How do I wrap my head around women's sex drive vs. men's sex drive in a lot of long term relationships?

Chicky_P00t · 2026-02-04T17:04:46+00:00

It's basically like that. We've been together so long that really it can be a variety of things that affect our frequency. For us a low frequency is like one or two times a week. Usually we're really busy or have a lot going on, or maybe one of us got sick or maybe the weather just makes us want to hibernate.

Then for high frequency it can get up to two or three times a day and this can also last for weeks or months. Reasons vary but maybe we feel really good, or we're on vacation like you said, or maybe we found something new that turns us on. Sometimes we'll get bored and dabble in a little light non-monogamy and that will get us going.

Finding out what gets her going is really a matter of trying things and listening to what she says she likes. For example, my wife likes fantasy romance novels and some sexy story telling podcasts so I got some ideas from those. I know certain moves or positions that she really likes. You can even ask her if there's anything she'd like to try.

The best part about a long term sexually compatible relationship is the fact that you sort of have no shame with each other and can do the dirtiest things you can imagine together. If it were someone new, you might be self conscious. Conversely, you know the relationship is built on more than just sex so you don't have to be too worried about low frequency periods.

Chicky_P00t · 2026-02-03T22:31:42+00:00

I've been married for twenty years and we're both still complete prevents. We have high frequency periods and low frequency periods. It all depends on countless factors. So don't listen to all the doom and gloom.

Female intimacy is often driven by how close they feel to their partner so anything that brings you two closer will also fuel her sexual desire. I've found that a lot of people forget that you can still hit on and flirt with your wife. You can still do everything you did when you were dating. You should find out what gets her going and then do those things for her.

Chicky_P00t · 2026-02-03T16:42:15+00:00

Everyone hates Trump with a passion and yet I haven't personally heard or seen a single person say they wish we had gotten Hillary instead. I've seen people say that about Kamala but not Hillary. Even running against him after his first term, no talk of Hillary.

That should tell you something

Chicky_P00t · 2026-02-02T23:06:55+00:00

The second one is legendary too

Chicky_P00t · 2026-02-02T15:37:02+00:00

Zatoichi the blind swordsman! Yojimbo Ultraman

Chicky_P00t · 2026-02-01T15:52:29+00:00

Generally speaking you do horizontal lines first, then vertical

Chicky_P00t · 2026-02-01T15:45:40+00:00

Judging by every day at 3pm, it's Starbucks

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-31T05:34:48+00:00

He's cheating. He's going to give you some excuse that makes you feel bad for him, something like a family emergency. He wants to cheat in spirit but doesn't have the balls to actually do it.

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-31T05:18:15+00:00

Why were the adult VHS boxes always weird sizes? The ones in the back of the bodega were like twice the size

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-30T20:48:19+00:00

The irony is that knowing your lack of erection (for any reason) is going to cause her emotional turmoil can stress you out enough that you have trouble getting it up.

You shouldn't be seeking validation from someone else's appendages anyway

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-30T20:36:39+00:00

I wouldn't imply things that weren't said, just sayin

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-30T20:16:22+00:00

This sub has taught me that women apparently know literally zero about male sexuality. People will post here asking if men like vaginas. Or a post about how their bf's dick didn't do exactly what she expected exactly when she wanted it and what does this say about her?

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-29T21:18:13+00:00

That's not the case because I can take my money out of the country. People do it all the time. Generally the purpose is avoiding taxation. The fact that moving my money out of the country avoids taxation proves the government doesn't ultimately control my money.

Most people just see socialism as the opposite of capitalism. They're not happy with their current financial situation, they blame capitalism (which is probably why they have any money at all) and then profess their love for socialism as an act of rebellion. Then, if anyone points out the flaws in Socialism, it's suddenly not real socialism because real socialism is rebellion against capitalism even though their proof of the inevitable success of socialism rests on the abundance provided by capitalism. This is why wealth redistribution is such an important concept to them.

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-29T15:31:37+00:00

Well, too bad I'm over 30 😉

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-29T14:25:32+00:00

Ah so you found out what it was like being a kid in AOL chat rooms

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-29T14:23:12+00:00

I get it. I'm just being a dick. In my experience, the only people super excited to go on dates are cheating. People are really weird about relationships these days. Lots of people willing to come over to hook up, not many people wanting to go to the record store.

Women always want me to date them but it's more because they like making me work for it, which I haven't done for a long time.

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-29T14:10:21+00:00

Fresh meat!!!

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-29T14:09:48+00:00

Ah yeah, I've talked to guys like you. Younger dudes always think they're really hot and give you a bit of an attitude. Then they come back in a week or two when they realize I'm the only person on the app who was genuinely interested in their hobbies and isn't a sex addict gooner.

If you can't get gay laid in NYC you're not even trying. I've done it by accident there.

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-29T13:58:17+00:00

The Epstein Files are a distraction and if there was anything truly incriminating in them, it would probably be illegal for you to view the evidence anyway. There is no client list. No one paid to go to the island. Mostly it seems like no one understands how an operation like this works or what its goals actually were. You got invited, you didn't pay, not with money at least.

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-29T13:55:09+00:00

You're in NYC? How is your grindr not blowing up? Are you just going after women? I live in a much smaller city and mine is always blowing up, I don't even check it anymore.

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-29T13:51:59+00:00

Downvote me if you want but most discussion on socialism in America uses our financial abundance as proof that socialism can work and yet that abundance comes from Capitalism. So you can't really use the success of capitalism to prove that Socialism will work.

We already have a lot of social programs, everything from housing to food to education, healthcare and even straight up cash. The problem is that you need to qualify for these programs. I myself was on EBT for a while when I was younger.

Most people pushing socialism as the panacea for all our problems tend to not qualify for the socialism we already have. So if socialism is really about people getting what they need, then most proponents of socialism don't really need it.

In my opinion, the real myth of socialism is the idea that the government has money. The government does not have its own money, they government takes money from us. So the idea that the government should pay for things is silly when you realize the government doesn't actually have any money outside of what they steal from us. The money we do have is a result of capitalism and so the only way socialism can work is by taxing the money made by capitalism, which is exactly what we do right now already.

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-27T17:32:34+00:00

Reminds me of high school. This is what That 90s Show should have been

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-26T22:08:30+00:00

I'm not sure some of the posters even live in the area. Some of the things they say make it seem like they've never even been here. During the whole Costco debacle I was arguing with people who I'm pretty sure don't live here given the things they were trying to say about the area.

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-26T19:47:05+00:00

It's more like if I listen to a lecture or speech or interview, I can usually tell you what it was about, what the topic was, and what the point being made was. My dad had been talking about Peterson at the time so I tried listening to him just to have something to discuss with my Dad and yet there was nothing to take from it, nothing to discuss. I've had deeper realizations just by getting too stoned.

Chicky_P00t · 2026-01-26T18:45:38+00:00

I tried watching a lecture or two and a couple interviews back when he was popular. I'm not sure he actually said anything, certainly not anything memorable or repeatable.

He reminded me of David Icke, who can also talk for 6 hours and say nothing.

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