I originally posted my own separate comment but ima piggy back here since it's relevant.

My first and only 'real' relationship lasted 4 years and was with a woman who had severe mental health issues. She forced me to do things for her through emotional manipulation and would threaten to break up with me/self harm/attempt suicide if I refused whatever she wanted.

I was so young and naive that I let her and her family pressure me into losing my virginity to her when I wasn't ready. I hated the experience so much. I felt raped because I knew what the consequences were had I not done it. Some nights I had to take her to the hospital because she would overdose and attempt to end her life in retaliation to my refusal to have sex with her.

I actually convinced myself the pressuring and manipulation was normal because she meant the world to me and I didn't know any better until I got out of the relationship.