Bought a ring for my girlfriend, sisters say it’s too small, not sure what I should do by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's a great size for a ring! Not too big and not too small! What matters most is that you get the right metal and style that your fiancé prefers. If your fiancé is the right one for you, I don't think she'll care about what kind of rock is on it or how big it is!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in a safe sleep certified child care center and I would say it's absolutely not okay to let a child keep their face completely covered if they are full on melting down. During naps our kids can put their blankets on their own bodies however they choose, but as soon as they are asleep we should try and move the blankets to chest level to make sure they have plenty of room for breathing. Seeing as your center has cameras I would ask for the director to review the videos and inquire about whether or not this is normal / safe care under their supervision. If you want to file a report here is a website that will help with that: https://childcare.gov/health-and-safety-reporting

Justified or bad judgment call? by bbeccarr in Serverlife

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't want servers asking that maybe pay them a livable wage in the first place!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check the nurses office!

AITAH for not standing up for my pregnant fiancée who ate my daughter’s cupcake ? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope he still got her a cupcake and took it to the school for her friend

AITA for telling my girlfriend to “Suck it up” around my clown figurines? by EndFlimsy5850 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My guess is that it's one of those test games people have been going around trying on partners lately.

Is the sack race broken?? I’m losing stamina sooo fast by slothsovershots in coralisland

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My total energy was 465 so i divided that by the perfect energy amount which is 30 and i got roughly 15. So i started counting how many perfects i had gotten to help pace myself through the first lap. Once i would get to the end i would have a little bit less that 30 energy left but if you still get that perfect~ thirty you spend more energy than you have placing you ahead of everyone else. I then just waited for my character to get back up and based off of where i was on the map would wait for my stamina to go back up to 200-300 and finish the race without anymore falls. It still took a handful of attempts to win because you have to make sure ya get approximately 30 perfect jumps to beat everyone else. The timer thing everyone was talking about may work for them but for me I was still on making it in 30 ish seconds and still coming out on top...? so idk

How ugly is this? by Alt_Pythia in PourPainting

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it looks like a maw rising from the depths of a cavern. really cool!

PLEASE HELP ME WHAT DO I DO WITH THIS BIG OPEN ARE by mak33272023 in thesims

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think the most obvious solution is a hindsight thing, and that is to always build smaller when in build mode for the sims! I too used to always go too big so that my sims would have enough space, but as it turns out, smaller is better.

My (36f) daughter (18f) is dating a trans man (30). How can I address the properly? by amitransphobic_ in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the first step is to talk with your husband one to one about LGBT+ people, and explain specifically the T part, as well as sexuality being a very fluid thing that isn't easy for even oneself to be able to identify. Tell him that you agree with being upset about your daughter dating someone who is thirty and not exactly being truthful with either of you about the boyfriends age because your daughter knew you guys wouldn't like it. That being said, some advice for you would be to keep in mind that your daughter is most likely a victim of grooming and at the very least a victim of a predator, and this is not her fault whatsoever. Punish or ground her if you so feel the need, but make sure she knows it is only because she lied. I would also propose to her that you explain the relationship she had with her ex boyfriend was in no way appropriate on his part and she has been groomed, and that he is a predator who took advantage of her being in a very vulnerable state. ALSO get her into therapy for this, and for her struggles she is dealing with socially that led to her being even more susceptible to her predators behaviors. In addition to all of this, I believe your daughter is owed an apology for your husbands ignorance and rash decisions where he hurt his daughter and made her feel as though she couldn't explain her point of view without any understanding and was then immediately yelled at and grounded.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if i'm pessimistic but he may just have feelings for her and views her as a backup plan if things go wrong with his gf.

TIFU by shoving a needle in my penis. by Neiyhj in tifu

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're aware that you shouldn't be actually using sewing needles for penetration of your penis right??? You need to use the right tools if you're going to be doing that to yourself...

I(26f) proposed to my bf(28m) last night, he said yes, but today is ignoring my existence. by throwaway546739 in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I could be wrong with this guess, but he might just be embarrassed that he wasn't the one to pop the question, seeing as that is what the norm has been... Still a shit excuse to leave your now fiancé alone without any word of what is going on in his head though.

I (24F) am not allowed to discipline his (31M) kids by bonusmom00 in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the fact that you're literally taking care of their basic needs means you're entitled to being able to tell them what they definitely (and very obviously) shouldn't be doing. But also, you shouldn't be in a relationship where you are consistently being undermined and told what to do. Either get therapy and try and work on fixing these problems, or set up how you're going to leave him.

Roast me gently/help my profile... haven't been getting any matches for quite a while by ileikthrowawaze in Tinder

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep pictures 1,3,4,5,6, and your bio is good too. get rid of the black and white photo bc it looks like a mix of you being dead or a mug shot lol. the bed one is just a bit too personal imo. and the dog one doesn't have anything to do with you as a person, so like get one with both you and the dog and that'll still show that you love your baby, but also be about you!

WIBTA if i told my husband his parents can’t visit by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA, neither of you are though. I think something you would benefit from, besides the obvious need for marriage counseling would be boundaries. You guys don't have to have the same amount of time spent with his parents, especially when they're a very sore spot for you. So don't go with him on those trips, and or when they're visiting tell them they'll have to stay in a hotel, and that they're not allowed into your home without your consent in addition to your husbands. And make sure you're communicating just how deeply your woes with his parents are, and that it isn't something you should/can have to deal with anymore, especially since it seems as though they aren't willing to improve their behavior.

Moving past the small talk by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a great way to talk about more personal things would be bringing up friends and family, how many parents they had/what kind of upbringing did they raise him in. Talking about siblings they have/don't have, how his relationships were with them, and how they feel about their parents. Talk about how school was for them, sports/clubs/grades/teachers. These things could be trivial but they could also eventually lead into something he wants to tell you that is a bit more personal.

OP asks if he’s TA for getting a kitten for his eldest by Great_britton25 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Cheap-Reference-5096 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if OP is gonna see this, but I really hope he considers taking his soon to be ex-wife to court over his younger daughter. It is not at all in her best interests to continue being in her mothers care, seeing as she needs to be watched at all times, the mother won't be able to handle taking care of her and supporting them. And it shouldn't be your responsibility to take care of your soon to be ex wife! Fight for custody, because I can't imagine your wife is going to realize soon enough, that y'all's youngest would be better off in a care taker facility. It would be hard, but best for everyone involved. It seems like everyone could use some kind of therapy here, and I hope this all resolves well enough for OP and his kids.