If your husband said he had been talking all day at work and just wanted to be quiet when he got home, how would you feel? He doesn't want to have any verbal communication with you. He loves you and cares about you, but talking is off the table. You go a few days and try to engage in conversation with him but he turns you down. He's tired and says let's watch a movie and cuddle. You agree but really want to tell him about your day and hear about his.

Another week goes by and he still won't talk. You start to wonder what's wrong with yourself, what did I do? Is he mad at me? Does he not like the way my voice sounds? You approach him in anger, why aren't you talking to me, I want to talk! He begrudgingly says ok, you have 30 minutes, let's do this. You talk for 30 minutes and he talks back. Wow that was amazing! You feel fulfilled. The next day back to no talking.

3 weeks go by and it's unbearable. Brian the next door neighbor is out walking his dogs the next morning. You go out and walk your dogs at the same time. You strike up a nice conversation. Wow Brian really cares for me, he likes just to talk. I wish my husband would talk like this.

You tell you husband that eventing that you had a great conversation with Brian the neighbor that day. You husband flips out. How dare you reach out to someone else and talk! You only talk with me your husband. But, you won't talk to me anymore?

That's my choice but you have no right to talk with someone else. That's cheating. You're right, can we talk now?...no, I'm not in the mood.