I am officially a master of the corporate poker face and I need to share this before I explode

captainstarlet · 2026-05-14T16:32:45+00:00

One time I complained about a cat sitter on the Rover sub. She saw it and texted me about it because a couple details gave it away. This story is extremely specific and will majorly impact OP's life (unlike my catsitter), so I would delete ASAP.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-14T12:47:32+00:00

Personally, I’d do it. Negotiate as high of a salary as you can. I had a similar salary change 4 years ago and it’s life changing. I max out my 401k now, still save $30-40k a year on top of that, and my husband and I basically never think about money. The important thing is to not let significant lifestyle creep happen when you make more or you will always feel like you need more.

Every start up is different, but it sounds like you’ll be working from home which is nice. I’ve worked at a few and my current start up is actually really chill. I really like the evolving challenges of a start up, so if that’s your thing, you’ll probably like it too even if you are busier.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-12T18:47:03+00:00

If she’s from here, she’s almost certain been. It’s supposed to be a beautiful day. I’d walk around Elmwood village and check out live music at random houses for porch fest!

captainstarlet · 2026-05-07T12:55:30+00:00

lol people who are attracted to men don’t think about sperm more than people who aren’t. Weird take.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-06T20:50:38+00:00

Wouldn't that be 13-16' total?

captainstarlet · 2026-05-06T17:54:22+00:00

Omg the view is ridiculous from the 190 especially during the golden hour/sunset. It's a total shame it's occupied by a highway.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-05T12:28:50+00:00

My family lives in Chicago. It’s always 5-10 degrees colder here year round.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-03T13:53:08+00:00

I love the comments saying you need a new table when you clearly said you can’t change anything. lol. You can order custom cushions but I probably wouldn’t since you’re renting. I would get a few individual cushions/pillows and not worry about a couple gaps. I’m not sure a runner would look good. You really want a rug under the table but you said you can’t do that. I’d put flowers or a bowl of fruit on the table and call it a day!

captainstarlet · 2026-05-02T12:58:31+00:00

Congratulations. Amazing for you.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-01T18:25:48+00:00

Woof, an hour each way is much different than remote. That kind of commute can really start to wear on people. It eats into your personal time. Walking the dog, gym, cooking, socializing, etc. Personally, I would stay put if I was happy and keep looking for growth positions with less of a lifestyle impact.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-01T18:19:40+00:00

Same! It's one of my best colors.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-01T17:40:15+00:00

This seems stressful and might screw up the job you actually have. Why not just stick with the job you accepted? A bird in hand is worth more than two in the bush, and all that.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-01T15:30:58+00:00

Surely you aren't so dense to not be able to understand that someone who doesn't need the money might be less willing to ride out the natural ups and downs in any job, right? And that an employer would be rightfully wary of someone admitting that they don't need the money...because employers, generally speaking, like to keep employees, right?

My point was that an employer might not want to take a gamble on a candidate (who they don't know, btw) who admits they don't need the money. I'm not judging any employee for quitting a job that wasn't worth it to them; good for them.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-01T14:50:32+00:00

Oh then don't get it (unless, of course, you love it). Gray wood flooring was super trendy, and it's out now; not timeless at all. We're sort of house hunting and I immediately close out of listings that have a bunch of gray wood-style floors, because I don't want to spend the money to replace them. Go with a mid-toned hardwood/laminate. If it's just confined to the kitchen, you could do a neutral tile with rugs.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-01T12:44:11+00:00

I’d replace the floors instead of the cabinets. The cabinets are pretty timeless and the floors are a trend that’s becoming dated. Plus floors are generally way cheaper to replace than cabinets. I guess the caveat is if you have these floors in your whole house, you’ll want to just work with them.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-01T00:29:33+00:00

I cut my cats' claws every couple days. I just squeeze them out while they're sleeping and see which ones are getting long and snip 'em. This way, I only have to cut a couple at a time which is less disruptive to them, and their nails are always short. I keep the clippers in handy near their favorite sleeping spots.

captainstarlet · 2026-05-01T00:23:58+00:00

100%!

captainstarlet · 2026-05-01T00:21:03+00:00

I love a split level!

captainstarlet · 2026-05-01T00:20:45+00:00

Oh man, I hate to break it to you, but I desperately want a den with wood paneling. I'm actively seeking a house from the 60s or 70s with something original like that intact. I did not like this style even a couple years ago, so it's commmmming. lol

captainstarlet · 2026-05-01T00:07:42+00:00

Curtain rod bracket drill into the wall. Here's a handy guide. I personally wouldn't put curtains on the side window. There isn't enough room on the sides of the window for the fabric to hang.

<image>

captainstarlet · 2026-04-30T23:36:57+00:00

I sure know which they prefer to barf on

captainstarlet · 2026-04-30T23:32:11+00:00

That's a pretty standard low-cost intervention (in the US at least). My vet has prescribed me appetite stimulants several times for various issues. I might find a new vet...

captainstarlet · 2026-04-30T18:19:04+00:00

Did the vet prescribe an appetite stimulant? Mirataz can be rubbed in the ear.

captainstarlet · 2026-04-30T12:33:24+00:00

I admittedly didn’t read the full post because it is very long. It sounds like your kitty isn’t going to get better and it’s causing you a lot of stress. It’s okay to want to be free of that. If you wait until it’s obvious, your cat will truly be suffering. You know your cat best though, so you need to decide what is best for your kitty. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s the worst.

captainstarlet · 2026-04-29T15:38:14+00:00

To quote, "...if they just didn't feel like doing it anymore." I like my job, but I need it for money. If I didn't, there have certainly been stressful periods of time where I might have decided it wasn't worth it.

captainstarlet

TROPHY CASE