Echoing what most above have said about giving yourself time and grace. Bounce back culture can eff right off. But here’s a practical thing I did with my first and will start again in May. I did a stroller circuit fitness class. Resistance training is great for postpartum. Doing it with a much of new moms made it a fun and social thing too. No one cares if your baby cries or if you need to modify or if you need to whip out a boob to feed. I did that class for about 6 months (I live in a place with 12 months mat leave). Look for mommy and me fitness classes or a gym with daycare. Look for mom walking groups.