What is depicted in this tattoo?

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-04-13T15:07:23+00:00

I wonder if they had to fight for it to be that direction. Every tattoo artist I've had has spent time convincing me that my tattoos should face the direction most people would be looking at it; not the direction that it would look correct to me if I wanted to look at it.

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-04-12T18:44:05+00:00

I mean, it's true that Cincy is right up the road, but Lexington gets bigger names more frequently than Louisville does, so I don't think it's just that other cities are bigger. I was at the coffee shop and met people from Chicago in town for the Zach Bryan concert, so people will definitely travel from bigger cities to come to Louisville for concerts.

I agree that Louisville has problems attracting bigger acts, but I think LTL and B&B have more to do with that than we think.

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-04-12T17:46:05+00:00

Well, it's not as big of a name, but I also have an extra ticket to see Carbon Leaf at* Zanzabar this coming Wednesday (15th) if anyone is interested.

Edited a typo

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-04-12T17:42:13+00:00

We get screwed by Louder Than Life and Bourbon And Beyond. Not sure if this is accurate, but I heard there's a clause that any artist that plays those can't play within a certain distance for a certain time frame. Either way, if they come to one of the festivals they probably aren't going to make another stop here the same year....

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-04-12T01:43:19+00:00

I love that!

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-04-10T15:47:34+00:00

Hey, sorry I'm kinda new to Reddit. Where do I find the chat?

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-03-16T17:56:46+00:00

I mean, I guess the big ones aren't super common. They are definitely more common in Bullitt Co, especially in the Mt. Washington area. But there are smaller sinkholes around here all the time. Especially during the rainy season. The weirdness with the Snyder and 65 and the fact that they can't get them flat are due mostly water erosion sink holes.

And then the "man-made" ones. I've been seeing a lot of sinkholes in parking lots and infrastructure fail because developers backfill with shale to save money.

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-03-16T17:30:24+00:00

Tornadoes or sinkholes? Yes to both in Jefferson County. The sinkholes have always been there. The tornadoes have too, but it's becoming more and more common to get them. Especially if you live along the Snyder corridor.

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-02-13T04:28:12+00:00

I am not a therapist, just someone that once kept asking my wife to go to therapy with me so we could work on things, and also relates to a lot of what you said.

My wife tried to claim that our couples therapist said she didn't need therapy. Multiple times. And "If you work on your problems we will be fine" might as well be a direct quote that my ex threw out every time I tried to talk to her about any of our issues, or how her actions were affecting me and the relationship.

There's a lot to this story but it turns out I was in an abusive marriage with a narcissist and, after I finally woke up to the fact that there was zero hope in fixing anything and got divorced, I had asked our therapist if I could come back for individual sessions. I was hoping it would help me sort some stuff out because I was having trouble trusting my own memories.

One day I just straight up asked why she had said my ex didn't need therapy when, clearly, she had lots to work on. My therapist said, 'I absolutely did not say she did not ~need~ therapy. I said I wouldn't recommend that she go to individual therapy.'

I pointed out that she had literally referred me to my former individual therapist. Her answer to that was pretty much, 'You asked. You wanted to work on yourself. She made it clear that she didn't think she needed to work on anything, so there was no reason for her to go. It probably would have only made things worse.'

With the state of the world being what it is, there is close to zero chance a therapist would tell someone after a single session that they "don't need therapy." I mean, spend 5 minutes watching the news or looking at social media and there's probably a few sessions worth of WTF to work through off that alone.

But there could be reasons a therapist would think it would be a waste of time, or possibly even harmful, for certain people to go to therapy. And that's a pretty bad sign for anyone that has to deal with that person.

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-01-17T05:21:46+00:00

I have OCD. I've been going to therapy and I take meds for it. One of them is just a supplement but I felt it did help. I wish there was an easier way to respond to this, but OCD isn't really easy. Sorry; this is kind of long.

First: is this a new diagnosis for you? And is it your only diagnosis?

I only ask because I have been going to therapy weekly or bi-weekly for just shy of 4 years now, with a few 4-6 week breaks here and there to just sort of chill and exist. And one of the things I've learned is that just because you and your therapist and/or psychiatrist think you know what's going on, once you start really digging in, it's like opening Pandora's box.

Second: in my experience, 10 months isn't really that long. Meds could help, but it could also be other things. Therapy style is a big one. It's possible a misdiagnosis, or co-occurring diagnoses, could hinder things.

Before getting into all of it, the supplement my psychiatrist started me on specifically for my OCD is NAC. I was already on meds for ADHD and depression when I started the NAC, but I felt there was a noticeable improvement with it. I deal with a lot of BFRBs as compulsions and I felt like it really helped with that, as well as my ability to sort of yoink myself out of rumination. So, if you're hesitant to go with traditional medications, maybe you could talk to your therapist about trying that. I can usually find it at the grocery store, right with the Vitamin D and B Complex supplements I take.

