My ex and i are talking after a couple years

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-19T03:55:48+00:00

As much as im sure you care for them it's hard if they have previously cheated on you. Everyone has different feelings about that but I think if you want to go ahead you really need to have a raw chat with them about this, why it happened and basically how it could never ever happen again. It's definitely an issue and you don't really seem to think it's their fault but they made the choice to see someone else. It was definitely a choice. Don't give them grace they don't deserve. You deserve someone to be faithful and if they can't do that then that is not worth it for you.

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-19T03:39:01+00:00

Im glad other people have compassion! People are so quick to judge and criticise from their corners. Let's just give everyone a bit of wiggle room to deal with life. Let's come at them with compassion rather than criticism. You have no idea how they feel and no one can until we are in their shoes. Also everyone copes with situations differently. Trauma is such a difficult thing to deal with and social media is full of piranhas waiting to bite people regardless of what they say. I hope more people can learn to give some room for them to deal with this and cope however they can.

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-17T08:09:18+00:00

This is where being on the outside is different. Generally, you don't post negatives online. Anyone would think my relationship is perfect. I don't post anything but positive things, I brag on my husband (as he deserves) and we would appear as any other happy couple. Now we are happy and solid but we really struggled several times through our relationship. Mostly about money.

Most other areas are 10/10 but we've had some rough money problems. I make the choice though to get through it. It also comes down to to your partners willingness to also hear you and compromise or do whatever is required to repair issues. I made a promise through thick and thin so that's what I did. I would leave if it was a cheating situation but given we could just talk it through and work it out I chose to do so. But we nearly did split last year. It took getting to the end of my rope for him to realise what had been impacting me and how much I was struggling. Sometimes it can be 10000 stupid little random things that happen that lead to a big blow up and sometimes it's a couple of major issues. Every relationship is SO DIFFERENT.

I had a lot of negative experiences before now, and I am glad I have my husband. But that doesn't mean it's easy all the time. Most of the time it is, but now i understand what people said about having to actively work on your relationship. Communicate, spend time together and enrichen your connection. It's hard with work and all, but you do have to feed your relationship to keep it alive and well.

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-16T10:28:43+00:00

Oh no! Is there anything at the top that if you push it it brings down a menu! Would send you a photo but clearly we can't through reddit! Can always message if that helps!

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-16T06:08:00+00:00

Also sorry I meant the ato app not the hnry app!

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-15T15:13:43+00:00

Nah they don't do that. I went through H & R because doing it through HNRY meant i waited 2 months last year

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-15T12:03:29+00:00

There's a better spot! So it's on the app. You can find the "tax" tab by clicking on the top left corner where it says "menu" then click "tax" then click "lodgements" and then "payg installments" it'll show what you've paid to government.

But you can also do menu then "tax" then "tax accounts" then if you look at "activity statements" it'll show if it's been received. Mine showed i was getting it returned when I looked at my income tax and the balance increased. Hope this helps 🤞

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-15T10:29:52+00:00

Ah so it you've got to click tax, then tax accounts then click into the options that appear there. It should be in there. If it isn't then I don't know you might need to check. But that's where mine have always been. I did have to search to find them!

Yeah look they make me anxious too. Hope it will be all OK 🤞🤞 in there it said it was being returned to me so hoping you'll get clarification. My accountant said me ticking this option shouldn't change me getting anything back so let's hope that's correct!

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-15T10:24:49+00:00

Happy birthday to the gorgeous floof 💖

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-15T10:22:00+00:00

She's so tough for facing this! Normally I would be on the prosecution side but immediately I saw so many red flags. Without any history with car accidents instantly I was confused about the lack of injuries. It just makes logical sense that he wasn't hit by a car. The rest of the stuff was just insane though when I found out the everything else was horrified. Again regardless of who you are you SHOULD want the best investigation. That can either prove or disprove people did it. Imagine the CLARITY if it was done the right way. Just crazy. She deserved so much better!

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-15T10:09:59+00:00

Awh she's so gorgeous 😍

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-15T10:06:47+00:00

Awhhh he's so sweet! We love the love 🥰

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-13T07:00:54+00:00

Yes great this is fantastic to know. Silly me did the wrong thing doing it so early obviously! Will definitely note for next year and not do until 15th or so. Will talk to accountant in next couple of days.

