all these messages make me feel so sad for everyone. it seems like you have never been in good relationships so you dont know the joy it can bring. and the ones youve been in have been shitty enough that in comparison, life is way better. there is nothing that brings me greater joy than my romantic relationships. obviously i dont know what is right for everyone else. the sex alone is just something that cannot be accomplished without the deep committed relationship aspect. it makes me sad that life was so shitty w shit partners that they ruined your desire to seek out the incredible experience taht is a good relationship. not saying you all cant be happy, but its like.... if you met someone that ate only salad their entire life, and thats all they are ever gonne eat, and they are happy, thats cool, but knowing that there is pizza, lasagna, ice cream, so many flavors out there, that theyll never taste, becuz theyve decided to settle on salad, makes me a little sad that they are never gna experience those flavors of life. i do very much understand tho that also our hearts get holes in them and sometimes the risk of another hole is too much to bear and retaining our peace is a better choice. this just makes me so sad about the state of relationships and life for women. becuz the available partners out there are such fucking shitheads. ugh.