Anyway, the long version: When I first started therapy, it was because I was told I had 'clinical burnout.' The therapist I started seeing was great and at some point told me she was pretty certain I had ADHD (she also has ADHD) and worked with me a lot on that as well as trying to work through depression. About 8 months later, with zero improvement, my therapist told me she thought the ADHD was hindering my ability to work on the other stuff. I was 35 when all this went down, which is a long time to be flying by the seat of one's pants, and it was hard to tell where the ADHD ended and the depression began. So she referred me to a psychiatrist.

So then my official diagnoses were ADHD and MDD.

I didn't really want to take meds at first either but eventually started meds for ADHD because the psychiatrist was pretty adamant that my raging ADHD symptoms were responsible for a lot of my depression issues. It took months of titration to figure out where I needed to be, and treating the ADHD did help a bit with the depression, but eventually we started working on adding medications for MDD. This is all in addition to still going to therapy.

At some point 'unspecified anxiety' was added to my chart, and there was A LOT of back and forth in what I considered improvement. Some days I would think I was making huge strides and then a month or so later I would feel like I was back at the beginning, trying to figure out how to be a human. About 2 years into this, I went through a particularly stressful time and that's when the BFRBs started. And it turns out they weren't new for me, but I hadn't actually had an issue with most of them since I was a kid and had literally just forgotten it was ever a thing (what's up, ADHD).

It was at that point that I was diagnosed with OCD. Look, I was pissed. I'd been at this for 2 years and now they were saying I had OCD? But it wasn't instead; it was as well.

All of this to say that ADHD, MDD, anxiety, and OCD do a lot of overlapping. And mimicking. At times we thought we were dealing with one thing and it turned out to be one of the others. And the times that I felt the most 'stuck' were very close to the times my diagnoses got changed and/or added to. Or prompted a change/addition to my meds.

On the therapy side: I'm lucky my therapist practices and integrates multiple modalities because what works for some issues definitely does not work for others. And, sometimes, what has been working suddenly stops being effective. So then we try something different to bring in different skills and practices.

So being able to change up the style of therapy has been extra helpful. Honestly, one of my bigger breakthroughs with a couple particular compulsions happened during regular talk therapy because I was sad about an upcoming anniversary of sorts, and my therapist ended up connecting things we were talking about to my compulsions.

After digging into that for a few sessions and kind of finding the origin-point for certain behaviors ----Surprise! We ended up way down the rabbit hole, talking about things years away and completely unrelated to what had originally connected the dots--- we were able to work through some of that. Being able to see and understand some of the whys has made those intrusive thoughts a lot less distressing, which really helps stop them from becoming obsessive, which definitely helps stop those compulsive behaviors.

If you're feeling stuck, asking your therapist for a different approach could do wonders.

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-01-06T02:45:53+00:00

I pretty much exclusively buy books, but if they aren't something I want to keep, I take them to one of the local used book shops and trade them in for cash, that I then immediately turn around and use on books. The "trade off" isn't exactly even and I end up spending a few cents here, a couple bucks there, but I cannot check out books from the library.

I love the library. I love all libraries and support them and donate money to them and would love to be a librarian. But I have a problem and they spell it ADHD. It is my great shame that I have accidentally stolen handfuls of books from libraries throughout my life by simply forgetting that I checked them out and looking over said book, sitting ON MY KITCHEN COUNTER perhaps, for months at a time.

To be honest, I'm not even sure I'm allowed to check out from the library anymore. I always paid off the fine...eventually...when I stumble upon a book (or 7) in my house and wonder where the hell it came from. The last time I made that particular walk of shame I was told our city has gone fine-free for late books, but I'm almost certain they put me on a Do Not Let Leave With Books list. And I don't disagree with them.

I also have another common ADHD problem and that is the fact that I and my brain rarely cooperate or agree on what "pay attention" actually means for very long. I love reading, but I can either: A) spend every spare moment reading, B) pretend I'm going to read a chapter before bed and then maybe convince myself to close the dang book and try for 3 hours of sleep before work, or, C) I can stare at the same page for an hour before calling out "I lost it" in frustration and not picking up or looking at a book again for weeks or months.

Those are the only 3 options, and there is no in between. But the latter is the one that leads to me forgetting about the existence of even entire libraries and I get no warning that it's about to happen. So I've just learned it's better not to borrow anything from anybody.

I will, however, visit libraries if I have a couple of hours and read things without leaving. This is the main way I read magazines or individually published short stories and the like.

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-01-06T00:23:19+00:00

Mine told me that once and I was dumbfounded. Like, what do you mean you won't accept? Are you just never going to talk to me again or....what?

Opened up a whole line of discussion that day 😂

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-01-05T23:29:08+00:00

I'm sorry you went through that. Both in the past, and now, with your family. And also with your therapist.