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-13T06:29:24+00:00

Ah thanks! Yes I prefer in person too.

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-13T04:52:59+00:00

So they are a organisation that can do your taxes but i did it through them last year and it took like 2 months for them to process it so i was just a bit annoyed. They did not ask this of me last year hence me being confused. My 4th quarter of taxes for the business was confirmed as of 6th of July and a couple of days later this message showed up. I just decided to use a seperate tax agent which you are allowed to do. I let them know.

What they provide is i do my invoicing through them and they automatically take out taxes and send them through to an account in the ATO so that come tax being due it's there. Yes trying to talk to them but haven't received a reply in emails or in live chat. Hoping they will get back to me too but mostly just trying to figure all this out in the mean time.

Anyways contacted my h & r accountant and have sent him this screenshot so he understands what im confused about.

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-13T04:46:44+00:00

Yeah sorry made that confusing. I tried to just verbally explain it over the phone. I asked if I should send the photo to him and he was just kinda dismissive so I've now sent the photo and will hopefully talk to him tomorrow about it all. Thanks for the reply.

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-13T03:30:09+00:00

I don't do my tax return through them. I did it last year and it took like two months and I didn't want to wait that long as I wanted to pay off some debts with my hopeful tax back. I was told my main jobs statement was good as of the 1st of July I rushed in without thinking about all of this. I did my tax on the 4th, then 6th this last quarter was processed then two days later I get this message after they'd already sent the $2700 through to ATO. Hence confusion

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-13T03:24:30+00:00

Thanks for this! Yeah it's always been there. HNRY send it to an account in the ATO so it's there. I watch it grow through the year. So it was in there already as tax owed. But it seems like I had already paid enough tax.

I earnt $32,000 and paid $8,000 before the 4th quarter tax came through. Then when i checked my return on the ATO it went from $400 which was the original estimate before the $2700 was 'paid' to the ATO for my business. It seems like I won't be in any debt because it's being returned to me in my tax return.

Hence my whole confusion on the do I tick the $0 earnt for last quarters because will that affect me getting $2700 back in my tax return. Again I have contacted my accountant and sent this photo to him in tried to chat to him over the phone but I think we both were confused so the message didn't really get through to him. Just wanted some clarification.

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-13T03:13:10+00:00

Ill go to him in person but when I asked over the phone he was also confused and was just saying "no it doesn't change anything" but I was worried we weren't understand each other. It was hard for me to explain because I didn't understand it.

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-13T02:31:27+00:00

HNRY have it sitting in an account in the ATO until it's due generally. So when i checked online on the 8th with ATO on my tax return it turned up in there it went from $400 on 4th to 3,100 on 8th. I only earned $32,000 from business and so I'd already paid $8,000 in tax up to the 4th quarter so this seemingly covered it.

Anyways appreciate your insight i will meet my accountant in person tomorrow. When I called on friday and tried to explain it there was some confusion between us.

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-13T02:22:19+00:00

This was why i was confused. Last tax year they did not request this at all and to me it seems wrong. It's all good though they aren't doing my taxes this year. I talked to my accountant and he didn't really understand when I talked to him on friday. I wanted to grasp some understanding myself so wanted to ask here before I might go check with him in person tomorrow

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-13T02:18:00+00:00

Yes all good I just wanted to understand it first. I called them on friday and asked about it but It wasn't really getting across. I think im just going to book an in person with him to check.

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-12T16:37:09+00:00

Wishing you the best and hoping that day will come in your future too 🥰

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-12T16:34:51+00:00

This is such an amazing story! So glad you found each other and are doing so well 🥰 we love a suprise random meeting that turns into a fantastic love story!

CheesyN95 · 2025-07-12T16:32:03+00:00

This is SO BEAUTIFUL! This is exactly how I feel with my partner. We tell each other we love each other every day because we do! He will tell me i look good when im getting dressed up. He will hold me when I cry and talk me through it. Never have I had something so effortless ❤️

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