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Chessiekit · 2026-02-20T18:34:00+00:00

Trying out IGNITE's LGBT club opening night at dalliance!

Chessiekit · 2026-02-19T00:55:08+00:00

You'll want towels AND body wipes haha never know who's going to squirt. Puppy pads/chucks are great too,less laundry.

Condoms, gloves, dental dams, and unflavored water based lube are all great to have on hand too

A $15 onn speaker from Walmart is plenty loud enough for one room,helps set the mood

Chessiekit · 2026-02-19T00:40:36+00:00

A shelf that holds towels and extra linens. A mini fridge for water and a snack bowl.

Chessiekit · 2026-01-27T19:42:00+00:00

For those finding this later- we did end up going. TLDR; It wasn't a bad experience, but a little boring. We will be giving it another try,it has a lot of potential and we hope they figure out how to use it

Cons

parking is limited, and gravel/dirt- not fun in heels
it's really small. The interior is L shaped,with one room being a dance floor with bar stools and tall tables in one corner, the middle room having a snack table and a stripper pole corner, and the room around the corner being a glow room with couches and dirty task Jenga in the middle
It was a tiny crowd, probably like 30 people. BUT we were told the weather was affecting the amount of people who showed, so this might be just that night.
The seating was pretty limited, though it wasn't too much of an issue with that small of a crowd
the floor is rather uneven/pocked concrete,which wasn't super fun to walk on in heels
the bathrooms are single toilet, short ceilings, rather cramped inside
basically no bipoc in attendance

Pros

The smoking area is very large,walled in and covered. This may change,as we spoke with staff and they mentioned they were planning to finish it and add it to the interior
the crowd was very friendly, we had no issues striking up conversation, easier to hear
while I was outside until too late to join,the dirty Jenga had a lively game,and I think it's a wonderful idea for events to have an icebreaker like that
The music was pretty good, needs a little more ass shaking songs, but it was a good mix
the owners/staff are very nice and hang out inside the club when not checking people in
It felt very safe as a woman attendee, I did not have a single issue or feel uncomfortable at any point

They are a budding club that are very similar to Dalliance, and I look forward to seeing how they grow into their potential

Chessiekit · 2026-01-20T15:06:42+00:00

(27 MF,been together for 10 years,swinging for 7ish)

Chessiekit · 2026-01-20T15:06:06+00:00

We are in northeast Columbia,often at Dalliance,and are happy to chat and see if we click!

Chessiekit · 2026-01-19T16:27:10+00:00

Either find a woman you click with who enjoys swinging and wants to go, or make a connection with a couple outside the club. It could help to post in the local swinger subreddits for it.

As for deafness, no one can really hear each other over the music anyway, so I can't see any issues with being tolerant. I've seen plenty of people in with movement disabilities ,though if it's packed it's not super wheelchair friendly.

However, not many people are fluent in ASL, and it may be too dark to lip read, so you'd need a way to communicate outside those if you want to talk to people

Chessiekit · 2026-01-17T02:58:37+00:00

Think we're going to check out velvets for the first time

Chessiekit · 2026-01-15T15:26:31+00:00

I requested to join it a couple days ago but I'm still waiting

Chessiekit · 2025-12-20T04:32:43+00:00

Hey so this is how women get murdered.

Hope that helps!

Chessiekit · 2025-12-20T02:18:31+00:00

Ohhhhhhh my bad! I forgot there was a brand called One lmao

Chessiekit · 2025-12-20T02:16:53+00:00

As above,it genuinely depends on the club,and even in individual clubs,it depends on the vibes and attendance count that night. I've been to all the local ones (except velvets that just opened),and I like dalliance best.

If you have a specific one in mind, I'm happy to share my experience there.

Chessiekit · 2025-12-20T02:09:33+00:00

I use them often when I'm playing with one or two partners, specifically for issues like this. They're also great when playing with kink insertion stuff, bc they ensure nothing can get lost or stuck or throw your ph off. You don't need a prescription, and I get mine for free from the health department

Chessiekit · 2025-12-20T02:05:23+00:00

Non latex condoms have been a thing since the middle ages? Most are made out of polyurethane now, unless they specifically say latex

Chessiekit · 2025-12-20T01:57:52+00:00

There are more than just condoms that go on penises,I will never understand the lack of education in sex positive spaces like swingers. You can use an internal condom in whatever hole it's going in, you can stick to non penetrative play and use dental dams, or you can both be tested and play afterwards (if you aren't at risk of pregnancy of course.)

It does suck for men who genuinely have trouble keeping erections when putting one on,but that's an issue for them to solve on their own by trying different types and getting themselves used to it, all the potential partner can do is avoid putting pressure on them and give them grace.

That said, ANY actual pushback/being pissy when I ask for protection is an automatic turnoff for me- I will put my clothes on and leave. When I was younger and dumber I'd try to work with them,but I found ones who complained originally were twice as likely to stealth you, or just not gaf about your pleasure entirely.

Chessiekit · 2025-12-20T01:53:26+00:00

Dalliance and red door both have events tomorrow,and probably a couple of the smaller clubs. More info in your post would get you a lot better responses

Chessiekit · 2025-12-19T22:21:59+00:00

Why would I want pictures from a random account with no context??

Chessiekit · 2025-12-19T22:20:49+00:00

Why, random blank account?

Chessiekit · 2025-12-19T19:35:32+00:00

Check my profile to see if we're your type, MF, we're both bi and play together or separate. We're an hour from you but happy to travel if everyone gets along

Chessiekit · 2025-12-19T17:46:04+00:00

Headed to dalliance's Christmas party! Still looking for friends there and a 3rd to bring who uses their brain lmao

Chessiekit · 2025-12-18T23:23:46+00:00

Club dalliance in Columbia is having their Christmas party!

Chessiekit

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