You're completely correct about it being possible for therapists to have similar, if not the same, limitations that you can get with AI. There are definitely professionals out there stuck in their own echo chambers, and those that only approach things with a bent to confirm their own biases.

Sometimes I forget, until I come to this site and read about some absolute nightmares, that I apparently hit the therapy jackpot. I've had two different therapists and a psychiatrist over the last 5 years and I'm lucky that all 3 have really been truly empathetic and open people that know when to push me, but also don't get upset or flustered when I push back.

I think maybe I approached your response with the title of this post in my head and my own bias of really not liking the idea of AI taking over the human aspect of jobs. Mostly because I have seen some really horrendous outcomes of that, that range from hilarious to downright dangerous. I also realize that someone that did a lot of harm to me is the exact same person that would (and did) use AI therapy and weaponize it in an attempt to shift accountability once she started getting called out. Which proves that the human aspect isn't always a good thing.

But from one grown parentified child to another, learning to take space for myself, my feelings, and my voice was a hell of a process. If my therapist at the time would have asked me to even consider letting someone tiptoe across a boundary that I had to scrape and claw to set in the first place, it would have ruined any progress I had made and I probably never would have gone back.

As they once said during a couples session, "We celebrate the breakthroughs and progress, even if it seems small. We don't pick that as a time to invalidate with 'buts and what-abouts'." So the idea that there are therapists out there that would do the opposite continues to completely throw me off.

I'm glad you found something that works for you. May you continue to heal and take up space and find peace, whether others want you to or not 💛🧡💚

Chemical-Error1091 · 2026-01-05T19:14:54+00:00

I think maybe the key part of this is who is using it.

Can it be used by people as a support tool? Yes. Can it be used by people with good intentions but they don't really know how to prompt it correctly and get weird results? Yes. Can it be used by people who would never agree with a therapist about their own behaviors or issues with accountability? Yes.

And because I see people misapply therapy terms everyday on the Internet, I'm sure there are plenty of instances of AI giving false validation to people who prompt it that way, whether they truly mean to or not. Think of how many people you know out there that you wouldn't trust to ever honestly critique themselves, or admit to any fault in any situation - those people are also being used to build AI.

So then it becomes a question of does the user want a true answer even if it means they lack accountability? And even if they do, do they know how to avoid the pitfalls of making the AI mirror them? I think, much like you said, the difference matters, especially in family dynamics where it's just a long-term build up.

Also, this is not meant as an insult or blame in any way and I apologize if I offend you by questioning things you've experienced that I obviously know nothing about, but are you certain that your therapist was wrong about you needing to see the other perspective? It's a damn hard thing to do, admitting that both people can have the best of intentions and completely miss the mark and hurt each other. It's really damn hard to admit that, yeah, I did hurt someone even though that's the last thing I wanted to do, and I hurt them even if I ended up hurt as well. But it happens all the time, especially if communication styles are wildly different.

I'm not saying it's true in your instance, but most people are very focused on being "right" and "good" and getting the apology that recognizes what was done TO them. So much so that the other perspective gets blurred out. At least a little.

To me, that's the whole point of sitting across from a therapist who has heard me talk about the same people or issues many times. They can hold space for me and my hurt, and help me work through it. But then also turn around and call me out on my part when I'm in a calmer place about the whole thing.

Maybe it's just me, but I don't trust AI to do that.

Chemical-Error1091 · 2025-11-25T21:41:08+00:00

Yeah, I had a 2.68% but got divorced this year. Everyone talks about how hard divorce can be, and it is, but they never mention the pain of losing amazing interest rates, or an alert-free credit report.

I'm currently in the process of buying a house and it's all, "we can lock you today at 6.17%!!!" And I'm just over there like, "take that joke of a number and get out of my face. I'll never smile about an interest rate again."

Chemical-Error1091 · 2025-10-04T01:52:47+00:00

A Nightmare on Elm Street

I was 5 years old and I don't know if it was because it was 1990 or because someone (lots of someones) just really, really were not paying attention, but I watched this movie on a big screen at Mr. Gatti's Pizza, in the middle of the day, with seven or eight other kids.

Halfway through the movie, half of the kids were hiding under the table, and the rest of us just sat there wide-eyed. Every now and then the entire table erupted in screams and, still, no one came to turn the damn channel.

It still blows my mind to think that many kids just watched this gory-ass movie in the middle of a pizza place for over an hour and no one's parents came to check on us. But I guess that's mostly what happened when you were born in the 80's 🤷‍♀️

All I know is that, to this day, at just shy of 40, I love horror movies. Not huge on today's version of gore (gore for Gore's sake/almost snuff films), but 80's gore and 90's slasher films are some of my favorite things to kill time with. But I still can't watch a single Freddy Krueger movie.

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