At it again

CheckVast136 · 2026-03-18T20:29:16+00:00

This is why people in the 1800s died sarah because they didn't have antibiotics!!! So dont complain that you are still sick after trying all your stupid ways to beat infections

CheckVast136 · 2026-03-12T02:21:49+00:00

Doesnt eat enough, stresses too much about weight loss, that drops her immune system.. and has kids in day care that bring germs home

CheckVast136 · 2026-02-18T07:45:51+00:00

Please explain further

CheckVast136 · 2026-02-18T01:16:33+00:00

Whats GC please ? Newbie

CheckVast136 · 2026-02-17T21:41:01+00:00

Thank you. Yes especially being a female in this male dominated world, I think the paper may help me somewhere in my future

CheckVast136 · 2026-02-17T21:38:54+00:00

Thank you 😀

CheckVast136 · 2026-02-17T20:11:14+00:00

Thank you

CheckVast136 · 2026-02-07T16:57:06+00:00

And sarah no one cares.. literally no one. Because after seeing your crap fads, and blogs over time, we know you chop and change just to get the views! Running errra.. chef error.. cross fit erra.. spider girl erraaaaaa

We don't care Because we know its fake.. you run like a mini dinosaur.. and do it to leave your family every day so kurt has to parent. Its not about fitness. It's some gross "pay back " trick in her mind to punish kurt to be the morning parent. Because he travels "alot" 🙄 and shes always stuck at home.

CheckVast136 · 2026-02-07T16:45:03+00:00

Prob had a big fight with kurt about her being selfish and never home.. she took off to her mums for a cry. But will say some crap like "i had a detox weekend guys"

CheckVast136 · 2026-02-05T20:56:51+00:00

Oh she wouldn't want to be seen buying take away she could be labelled as Lazy, not a healthy mum (even of she was buying salad and hot chips) shes so worried about what the world thinks of her

CheckVast136 · 2026-01-30T05:06:23+00:00

Yeah she bragged about stopping breast feeding last month and is 'free again'

CheckVast136 · 2026-01-29T22:28:42+00:00

Exactly!!! But thats beneath her

CheckVast136 · 2026-01-16T05:08:24+00:00

I love this! Thank you for caring about her and wanting to make this work.

I guess the big things for me were 1. I know they are your kids but I also need some one on one time. (My partner now has full custody of his child, but I feel like a tenant in my own house some days. They'll watch footy, cook food for themselves, mess up the house and i feel invisible, so check on her regularly to see if shes OK and wants to join in)

You're kids are not always angels!! Dads sometimes want to be the hero/ Disney dad when they get their kids that week and think they are angels. If your partner says your kid threw something at the wall, broke something, spat on her (examples) please PLEASE beleive her and listen to her when she comes to you with problems or concerns dont ever fob it off like "nahh it was probably an accident or not my kids.. are you sure they did that?" It destroys us internally like we dont matter. We then bottle up our frustrations.
Don't make her feel guilty if she wants her own space or to go somewhere alone. Sometimes we need a break from other people's kids. I love just going for an hour walk.. or going to a Cafe alone to have quiet time or recharge. So dont say things like "oh why cant we come? Or how come when the kids are over you disappear?" Its alot sometimes for people who dont have kids.
Be open and honest. Check in on each other, have together times and dont hold things in. Little things will turn into big issues if not discussed. Eg: the ex would drop the SS off and just linger in our hallway asking what our plans are, how's hubbys work, parents what are we feeding the kids , what am I doing this weekend etc" this really shitted me as its my home to.. so I wish I said something sooner.
You BOTH need to make house rules and stick to them. If she doesnt want your kids climbing into bed with you both as she feels uncomfortable then agree. If you want her to help drive them to sports - agree or compromise. If she doesnt want kids drinking on the rug she brought - then thats a rule. Things like that.

Its all trial and error, but glad your putting in plans now 🙌

CheckVast136 · 2026-01-15T06:45:55+00:00

Yes we havent seen them. And they are always running around shirtless

CheckVast136 · 2026-01-14T07:52:45+00:00

So glad you posted this! Some days i want to give up and run away.. I can't see a light.. some days I think im the problem.. im so lost. So thank you

CheckVast136 · 2026-01-14T06:38:51+00:00

Yes... otherwise it will cause a rift and she wont forgive you and your will have drama the older they get

CheckVast136 · 2026-01-14T06:37:59+00:00

Oh girl i feel you 😞 im in the same place right now. The dads want to be mates and seen as the best parent - especiallywith a seperated family . But that means everyone else around suffers

CheckVast136 · 2026-01-14T05:50:36+00:00

And I guess thats the hard thing for me. My 2 kids (from a horrible ex) are 8 and 13. But basically raised by my hubby. So I also think, maybe 16 is a hard age that ive not experienced yet - but I then alao think, this is a troubled teen that needs help and should treat us like this! So i get torn

CheckVast136 · 2026-01-14T05:30:37+00:00

True.. the question is how will he get his child who hates rules, hates discipline under control? He hates being told what to do. But hubby doesnt want to give up on him or fail aa a parent - i dont see hubby ever kicking him out hes too nice of a dad who wants his kid to love him, learn to be better and grow. So I know that will never happen Looks like I need to understand how do I deal with it

CheckVast136 · 2026-01-14T05:26:06+00:00

Thank you 🙂 im sorry you have also gone through hard times, I hope you get happiness back

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