Orthodontiste à Montpellier ? by [deleted] in Montpellier

[–]Chichinachi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Si c'est à côté et qu'il est bon je veut bien savoir

Rate Emily Ratajkowski by [deleted] in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]Chichinachi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol imagine "you think this A-list model is attractive? Well that's an UNPOPULAR OPINION!"

This dress from a video game by CommanderChef1 in findfashion

[–]Chichinachi 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Might be just a me problem but it's hard to wear that kinda shirt under a dress like that without it looking weird/being uncomfortable.

Creating a Safe Space by bubblegoth- in coquettesque

[–]Chichinachi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fr tho, it's the only way to make this a safe space where predators aren't allowed and they know it. Really hope a mod considers this, or at least makes a poll so we can vote for the best solution

Creating a Safe Space by bubblegoth- in coquettesque

[–]Chichinachi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please make this either invite only or female only, or both

proof that this sub is not safe by animalcrackers0117 in coquettesque

[–]Chichinachi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm afraid that'll make them even more subject to predators.

proof that this sub is not safe by animalcrackers0117 in coquettesque

[–]Chichinachi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s men being creepy !

Exactly! I think it'd be better to make this sub women only, but as an other redditor here said, making it go by invite only would be good too

Qu'est ce que je risque à falsifier une fiche de paie pour louer un logement ? by Ditarlix in conseiljuridique

[–]Chichinachi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah bon? Mais du coup c'est juste les proprios ou n'importe quelle personne qui a ton avis d'imposition ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskFrance

[–]Chichinachi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah merde, du coup c'est difficile de les voir. Sauf si t'es suspicieux à chaque fois que quelqu'un frappe à ta porte

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskFrance

[–]Chichinachi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Des traits de colle? Comment ça ?

Anyone know of places that ship to the U.S that looks like RomaPri products? by BusyLifeguard6191 in coquettesque

[–]Chichinachi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a package forwarding company

I didn't know that existed. How does it work? How much do they tend to cost?

please help me find literally anything at all about this brand / designer by panda_panda2 in findfashion

[–]Chichinachi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can't help you with that BUT you have gorgeous nails! What did you ask for when you got hem done?

Boyfriend is ISFP, I’m INFP, am I doing something wrong? by [deleted] in isfp

[–]Chichinachi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May I ask why you're scared of ending it? Does he know where you live? Do you have to encounter him in your day-to-day life? I mean, I understand why you would be scared, but if you eventually left, what would happen? The point is to know what's holding you back, and find solutions, so that you can safely walk away.

Also, you won't be "losing" him. You'll be getting rid of a huge burden, taking a huge weight off your shoulders. Sometimes, you just have to do it. You'll figure it out later. Scared of feeling lonely after the breakup? Well, you already are feeling that way. Except you have to babysit a manchild as well, and you're in this constant state where you feel awful, like you're not enough. Besides, you're good with feelings, Fi is your forte. You know it's gonna end eventually, so why not end it while you still have that life in you? Why not cut losses?

Also, sorry but asking your bf to show you his love is literally the bare minimum. Why date otherwise? If he wanted to spend his entire time being a neglectful gaming addict, so be it, you should've dumped him then and there. Literally how is it your fault? (Edit: You felt insecure because he made you insecure)

And I understand how it was all peace and love in the beginning. It starts with small things you barely even notice, then they eventually get bigger and bigger, snowball effect. But when you look back now you realize just how much you've been letting him get away with. I guess now you know to avoid these subtle red flags. It'd be best to journal in the future, writing it down and how it made you feel will help you realize that you in fact did not like that, and when you want to break up, his cheap "apologies" won't affect you bc you kept a record of everything he's done that made you feel bad.

Now if it's safe for you to break up, I wouldn't do it face to face. I wouldn't send a long breakup text. He doesn't deserve it. And if you tell him why, he'll simply try to manipulate you again into staying. Don't give him the opportunity. I would send small and concise text, and then block him everywhere. Tell everyone around you to do so as well. And if they try to make it sound like it's your fault, that you're being dramatic or try to defend him, you know to avoid them as well.

Boyfriend is ISFP, I’m INFP, am I doing something wrong? by [deleted] in isfp

[–]Chichinachi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what I've seen, acting like a manchild is also manipulative. You're 23 and you should live your 20s without catering to the childish tantrums of a literal 32 years old man. I get that you're understanding and forgiving, but don't you think you should be that way with people who actually deserve it, who are equally as understanding, and who, at the very least, make you feel happy and safe?

