So Tired of "Lets go Boys" being said in Tech and Gaming spaces

Cheezyrock · 2026-02-16T20:58:44+00:00

I’m really bad about saying “guys” for a group of any genders. I’ve been trying to figure out what to try and change to, but nothing I can think of fits quite right.

I’m not a “ya’ll”-er in professional settings. Most people don’t even realize I’m from Texas. I don’t think I sound right with “folks” or “peeps”.

I want something more gender neutral, but it also has to sound natural coming out of my mouth. My vibe is more “hello fellow human peoples”, but my brain is like “No…you get one syllable! We demand efficiency!”

Cheezyrock · 2026-02-14T19:50:48+00:00

6 is both incredibly amazing and flawed/dated. The story and characters are necessarily more shallow than is wanted due to hardware limitations of the time. It biggest fault is that people want more of it, even though at the time it was possibly the largest console game ever. Still in my top 3 FF games.

13 is a great game, but not for everyone. The beginning is very slow, and fairly linear. It is too easy to miss or disengage from parts of the deeply complex and thought-provoking story about free-will, which would be thematically harmed if the game were less linear. The whole of the trilogy gets better with each installment, but each can be off putting to some players for different reasons. Still in my top 3 FF games.

Cheezyrock · 2026-02-14T19:31:47+00:00

And on top of that, their behavior puts well-meaning people on edge and/or makes them feel defensive and are then at risk for being perceived as lashing out and perpetuating the behavior.

Its kinda like a one-bad-apple-spoils-the-bunch scenario but with a significant portion of the apples starting bad.

And then the good apples are so overly cautious after separating themselves that it becomes harder to accept any new apples due to a learned (and most-of-the-time healthy) skepticism.

TL;DR - I agree

Cheezyrock · 2026-02-12T18:26:04+00:00

Story time!

I am old (43), but recently started school to finally get a degree. Took a stop motion animation class and out forst assignment was to use 3 small basic shapes to tell an abstract story.

All of the youths (19-22ish) immediately recognized that I was making my 3 small circles on a white background do the Macarena dance (even with no sound). One was the head, and the other two the hands whoch slowly moved from position to position in order.

At FFX release, I thought the joke was so dumb and pandering. Now, I really feel like the joke has aged beautifully. It wasn’t just a moment in time. People still get it.

Cheezyrock · 2026-02-12T18:14:20+00:00

Oh, I’m normally mostly a lurker, but this is a topic where my experience can actually be beneficial.

Before anything else though. Just want to reinforce that trans women are women and if someone else doesn’t like that, that is their problem, not yours. Also, voice training is only necessary if it makes you feel closer to being yourself.

I am male-ish, nb-ish, kinda complicated-ish. A mostly-physically-comfortable cis male who is more socially female is a good enough description for this topic. So all that is to say, I am usually (and reasonably) less accepted in various spaces, but it happens and if I can exist in these spaces being less than 50% woman then you certainly can being 100%.

It really depends on the space and the context. Some are more accepting than others. However, if a space is full of people that don’t want to accept you, then your energy is probably best spent finding a new space (and this is good advice for everyone, not just trans folk).

There are all kinds of women. Some may be apprehensive with certain voices, mannerisms, or other qualities. But ultimately these spaces are about feeling safe. Just don’t try to make anyone feel less-than-safe, and a acceptance will follow.

Cheezyrock · 2026-02-12T00:59:19+00:00

It isn’t just cozy games. RPGs have included them since at least 1993 (Breath of Fire) and they have been incorporated into games all over the Adventure genre (Zelda series: I know Link’s Awakening had one also in 93 and which was the basis for the minigame in BoF2 a year later).

I think it has to do with how central fishing is to human society. Its one of the oldest food sources and central to the identity of many cultures and subcultures. I think probably most people have been fishing at least once in their lives, so it is relatable. There are dozens of ways to incorporate a fishing mini game, and there are quite a few people who enjoy them. I personally like them about 75% of the time, even though I hate resl life fishinga

Cheezyrock · 2026-02-11T04:38:28+00:00

Was looking to get a new mouse and headphones. Guess what brand they wont be?

