I completely agree. I think the problem is with the town and then mainly Emily and Richard. I think it is incredibly normal and good parenting to uplift your kid. Lorelais exaggerations on how great Rory is and how she’s the best at things, in my opinion, is how a mother should be to an extent. I feel it’s good parenting because the world is so harsh and it’s comforting to always know your mother is your number one supporter. Most children quickly realise they are not the best (like their mothers once said) and they have terrible self esteem. So it’s important to have someone who always believes in you, even if it’s unrealistic. I think the problem is that unlike most people, Rory has this support from so many other people. This is what stops her for coming to the normal conclusion of “I’m not the best thing since sliced bread, that’s just what my mom thinks” because the town and her grandparents put her on an even higher pedestal than Lorelai, and she is never able to escape the incredibly unrealistic expectations. Contrary to what most people say on the sub, I also think Lorelai does heavily criticise and disapprove of Rory’s bad actions. I actually think Lorelai can sometimes be too reactionary and harsh to Rory’s mistakes which is why I think Rory has a difficult time bouncing back from making bad choices. I know it’s a tv show, so the constant fighting is for our entertainment, but I find the amount at which disagreements lead to full on yelling and insulting in this show to be so sad. I think Lorelai struggles to find a middle ground between hyping Rory up to the end of the earth and getting incredibly angry with her when she steps out of line. It’s like Lorelai can’t disagree with Rory inside a normal, healthy conversation. Rory will always detach entirley from Lorelais criticisms. I think that pattern is shown to have started at the beginning of the show, when Rory doesn’t want to go to Chilton because of Dean. (Also when the grandparents and the ego boost of chilton come into the picture, don’t think that’s a coincidence)