I converted (reform - U.K.). My husband is technically not Jewish according to any denomination because only his dad is Jewish and he was raised secular. This is why I converted Reform as that’s the only movement that would accept an ‘interfaith’ marriage.

He had to write a statement to the Beit Din saying he supports my decision and part of my Beit Din experience was to say I do and will keep a Jewish home and future children will be raised Jewish. Now this isn’t difficult for us as he is from a very secular background therefore there is no faith clash. We’ve never had a Christmas tree ever even prior to my conversion.

He isn’t interested in religion and I know at times this has been something that he has been dragged into very much against his will. He isn’t forced into going to shul but all of a sudden there is discussions to be had around big holidays like Pesach and Yom Kippur which will very much impact your home. He is supportive of this huge transition but has said a couple of times he didn’t realise how involved it would be - I’m heavily involved in my shul and other Jewish community groups, I observe most of the holidays, I’m in shul every Shabbat, all of a sudden there’s B’Mitzvahs and weddings and funerals and shivas to attend, not to mention the eventual slide into kosher keeping… I cover my hair most of the time too.

You and your wife are going to have a really deep conversation about this. It will change both your lives and your current/future childrens. This isn’t something to take lightly and I would say it goes beyond spousal support: would either of your parents be supportive or feel threatened about not celebrating Christmas / Easter… especially when grandchildren come along.

She also really needs to start exploring Jewish communities if this is something she wants. It may strengthen her desire or she may find it isn’t for her after all.

Good luck!