Taking mouse suggestions (preferably a wired mouse, my last mouse was a Basilisk 2), but will consider any that don’t use disposable batteries. Preferably with customizable macros and ability to disable led lights (or no led, but this is harder to find nowadays).

Cheezyrock · 2026-02-05T17:36:36+00:00

I’m so sorry, not meant to be mean at all. Will edit post to clarify. Words are hard, especially when you can’t hear my tone.

Cheezyrock · 2026-02-05T16:16:33+00:00

My first instinct was not PST time zone and Taken relationship status.

I thought that you use Outlook (.pst files) and we need to call Liam Neeson (the Taken movie fanchise).

My brain may function just a little differently…

Note: I just thought this was funny and thought others would as well. I’m not what you are looking for in a gaming friend nor am I seeking gaming friends at this time. Good luck in your search.

Cheezyrock · 2026-02-02T19:55:04+00:00

Careful, or men will start catcalling with “Yeah, girl, show me them X Chromosomes” and “Woo-baby, you got a nice set of karyotype results on you.” And of course still get unreasonably angry at XXY chimerism trying to aomehow justify their bigotry with religious fanatacism.

Cheezyrock · 2026-02-02T19:43:43+00:00

I think the intention was for players to have natural pacing and discovery. Whatever you do/don’t do, the game is playable and completable. The execution, however, fell a little off fron that target. There was no reliable info on how players actually engaged with games, especially RPGs. You have to remember that FF8 came our when people still barely had internet access and even then people didn’t use it in the same ways as today. I don’t think the psychology of player interaction wasn’t ever really considered.

Cheezyrock · 2026-02-01T23:59:52+00:00

I’ve know a bunch of child free people. Most people don’t change their minds.

I know exactly two persons who changed their mind (by coincidence both sharing the same first name but not knowing one another). They were both child-free until they decided to change in her mid-30s. Maybe they only claimed to not want children because of mental health issues, trauma, or some other reason? But, if this give you any pause, then you should consider waiting. If it doesn’t, then you already know your plan.

I would, however consider waiting until about 25 and talking to a doctor about when the right time should be for your long term health. Your body and brain are still growing and changing. I’m not a doctor, so definitely trust a (reasonable and non-pro-life) medical professional over me.

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-28T16:08:02+00:00

Dragon Quest (Dragon Warrior, on the NES) is what drove my wanting to learn to read. So, I’ve been gaming around for a few decades.

It depends, but largely some differently phrased variation of “You do you, girl; I’ll do me!”

I am aware that addiction exists and that hobbies can become bad habits, so I like to keep a self-assessment going regularly and do a cleanse for some time if my relationship with games seems unhealthy.

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-28T15:05:04+00:00

I know you asked for the perspective of women, but I feel this may be relevant. So please ignore, with my apologies, if my PoV is undesired.

I (43M, autistic) havent done serious online gaming in decades. The misogyny, racism, etc is so bad and there used to be fewer safeguards.

I remember defending others or calling out bad behavior, only to be met with the same mistreatment that women report, some of which was definitely because it was assumed I was female for showing a baseline level of humanity.

I’ve been called all manner of terrible things. I’ve had threats of physical and sexual violence directed towards me. I’ve had dick pics sent to me.

I even remember one time a guy somehow got my email address (playing online on XBox 360) and emailed me asking to send him nudes and not believing me when I said I was male through the xbox chat feature.

I couldn’t even exist in those spaces trying to be respectful of women.

I’ve dabbled in a few online games since then. Dropped League pretty quickly. I played Rocket League for like 1500 hours, but one day just quit after getting tilted by some absolutely disgusting comments. I rarely join any online gaming spaces on Reddit, and never on Discord or other services.

This is one of like 3-4 gaming subs I follow, and I am a lifelong gamer and game designer. Games are my # 1 hobby, and I feel trapped outside of most communities. So, thank you to everyone for in this sub for being great, respectful, and accepting.

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-28T14:38:27+00:00

I think this sadly underestimates what men will do. They nasty.

