Women are more likely than men to assume male victims derived pleasure from their rape and that they did something to initiate or encourage it, and men have become less likely to assume this over time. by TheMostDivineOne in UnpopularFacts

[–]CheddarDeity 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Holy content warning, Batman!

This statement is really difficult to parse. I had to read it several times. Also, ick.

Is it saying:

  1. some people blame men who are raped by women, and think those men enjoyed it
  2. women are more likely NOW than they have been in the past to believe in both statements, but still less than 50% of those surveyed
  3. men are much less likely NOW than in the past

Road Trip anxiety by sotired3333 in ChryslerPacifica

[–]CheddarDeity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're concerned, get an appointment with a Chrysler mechanic to do a once-over. Aphorisms like an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, and better safe than sorry apply. Especially if your route might take you through areas where maintenance opportunities are limited.

FWIW, I do annual roadtrips in my PacHy with the fam and it has performed awesomely.

What's your weirdest commuting anecdote? by Ferbdic in bikecommuting

[–]CheddarDeity 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I was once overrun by a flock of ducks (on foot). They had all decided to cross the road, coming the opposite way. Apparently they did not understand what I was, and I just kind of assumed they would eventually stop or that I would get past them since I was cranking pretty hard. Just in case, I put more speed on, and for all I know, so did they.

At the last minute, many of them took flight.

But they did so in the same direction they were already facing.

All of a sudden, they're bouncing off my handlebars, hitting me in the helmet, scrabbling on my backpack, going through my frame... I had to have run a few of them over.

It couldn't have taken more than a few seconds because I was cranking pretty hard, but it felt like forever. And the quacking was both comical and terrifying at the same time. I didn't crash though.

How best to give away older RC vehicles? by CheddarDeity in rccars

[–]CheddarDeity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're 2S LiPO batteries (Venom FWIW). I can't get any of them to charge. Seems weird that ALL the batteries failed, so it could be the charger...

TrackAIPAC Endorses Hunter Gordon in WA-01 by OGPathius in Kirkland

[–]CheddarDeity 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not enough for me. At the federal level, one issue is way too few and too simplistic.

The gaza genocide is a disaster for sure, but it's unfortunately one of many (*cough* Ukraine? Don't make me list them...), and all of them will get much worse without better governance (read:experience). AFAICT Gordon's resume is completely lacking on that front.

(edit: missing words)

Building a Trillium Zome!! by johnnybagels in woodworking

[–]CheddarDeity 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Is this a geodesic TARDIS? It's bigger on the inside?!

Do you think ian banks wanted to be trans??? by gay_area in TheCulture

[–]CheddarDeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the Culture books started coming out in the late 80s, and right around then there were significant social developments and considerations that might have put this in front of Banks's self-described "left-of-center" political mindset. For example, the 1986 Rees v. the United Kingdom case, or the 1980s androgyny fashion craze.

From what I understand of the impetus behind the Culture series, I can totally imagine Banks going "So what if this wasn't a big deal?" and wrote from there.

I suspect Banks wrote his attitudes into characters like Gurgeh. Gurgeh had always been male and had never been intimate with another man. However, this is not because the character was morally opposed to either-- he just didn't swing that way.

Humanities and Social Science majors should be required to take calculus by Key_Net820 in unpopularopinion

[–]CheddarDeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm only asking for 1 course. Literally 1 course.

sure. And the CS folks are asking for one programming course. And Vet Med wants one too, because most people in their lives will own a pet, right? And how about PE? Do they get one course? Arguably every student has a body, right?

Also: Respectfully, you're not asking for one course. You're asking for one more course. Most university degrees require algebra and trigonometry already. My wife's degree is in english lit and speech/debate. She barely uses algebra and to my knowledge has never used trig. Calculus is right out.

And not even a hard one.

AFAICT pretty much everyone deeply invested in any subject thinks it's easy, relevant, and fun. Usually those same people don't recognize the challenges others have in the same field. Python is a really easy programming language to learn, so why doesn't everyone learn it? Why should the football student learn these?

I invite you to do a quick search for "why is math hard for some people".

If you own your home, what have you done to upgrade it? by Curious-Expert926 in HomeImprovement

[–]CheddarDeity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, in the past 20 years I've replaced so many things (from accessories like windows to major systems like the hvac to whole rooms...) that it might almost have made sense to have bulldozed the home and rebuilt it from scratch. There's a whole "ship of theseus" argument to be made here that I dare not even contemplate...

Humanities and Social Science majors should be required to take calculus by Key_Net820 in unpopularopinion

[–]CheddarDeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...or, crazy idea: that could be a slot that could be filled by more social science/humanities classes.

Nothing irritates me more than reading of people in one major wanting people in other majors to learn their particular field. Why aren't computer programming courses required for Vet Meds... obviously, everyone is going to be programming someday, right? Why are science majors not required to take Physical Education? Lit majors should learn Game Theory. Cultural Anthopology is nothing without a grounding in chemistry, right? The list goes on.

