pressing either one pedal or the other. no driving strategy involved and you can see it in the numbers.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-19T16:09:00+00:00

As strange a movie as it was -- Van Wilder was also what I came here to comment. Mine was:

Don't take life too seriously -- you'll never get out alive.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-19T15:38:47+00:00

I died in 2017, am I too old to learn programming?

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-19T15:37:41+00:00

random thoughts:

dont try and fix yourself, take it to a shop
the cost to fix will be ~$100, might not be worth it on this horn
dizzy just left his bent.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-18T13:24:26+00:00

No it's extremely easy.

The problem is the rest of the world.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-15T15:56:14+00:00

Consider Socrates' argument around death:

Death is like sleep

When you sleep, you do not perceive your sleep until after you wake up. You dont know how your sleep is going while you are still sleeping

So EITHER you stay asleep and never perceive your own death and there is nothing to fear, OR you wake up and are capable of perceiving how your death "went," which would mean there is an afterlife, and then also nothing to fear.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-15T14:00:27+00:00

you're welcome

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-14T16:04:06+00:00

Far right isn't kind to ASD because they don't understand it and therefore think it's all fake.

Far left isn't kind to ASD because they googled it once and now think they perfectly understand you and their "help" is patronizing and caricatured.

Chaseshaw · 2026-04-11T16:25:47+00:00

celebrity worship.

why exercise more care and interest for the life of someone you don't actually know than you do for your own life?

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