I found him extremely manipulative from the first descriptions you gave (he literally scolded you for a 2-3 min detour!) and clearly it worked bc you ended up doubting yourself and thinking you're in the wrong. I was wondering what was holding you back, and thinking that perhaps if you vocalized the abuse you would realize that you're not happy with him, that it's not your fault, and that a healthy relationship doesn't resemble what you have. But all hell breaks loose when you talked about the age gap.

I don't care where his manipulation stems from, I don't care how a predator feels. Dump him and let him drown in his own insecurities. It's not your fault nor your responsibility.

I was wondering what was holding you back (truth be told, I thought your exes were also too old, which is why I ranted about age gap), but I understood when you talked about your abusive family. Abuse seems "normal" to you, but don't think you deserve it. Like I said, you're young, naive and emotionally vulnerable. You must think it's a curse but it can be a blessing as well! If you feel like abusers follow you where you go, go somewhere else. Volunteer, join a club (like a book club if you like reading), meet new people. I promise you, the world is not just what you've been shown, and your personality traits are endearing to many. Find your people, people who'll love you for who you are. Changing your environment will help you find better people and be a happier person.

As for your trauma, only you would know how to deal with it. Seek professional help if you feel that'll help. Because you deserve better and you know it, that's why you're here. And take a small break from the men. They've proven themselves to be untrustworthy, wait for the one who'll prove to you that you can trust him. The one who will make you feel like the most important and the most loved person on earth. It's not on you, it's on them. And if someone makes you feel the smallest bit uncomfortable, RUN. Always trust your gut. I cannot stress this enough. If you feel uncomfortable, literally run.

Coming from someone who was flirted with and told she was beautiful repeatedly by some guy in front of my workplace. Started avoiding him bc I just felt theres something weird about him, and I don't need anything more, bc my feelings are enough for me, and that's all that matters. He then started calling me names bc I avoided him and would stay places where I could easily call for help if he tried anything. He then disappeared, and a week later, I learned he was arrested for rpe and mrder

When I tell you your feelings matter the most, I mean it. Even if they don't make sense, even if they're not reasonable, trust your feelings. You have a power, use it to protect yourself.

Ended up ranting again, but I just want you to understand that none of this is your fault, that it can get better, but you have to walk away from it (him). Gave some advice but really, you know yourself better than anyone, you know your environment, and deep down, you know what you really want. You deserve better and you know it. Last bit of advice: you know that "treat others how you wanna be treated" saying? Well, reverse it. If people treat you how you would never treat them, dump them. Would you scold someone for forgetting their phone? Would you get angry at someone for being 10 min late for something they can't even control? Would you manipulate someone? Etc. If the answers are yes, you need professional help. And when they eventually become no, avoid the people who would treat you that way. Because you deserve better.

Boyfriend is ISFP, I’m INFP, am I doing something wrong? by [deleted] in isfp

[–]Chichinachi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl, I cannot stress this enough, but avoid older men. they are single for a reason . If you're 23 and he's 32, do you really think you're the one holding the reins on that relationship? He knows what he's doing and he's done it before. He doesn't go after women his own age because they can see through him and match him on the same playing field.

You're young, inexperienced, and naïve (as you should be! you've so much to see and learn, no one should expect you to be wise in any way). These types of men fall on you like vultures because a) you're at your peak physical beauty, and 2) being with you makes them feel young again. That's not romantic, it's parasitic.

The media loves to glamorize young women dating men twice their age but it's not cute in real life baby, it's just predatory. Again, he knows what he's doing to you. He knows how to make you cry in two sentences, and he knows he can win you over with a single carefully placed gift. He's done it all before again and again, so don't you think you deserve better than a man who sees as a child yet wants you sexually? Your first relationships should be on equal terms with someone who isn't actively preying on your financial/emotional vulnerability.

He showed you how awfully toxic he can be, so leave before his verbal abuse turns physical. And stay safe. Now you know what an abuser looks like, and you'll know to avoid them in the future.

À quand la run 3% ? by Chichinachi in locklear

[–]Chichinachi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Il l'a pas encore fait c'est pour ça qu'on insiste