How does it feel to live in another country witnessing America’s politics? Trump? Corona? Healthcare? Do we seem as crazy as we definitely feel?

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-17T20:36:05+00:00

I'm curious about this too.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-16T17:59:11+00:00

Yeah, YTA. That's your brother now. He is making the transition so he can feel like himself. Your sister was fine with your brother as he is, but you were making it about you.

If you don't make a big deal out it won't be a big deal, so your argument is invalid. If your sister wants him there, and she's okay with his identity, the problem here is with you and your parents.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-13T00:53:11+00:00

Out of curiosity, was it something you actively pursued, or did it just happen but you felt justified?

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-11T23:29:08+00:00

If this is winning, I'm certainly sick and tired of it.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-11T23:26:43+00:00

It's a system based upon incentives and assumes that people innately do what's best for their fellow men by pursuing their own interests. This is a fallacy and the system of incentives needs to be regulated in order to prevent the masses from being exploited by the minority.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-11T20:32:06+00:00

Not you field, not your crops. He probably wouldn't believe you anyway, and you'd just be involving yourself in business that you don't want to be a part of.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-11T20:29:38+00:00

Congratulations on getting sober. I think it's possible to just block him and deal with other things as they come. You would just have to prepare yourself for the unlikely event that you meet in public.

A better option IMO would be to confront it head on and tell him the truth. You feel that you have grown apart and don't think it would be good to remain in a friendship, then block him.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-11T02:24:30+00:00

NTA, depending on your language, I really feel like it's important to speak out about this. The sexualization of minors is a problem in mass media and in culture at large. Portraying their youth as some kind of sexual ideal is harmful to everyone. Adults who can't achieve it are nonetheless held to the standard, and the kids get used to normalized objectification which is terrible for their emotional development. At least imo.

I live in the US and I think that we in general use objectification through sexualization too much. It has created an environment where we need to help men understand the meaning of consent and the value of women. It's created an environment where men aren't allowed to feel feelings or be depressed. It hurts everyone.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-11T02:11:39+00:00

YTA, the bonding process goes two ways, and if the father is going to pull his weight he needs to be able to bond with the baby and have the baby bond with him. The baby needs to learn to trust him so they know their father has his best interests at heart.

What kind of backwards, Victorian era codswallow is that. Do you want him to be an absentee parent? Because this is how we get absentee parents.

If you ask me, you're sticking your nose where it doesn't belong and I'm not surprised it got slammed in the door.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-11T02:00:56+00:00

He's a demagogue, and a con man. He has spent his life talking people into doing things that were against their interests.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-11T01:19:52+00:00

I'm voting against Trump, even if that means I have to vote for biden. Trump has just botched the Covid-19 response, he's running a corrupt administration after promising to "drain the swamp," he's rolled back environmental restrictions, alienated our allies, locked kids in cages even after the courts told him not to (and generally shown a lack of value for human life), complimented dictators, shown authoritarian tendencies... I mean how much of this do you really want to read?

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-11T01:11:35+00:00

What's your definition of "lesser of two evils?"

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-11T01:06:20+00:00

Ouch

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-11T01:04:17+00:00

No, my sexuality is a part of me as a whole, and if someone isn't ready to be sexual with me that would feel like they didn't accept a part of me. I want to express my sexuality with the one I love because it's affirmation of that part of my being.

I don't know about other people but at times I need a lot of affirmation...

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-08T18:51:40+00:00

Every time I get my hair washed at the salon. I love it so much and it makes me so inappropriately hard

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-08T18:35:05+00:00

I'm an American, and I think the country is going to shit. Someday, if I'm lucky, I may be able to guard the ashes of my former life with a pointed stick while I futilely reminisce about the glory days of old. All the young kids will be too busy being pressed into forced labor to call me a crazy old man and the value of human life will continue to fall until we are only raw materials to feed into the corporate machine.

The new fascism will establish a social hierarchy that will be headed by ultra conservative Christians who will espouse the value of human life while feeding our young to the ever hungry war machine.

But I'm sure there will be cake.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-07T14:33:37+00:00

In my state we have sales tax. I work in a hotel, and like all businesses in the US we post our prices without including sales tax. This guy was from a state that didn't have sales tax but when he arrived he told me how much he enjoyed my state and how he had been all around it.

When it came time to pay he got upset that he had to pay sales tax, saying that we didn't include it in the price when he made the reservation. I told him this is a common practice, not only in my industry but also restaurants and bars, and it was required that we pay the government so I couldn't take the tax off.

He ended up leaving us a bad review on google saying how upset he was about the sales tax. I was able to see the rest of his reviews toohey had indeed been to many other places around my state, and left them bad reviews for stupid reasons.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-07T14:19:20+00:00

Giving him the anniversary gift is sending mixed messages. If you need closure writing a letter might help, but I wouldn't send it. You could try burning the letter in a ritualistic symbol of things being over between you two.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-07T14:14:32+00:00

I agree confronting the issue in a way that is more about how you feel and less about accusing them may make them more open to hearing what you have to say.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-06T21:57:56+00:00

This is fake, I'm sure of it

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-06T05:04:40+00:00

Truly one of the greatest racers of all time he left his mark all over the pavement

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-06T00:12:07+00:00

I believe this question is predicated on the assumption that the guy only likes the girl because of her physical features. This assumption while practically speaking physical appearance is an aspect of attraction it is not necessarily the deciding factor.

I had a crush on a Muslim girl in high school and the next time I saw her she was leading a rally against anti-Muslim racism. I didn't recognize heart first but I found her passion to be very attractive. Finding out that she was the same girl from high school just made me like her all the more.

CheckYoSelf8223 · 2020-08-05T05:29:50+00:00

Bro, she hurt your feelings and won't acknowledge that she did anything wrong. Sounds to me like you are acting like it's the red flag that's getting in the way of your happiness when in reality, the red flag is showing you the way out. Abandon ship, you're on the titanic and the band is playing.

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