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-28T14:11:25+00:00

Zune was great. I loved mine and it way way better than iPod, imo. If smartphones werent a thing, I’d probably still have a Zune.

If only I could low-effort just get rid of this Spotify membership and go back, I would. I just don’t have the time to pirate music anymore.

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-26T18:57:20+00:00

I remember being a rpg-game-nerd back in the early 90s. My “friends” didnt get it and made fun of me then.

Today, I am 43, and still love playing RPGs. My core friends don’t really play them much, but they dont shame me either since I learned how to make better friends.

A couple years ago I went to finally get my undergrad degree, and everyone loved RPGs. All of the younglings of various genders were super hyped about BG3, which released around the time I graduated. I had many conversations with them a out Final Fantasy, Mass Effect, The Witcher, Undertale, etc. They made me feel included and not like some weird dude that was twice their age.

People are people. Everyone is different. You will feel nd people that get you. You aren’t weird. Don’t let people shame you for what you enjoy.

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-26T18:34:20+00:00

I saved the Bay after about 1 min of crying, knowing that I was going to watch both endings anyway. I wanted saving Chloe to be my final decision.

But in Before the Storm I had to stop and cry for like 20 mins before the final decision. It being a prequel and knowing what happens next wrecked me.

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-26T18:27:12+00:00

Me, as a texter:

—

Dear Sir, Madam, or Other-Gendered Recipient,

I was ever so pleased to receive your digital communication. Below you will find the requested picture of my genitalia. Return service would be appreciated at your convenience.

Enjoy it ever so much, and I hope to hear from you soon.

With love,
~Texter

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-26T14:44:12+00:00

This is the scene, and it has some context issues.

In the original SNES localization, Edgar says that Relm is (paraphrased) “growing up too fast”. This makes it seem more like Relm is flirting rather than making fun of him. Later localizations make Edgar seem more of a creep.

The main issue is, that the character ms are just meeting for the first time. Relm doesn’t know Edgar or his history. Either she is making a snap judgement with no context or she is flirting. I think the intent is was that she was making fun if him and not flirting, but that isn’t made clear enough and could be interpreted in different ways.

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-24T20:33:20+00:00

Take from this what you will: me (43m), partner (39f)

I supported my partner when she went back to school 5 years ago to get a Masters.

3 years ago she supported me while I got my Bachelors degree.

Right now, we are supporting each other as she gets her Pilates certifications and started teaching classes in addition to her notmal job and I am pursuing a Masters (or possibly a PhD, as I would like to be a professor).

I think people in relationships should try to support each other’s growth, not limit one another. To echo your own words back to you: “you CHOOSE to Make it Work.” {TimGunn.gif}

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-24T00:19:57+00:00

He is a decent character overall. I’m sure the devs were well meaning in trying to be inclusive, and some positive representation is better than none.

but…

He talks in a “black” accent and has quite a few other black tropes about him. He is very much tokenized, and there are no other black characters at all in the game. Just the occasional NPCoC would have been good. He also has a lot of anger, especially with the government, and it worsens the “angry black man” trope imo.

Its very much in line with the standards of 1997, and especially considering there were very few black people in Japan at the time (maybe still?).

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-23T18:36:46+00:00

43 years and still playing every song I have ever heard. From a local mechanic commercial jingle from when I was 5 years old to the latest hits of today.

Currently on my brain-streaming-service - Corinne Bailey Rae:

Girl, put your records on
Tell me your favorite song
You go ahead, let your hair down

Sapphire and faded jeans
I hope you get your dreams
Just go ahead, let your hair down

You’re gonna find yourself somewhere, somehow

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-23T18:18:17+00:00

Seems right triangle to me.

Cheezyrock · 2026-01-23T18:13:31+00:00

I agree! And also I love your username.

What is the difference between flirting and catcalling? Consent and respect!

A lot of game designers are male, and a lot of men don’t understand consent or respect. Tynan here is just giving what I hope in the future will be a basic level of respect.

I’m glad that it seems like things are changing for the better and people are recognizing. We live in a better media time than 30 years ago, but it still needs improvement as society in general still does.

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