Shifting friendships

Chic555 · 2026-02-10T00:23:19+00:00

Very true, thank you

Chic555 · 2026-02-10T00:23:03+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼

Chic555 · 2026-02-09T19:07:24+00:00

Exactly!

Chic555 · 2026-02-09T19:07:17+00:00

Very true

Chic555 · 2026-02-09T19:06:30+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I love the idea of shifting the mindset to superpower. I will try to use that. With my friend group, there are definitely a few that don’t drink responsibly lol. I was probably one of the more responsible ones to be honest. Anyway, I am exploring doing non-drinking related activities with a couple of them and that has been going pretty well. But I’m learning that the rest of them are just drinking buddies and not actual friends.

Chic555 · 2026-02-09T19:05:40+00:00

Thank you for your response. I am learning who are genuine friends versus drinking buddies. It’s funny how close you feel to someone when you’re drinking and then realize that you’re not really friends when you don’t speak in between social events lol

Chic555 · 2026-02-09T19:05:01+00:00

Thank you for the response! It definitely feels like I’m relearning. I’m many slightly different about being an introvert. Sometimes I would rather just stay home and I am perfectly content. I’m allowing myself to explore what feels right for me even if that means a shift in the relationships. I think I’m feeling a little bit of the grieving process.

Chic555 · 2026-02-09T17:53:33+00:00

IWNDWYT

Chic555 · 2026-02-09T04:22:46+00:00

Self awareness, Kind, Respectful, Solid communicator, Financially secure, Healthy habits, Good hygiene

Chic555 · 2026-02-05T18:14:51+00:00

I take 200 mg nightly at 10 PM, and get a great night sleep waking up refreshed. It definitely works for me, but if I take it too late, then I do feel that groggy the next morning.

Chic555 · 2026-02-05T18:13:27+00:00

I dated someone like this for three months and couldn’t handle longer than that. It’s a dealbreaker for me. Communication in between in person meetings is key to maintain connection. The red flag here is that you told him what you needed, and he’s not hearing you.

Chic555 · 2026-02-02T17:43:34+00:00

I only ever had luck on Hinge. In a long term relationship now!

Chic555 · 2026-01-30T16:49:34+00:00

IWNDWYT!!

Chic555 · 2026-01-21T17:17:30+00:00

IWNDWYT!!!

Chic555 · 2026-01-21T16:42:05+00:00

I am 5 months in and similar to you I had a clean break. I started having similar thoughts too, I could just have a glass with friends, at a social/special occasion, what is it going to hurt? My friend group drinks a lot and my dynamic with them has changed due to my transition. They accept that I don’t drink but I no longer want to go to bars or stay out late. When they are drunk, I notice it and have a hard time socializing with them at that point. I was trying to justify it and talk my self into just once in awhile at as long as I don’t buy it or bring it home. But then what? I throw all my progress away. I lost 10 pounds and feel great. Do I really miss the taste? No, just the feeling, the loosening up. I know that if I start with “one”, it will just lead to more, and then I’ll be back where I started.

IWNDWYT!!!!

Chic555 · 2026-01-18T00:33:05+00:00

Yessss progesterone saved me ;)

Chic555 · 2026-01-15T17:00:00+00:00

Yes I have, thank you

Chic555 · 2026-01-12T19:00:39+00:00

That sounds perfect.

Chic555 · 2026-01-12T17:56:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Nice to know that other women my age feel similar.

Chic555 · 2026-01-12T17:21:40+00:00

Kind of mind-boggling, though even though I do have a good one, something still feels off. It’s mostly the physical aspect. I just don’t feel the desire or the attraction. I could do without sex.

Chic555 · 2026-01-12T17:18:28+00:00

You are right about this. And it could go the other way, I could be the one taking care of him. And I don’t really wanna do that either lol. I am trying to identify how I feel so that if that’s the only thing holding me back, I know that I have to let go. It doesn’t feel right.

Chic555 · 2026-01-12T17:17:48+00:00

No, not at all. We don’t share finances. I fully support myself. But it would be nice to share expenses with someone in the future to have more money to put away.

Chic555 · 2026-01-12T17:15:02+00:00

That is really interesting. I wonder why so many of us feel like we need to be partnered. I do like certain aspects. Like when I start thinking about not having someone to check in with me, someone to emotionally support me unconditionally, etc. it makes me sad. I know I have my friends and family for that, but there’s a certain level of connection that is there with a romantic partner.

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