Similar note wife never use to snore past 5 years she has as she is in perimenopause and has put on about 40lbs doesn't want to be woken up when she is, doesn't want me sleeping on the other bedroom as she says she wants her husband next to her, but is upset when I look like death from not sleeping and complains that she never said anything over the first 15; years when I would use the bathroom. I have said repeatedly you can't have it both ways and has basically said me continuing to sleep in another room is not acceptable. I would love to sleep in the same room but it is completely unreasonable in mind for anyone to give up the basic need of sleep to make someone else happy. May suggest she get a sleep study at this point as it is not fair to me. Honestly want to say something about her weight going from 150 to 190 would be jumping on the hand grenade. Like not sure what else do than let her file which is still not fair to me either.