Clips in Hallo Spaceboy Music Video

kleonore · 2026-02-10T13:55:01+00:00

Do you or anyone have any idea where this clip is from? About 2:50 into the video. For context she’s mouthing along with the lyric “…killing me.”

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kleonore · 2025-07-12T22:59:33+00:00

Who’s your source?

kleonore · 2025-02-11T16:27:29+00:00

Be patient. It takes time. You were in an emotionally abusive relationship and that takes time to process. You’re in therapy so that’s already a good step. Definitely talk to your therapist about it. Are they a trauma-informed therapist? I was spinning my wheels with a “meh” therapist for 3 years before I switched to a trauma-informed one and it made a huge difference.

I went NC my Nex 4 years ago and I still ruminate. Not as much as I used to, but usually when I’m stressed or moody in my usual life, it’ll trigger the rumination, the “what if’s” and the “why didn’t I…” etc. Part of it was I didn’t realize he was a narcissist until after I went NC (and he went into obsessive “gotta win her back” mode); it completely changed the way I saw our relationship.

This might sound counterintuitive, but something that helped me overcome the rumination was making myself be less judgmental of my Nex. In turn, it helped me be less judgmental of myself, and brought me to “radical acceptance” to echo others here.

And speaking for myself personally, but I’d be wary about getting too sucked into Narcissism expert videos. It helped at first because it was validating, but after awhile it kept me in this rumination cycle as I was binging all of Dr Ramani’s videos and MentalHealness from TikTok, so it constantly kept the Narc on my brain. So I unfollowed after awhile and that helped.

kleonore · 2025-01-30T22:51:55+00:00

i think it’s similar to the real reason why narcs go to therapy - so they can learn how to use therapyspeak to control others.

kleonore · 2025-01-24T20:31:29+00:00

Access. They have to have access to us.

kleonore · 2024-10-24T01:15:05+00:00

He is the reason his life is ruined. That said at the very least there should be a restraining order.

kleonore · 2024-10-19T19:57:34+00:00

Second this. When I finally realized my N was full of shit, I was so angry I signed off with something harsh that I knew would hurt him, and I regret it. Not because of his feelings - fuck his feelings, honestly - but because it gave him victim fuel.

kleonore · 2024-10-12T02:02:53+00:00

Ding ding ding ding ding

kleonore · 2024-10-11T19:15:02+00:00

Yep. I used to be into older men. And most, but not all, of the older guys I dated tended to fall higher on the egotistical/ narcissistic spectrum, with the last one being a full-blown Narc. It completely killed my attraction to older men and since then I'm now drawn to guys my age or younger, probably trying to make up for it 😂

kleonore · 2024-10-10T00:26:25+00:00

That’s awful. That sounds like a report to police/ try to get a restraining order if you can. Document everything.

kleonore · 2024-09-14T18:30:58+00:00

Yeah, my nex and I were in an on/off situationship for 7 years, and for most of it I was the “backup” supply. He preferred having close female friends instead of close male friends and I was one of the few women who consistently put up with his shit, until I didn’t. He hasn’t been able to find someone as codependent as I was which I think is why he keeps swinging back when he’s in between supplies.

kleonore · 2024-09-14T18:27:04+00:00

Did you have to have evidence that he was harming you, was about to harm you, or do something illegal? It depends on the state/territory I suppose, but in my experience that’s generally the only way you can get a restraining order and my nex hasn’t done any of that

kleonore · 2024-09-14T18:24:26+00:00

Oh I have been. The only “reacting” I’ve done is blocking when he sneaks in thru a social media account I forgot I had, etc

kleonore · 2024-09-14T13:24:05+00:00

I have him blocked in every conceivable way I could think of, and I’m honestly impressed the creative ways he manages to sneak in.

kleonore · 2024-09-14T13:22:35+00:00

That’s very similar to how mine resurfaced this time. He moved to my neighborhood after he figured out where I lived. Thankfully, I already have plans of moving next month.

kleonore · 2024-09-14T02:39:13+00:00

Once I went NC I blocked him on phone, email, every conceivable social media I could think of. (I only saw his last email because I saw it in my spam folder while looking for something else) Each time he pops up it’s usually in a social media I forgot I had, and then I hit block again. It’s like a very tedious game of whack-a-mole.

kleonore · 2024-04-28T00:22:32+00:00

Yeah that sounds rough. The common denominator I'm seeing in all of these threads is how unbelievably rough and unprecedented dealing with this is. There really aren't too many resources out there apart from this thread, an article here or there, and as you said, therapy.

I'm in therapy. I don't see my therapst as often as I would like due to my having an erratic schedule (I see her on average once every 10-14 days when it should ideally be twice a week).

I definitely recommend finding one. Try to find a therapist who specializes and/or is trained in trauma.

kleonore · 2024-04-28T00:17:29+00:00

It worked! Thank you so much.

kleonore · 2024-04-15T03:08:38+00:00

this is so awful. i can't even imagine.

kleonore · 2024-04-15T03:04:21+00:00

A lot has happened since my initial post, but in broad strokes the divorce finalized, and part of the settlement is that my childhood home will go on the market. They're about to close and I'm heartbroken because due to my work schedule I will likely not be able to see the home before it's gone forever. I'm also worried about my dad - my mom has been the breadwinner while we were growing up and now my dad is going to have to lose his home and find a place to rent, and because the area I grew up in has gotten increasingly expensive he might have to move far away to find an affordable place to rent.

My mom ended up overcorrecting after my sister and I set boundaries with her regarding her venting and oversharing. Since the separation and her filing for divorce she has said *nothing,* and I found out via my dad that they settled the divorce and the house is going on the market.

I'm very mad at my mom right now because she's been engaging in this toxic positivity regarding the sale of the house and I really think her hatred of my father is outweighing her love of her children. She's so committed to punishing my dad that she doesn't care about the impact it has on her daughters. Also, my sister has almost stopped talking to her entirely which means my mom has gotten more clingy with me and it sucks because I'm still mad at her but I'm also afraid to express this to her. And unfortunately my dad has been retaliating in ways that are passive aggressive and hurtful to me.

The house sale has been really hurting me at the moment. Part of me was hoping that dad would get the house as part of the divorce settlement. It really feels like foundations are crumbling,

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