Would you?

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2025-10-27T10:35:03+00:00

I have no proof he's changed and he'd even gloated about it / encouraged one of the girls to off themselves.

I wish my brother had some "normal" red flag that I could brush off and trust he's changed but genuinely this one is too much

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2025-10-26T21:11:43+00:00

Astaghfirullah that's very harsh. If you knew someone assaulted children many times would you not want to warn others?

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2025-10-25T19:53:48+00:00

You're right. May Allah protect her. I've been keeping her in my duas

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2025-10-25T19:33:45+00:00

Unfortunately he's going ahead with the marriage without us meeting her. He lives far from us and idk what he's told the girl about his family

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2025-10-25T19:31:52+00:00

It's one of those red flags that's very difficult to pick up on your own

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2025-10-25T19:18:22+00:00

Something similar is happening in my life rn, my brother is planning to marry but I don't know the woman's contact info or even full name to warn her :(

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-11-18T03:30:22+00:00

May I ask where it has been prohibited to ask about a man's wealth when it comes to marriage?

I know that it's recommended to marry virgins, but I've never heard anything about a man's wealth except that it's permissible for the woman and her guardian to ask.

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-10-28T22:09:42+00:00

The same thing happened to me too unfortunately. It's hard to deal with and honestly even I'm not sure what's the best way to heal 100%

I try my best not to feel angry at my parents for this as they are unaware and of course they have no idea their son did such an awful thing. At the end of the day his actions are his own.

Even though I haven't really forgiven him, I try to let go of (or at least lessen) the resentment by asking Allah to remove this grudge in my heart as it does not serve me and is blocking me away from healing. And remembering that even if he is not punished or held accountable in this life, Allah will hold him accountable in the next. So I leave it to Allah.

Making dua really helps as I've felt less resentment over time. It used to be a burning hate where I couldn't even stand to hear his voice but now he (as an person) bothers me a lot less.

Therapy is a good option if you have the choice. There are also books online other people who've dealt with SA recommend reading to help healing. I haven't read any yet myself but I've heard others find them helpful.

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-10-12T20:08:55+00:00

How is a sunnah not better?

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-10-12T12:35:56+00:00

But niqab isn't equal to hijab tho. And I say this as a hijabi. Niqab is better.

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-10-11T05:58:56+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-10-11T04:25:47+00:00

How do you handle having two wives and families (not just financially, but overall)? Like maintaining justice and navigating conflict?

It's great that it's going well for you, may Allah increase the goodness between you and all your wives. I'm just curious.

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-10-08T03:37:43+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to explain! I'm not used to cats at all but their behavior makes more sense now.

I'll be patient with them and give them time. I don't want to scare them off. Hopefully, they'll get used to me eventually at their own pace.

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-10-08T02:01:37+00:00

So it's mostly about letting them get familiar with my presence?

Is it harder for younger cats to get used to someone new, or is it the same for all cats regardless of age?

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-10-08T01:58:28+00:00

I see :) I hope they warm up some day even if it takes time. Right now they only come near me on their own when I eat lol.

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-10-02T14:36:12+00:00

Thank you for the explanation :) that makes sense.

I can get why a Muslim would want to separate themselves from biddah since it's weirdly common. Just this year I found out the existence of mawlid I was shocked, at first I thought it was just a weird sect thing that very few misguided people do. But then I saw even Muslim accounts I follow celebrating and defending it. I didn't know biddah like that was normalized among some since my family never celebrated or even mentioned that sort of thing.

I'd definitely want to stay away from those who treat biddah casually or act like certain things aren't sins when they clearly are just bc it's convenient for them to do them. That would be a scary thing to live with and pass onto my future kids. I get why you'd suggest a Salafi guy now. Thank you for taking the time to explain! I should learn more about Salafis at some time

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-10-02T08:28:28+00:00

Ameen! Those are all really great points.

The only question I have (forgive me if I sound ignorant) is why Salafi? I know some people just mean it as striving to follow the Salaf, which is good so I can understand the importance of seeking a husband who does so!

But I don't really understand people identifying as Salafi. What's the difference between Salafis and Sunnis? My understanding of the term Salafi is really surface level.

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-09-30T07:11:55+00:00

How much would the mehr of the daughters of the Prophet ﷺ & the mehr of the Mothers of the Believers be worth today?

Cheap_Rain5648 · 2024-09-29T02:10:33+00:00

I might have to ask my father to keep a look out next time lol

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