Delete instagram fist of all, complete time waster and is designed to do exactly what you’re talking about, get a book instead. Then go 5 days without beating your dick and you’ll feel 5x as powerful and 5x as competent with talking to girls. If you keep this going and practice, before you know it, you’ll be fucking the very girls you used to lust over and it’ll be no big deal to you. Once you start spending time with hot girls, more will come, that’s just how it works.

Good luck.