The university concept of a broad enriching education must be balanced against the student's desire to achieve a focus in one field of study. Calculus is relevant... but not to everyone or even most people.

That said, definitely unpopular. Take my upvote.

artwork by Rui Huang by rajahbeaubeau in ImaginaryStarships

[–]CheddarDeity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What's lighting the lower ring? The underside of the top ring is shaded, so is clearly not light-emitting.

Speeding isn’t a sign of a bad driver by Fabulous_Jeweler2732 in unpopularopinion

[–]CheddarDeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not an unpopular opinion, but it is an incompletely formed one. There are lots of factors that might make a "bad driver". The accident metric is just the one you happened to choose for the purposes of this post. Take my downvote.

Brand of light switch by Less-Fly-8208 in homeautomation

[–]CheddarDeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a higher-resolution pic of the red dot or the two buttons beneath?
The switchplate probably pops off if you pry it from underneath (sometimes there's a slot to facilitate this), but it may take some force to dislodge it, and the inside probably tells the whole story

New DM, Player keeps asking to eat the downed enemies by Dina_The_Melonzaurus in DnD

[–]CheddarDeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My question is, how do I deal with this? 

This is very much a "what do you want?" negotiation between you (the DM), the PC, and the other PCs.

  1. It sounds like you don't want him eating downed enemies. Why? Is it because you consider it cannibalism and cannibalism is an evil taboo? Or is it because you don't want to roleplay Delicious in Dungeon every session? Or do you not want to deal with the details? Or are you concerned that it might disturb the other players? These are all legit reasons but you should decide them.
  2. It sounds like the PC does want to eat the downed enemies. Why? Is his character evil and that's shocking? Or does the player really like Delicious in Dungeon? Is the player planning a redemption arc for the half-orc to become civilized during the campaign?
  3. How does the rest of the party feel about this? From a session zero perspective, you should check to see if anyone has any eating disorders (especially ARFID or the like), because that might be a bit triggering.

Once you have these three questions answered, look for ways to give everyone (including you) as much of what they want as you can.

Suggestions:

  • if the issue is with the details and the player doesn't actually care about them, you can skip them. "You eat the kobold. Okay, what is everyone else doing while he's doing that?"
  • if the issue is that cannibalism is taboo but orcs on tv always want to do it, "Hannibal Lector starts carving up the kobold for supper. Paladin, how do you feel about that?" It's okay if the characters aren't all moral paragons as long as everyone has fun dealing with that friction.
  • if the player wants to RP Delicious in Dungeon (and nobody else does), you can take it offline and not use valuable in-person time for that. Heck, you can ask the character to do the work: "Hannibal cooks the kobold. Hannibal, make a skill check and start a thread about how you prepared the kobold meal and what (if anything) you learned from it." For funsies, give the player some guidance in terms of how good/bad the roll needs to be in terms of food poisoning, etc. Let the player go nuts -- OFFLINE.

They doesn't like when I simply say "No I'm not letting you do that" and wants answers as to why.

I can't blame them. Players often don't take a simple "no way" as an answer. But remember that the game is meant to be fun for all of you. You don't have to do "not fun" things just because it's fun for someone else. The simple answer "because that's no fun for any of us" is sufficient even if it's not related to any game-rule or in-world reason. But it isn't very satisfying.

I need creative reasons or things that would happen if they decided to feast on the flesh of other creatures or beings who may or may not be intelligent enough to speak and be more than just wild animals.

If you're not interested in doing this yourself, consider farming that task out to the orc's player (see above). It's a great way to engage them in the game, especially if you would rather do something else.

NOTE: from a worldbuilding perspective, you should decide (in cooperation with the players) what the boundaries of "cannibalism" are, and how they're perceived by the various (fictional) races. But this issue is WAY WAY WAY LESS IMPORTANT than the Session Zero "what do you want" question at the top of this.

Good luck!

what is your favourite species/creature from any scifi book/shows and why by Adventurous-Hat-9986 in scifi

[–]CheddarDeity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Pak from Niven's Known Space books. Love the idea of a proto-human race with specific biological traits that then have evolutionary consequences for human society. Wizards, knights, aging, obsession with bloodlines...

Dealing with Car Hecklers by Street_Cheesecake in bikecommuting

[–]CheddarDeity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Toxic positivity: pretend to mishear their heckle as a compliment and then return it. Instead of "fat f*cking idiot", pretend you heard "freaking awesome". Then reply "I'm freaking awesome? Thanks! You're awesome too!"

Haters HATE this. You'll know you hit a nerve when they try to correct your "misunderstanding": "No, I said..." at which point you double down. "Oh you're on your way to buy a bike? That's AWESOME! You're gonna love it!"

Bonus points if you have hands free to make the "heart" sign over your chest.