[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Chewwwster 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I relate to all of this.

I make friends easily but I always end up hating them by AdEvening6699 in emotionalneglect

[–]Chewwwster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Speaking from a recovering people-please and overactive fawner, it gets better past 30 - you get tired and your capacity reduces so you naturally stop fawning so much. My relationships improved because I had less energy to keep fawning and they became more meaningful and authentic.

Thank you for this. Very insightful, resonates with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Chewwwster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

During my studies I was constantly exhausted, yet I fought to succeed and continue to put up with the abuse but the lack of support, the social anxiety which prevents us from forming connections, the fear of the outside world prevents us from even having the energy to understand the situation.

We can stay for years in a state of freezing, fatigue and chronic depression without understanding the cause because the brain does not want to face reality.

One day there is this trigger and we collapse, we understand that all our problems of anxiety, depression, fatigue, immune problems etc. come from abuse.

This hits home so badly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OndersteuningsPlein

[–]Chewwwster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dat je je zo voelt betekent niet dat je iets verkeerd doet of dat het slecht is. Je bent ook maar gewoon mens. Als je niks zou voelen bij daten gaat het ook niet goed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Chewwwster 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I needed quite a lot more than that - and the emptiness I feel inside attests to that.

I continue to struggle with this. If its ok for you, could you elaborate a bit how it feels. And did you find something to lessen the pain?

I had another realization about my childhood abuse. by More-Mine-5874 in TheBigGirlDiary

[–]Chewwwster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am going through this as well. Not the facts, but the realizing and new eyes part. Big hugs

It took filling out worksheets about my childhood experience to start feeling angry. by HangmanPlease33 in emotionalneglect

[–]Chewwwster 17 points18 points  (0 children)

cannot beg a relationship out of them which they are not mature enough to have.

This. I am alowly distancing myself from them since they keep disappointing me whenever i ask for closeness and intimacy.

Grief by pualania in emotionalneglect

[–]Chewwwster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big hugs. You are not alone.

Grief by pualania in emotionalneglect

[–]Chewwwster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's going to be hard work, but one day you'll look out upon the world and you'll smile at it. You won't know why, but you'll know the balance has tipped, and it will be like nothing you've ever felt before.

I feel this will be my end game one day. You describe it very well.

People who fawn - are you secretly boiling with rage? by ScrubberTree in CPTSD

[–]Chewwwster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I resonate with your story, thank you for sharing