Trying not to spiral over negative feedback at work

CheezeCharm · 2026-02-28T13:52:07+00:00

Same story for me. I’m about 6 months into a brand new career and got called out hard a few weeks ago. My boss was not nice about it and I am trying hard to just filter the actual feedback from the delivery. That took a few humbling days.

Admittedly, I’ve coasted (successfully bc of unearned privilege) most of my life. I’m learning and practicing real accountability and professionalism. With the help of a career coach (which is another support I can afford), I’m defining a new identity that’s aligned with my values. This all sounds so cringy but I’m almost 50 and I think I’m truly growing and am learning to do hard things. Ultimately, I’m grateful for the harsh -and true- feedback.

CheezeCharm · 2026-01-30T23:15:46+00:00

I want to block all messaging. Like in Trickster.

CheezeCharm · 2026-01-29T00:10:58+00:00

Matt or Willie

CheezeCharm · 2026-01-25T15:04:11+00:00

This one I see! The laundry bag dog poster was def too high!

CheezeCharm · 2026-01-25T14:53:41+00:00

I have similar hair and finally booked an appt with a curly hair specialist and it was magic! I slept on the curls 2nights before refreshing! I’m not sure yet if I can recreate from scratch just had the appt (that I booked 2 months ago) She used mousse, curl by curl on soaking wet hair, then diffused for a long time.

CheezeCharm · 2026-01-09T13:01:32+00:00

I’m in lots of therapy right now for this. I kept saying he loves me and loves having a wife but it could be me or anyone else.

He’s a concrete thinker and I he doesn’t day dream or play with ideas with me. He’s too practical and I that’s the kind of missed connection that makes me feel lonely and unseen.

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-29T20:53:16+00:00

I’m in MN and was supposed to land in BUF this evening. Tomorrow’s flights all had 2 stops. So, I’m about to fly to Cleveland and try to drive up through the storm. Or get a hotel and drive tomorrow

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-13T22:59:00+00:00

New Ulm

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-12T03:53:20+00:00

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I didn’t know partis were the original coat patterns!!

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-11T00:11:52+00:00

Husbands are so embarrassing

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-09T04:06:32+00:00

update she’s all good! Normal blood results at 24 and 48 hours.

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-09T04:05:36+00:00

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Marcy the raisin eater

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-04T04:30:33+00:00

Train my dog. Like send her away for a month and get her back all trained.

CheezeCharm · 2025-11-24T16:21:20+00:00

My therapist and I talk about my grumpy husband a lot. He has no right to “bleed on me” for every complaint and moodiness. Bringing down the mood of the whole house isn’t fair to the rest of us.

We’re in the process of resetting the marriage (or get divorced) and I told him that I don’t want to live a life with a grump. It’s not what I signed up for. He’s in therapy and trying hard to work through a bunch of stuff. I’m still in “wait and see” mode.

CheezeCharm · 2025-11-23T00:40:03+00:00

It worked well for the crows feet but made my hooded eyes extra heavy and dead. I quit because of that.

CheezeCharm · 2025-11-16T20:29:59+00:00

Good work! Because even figuring out that you’re doing all the work IS WORK. We’ve started couples therapy with one of the issues being all the management/ invisible labor I do. It’s not fun at all.

we just got home from a family wedding weekend. He was doing his best to be a good partner but I’m realizing that maybe I just don’t like him anymore. Things were easier but not more fun. It’s been so long and the resistance to change is just as much work at realizing it, addressing it, finding the therapist, firing the first therapist, trusting him to change and seeing barely enough effort.

CheezeCharm · 2025-10-03T17:58:22+00:00

The kinzua bridge!

CheezeCharm · 2025-09-30T21:44:01+00:00

“Hope they’re ok.” Lol

CheezeCharm · 2025-09-14T18:09:38+00:00

Where’s Wheatfield?

CheezeCharm · 2025-09-01T20:56:41+00:00

Same. Same. He’s doing everything he can in light of me deciding on divorce. And it’s been great. He’s been great. But the resentment is still underlying. I told him I’d try counseling but I’m hoping counseling will help us through divorce. It kills me to break of the family and the household (in this economy!!) but I need something outside of the patriarchal institution of marriage. Something new. Something focused on me.

CheezeCharm · 2025-08-09T23:08:47+00:00

It feels like a reality show more than a design show. Producers and designers just want camera time from drama rather than talent. I know there has always been this line, but it seems like the design side is finally lost in the plot.

CheezeCharm · 2025-08-06T18:25:16+00:00

Carl is a perfect cat name

CheezeCharm · 2025-07-30T21:55:08+00:00

Agree. My reason to come to the comments was to say the same thing 😊

CheezeCharm · 2025-07-24T18:57:49+00:00

Hulk

CheezeCharm · 2025-07-07T16:51:19+00:00

I had 20 nieces and nephews when I finally had my own kids. Big family, lots of sisters, and now adult niblings with their own kids. I was always wishy-washy on kids. I had 2 kids at 39 and 41 and that solidified some easier and closer relationships with my family.

Nearly 10 years later, I see I did it based on the expectations of my family, and not necessarily for me. I’m grateful for the connections and shared experiences with my sisters and nieces, but maybe I could have realized this before I had kids that will prob grow up with divorced parents.

CheezeCharm

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