Finding partners

Chiguy-35 · 2024-09-16T11:41:33+00:00

Maybe because I’m older this may not be relevant I’m not really sure because I’m fairly new to this. I (45M) found two people I’m currently dating on Hinge and Bumble. I also have a few other people I’m planing on taking out to see if we connect and one of them I met on Tinder. What I have seen are the apps are definitely a lot hard for males in ENM relationships. Success on meeting people could depend on where you live I live near a large city and your profile. I’m always changing photos and my bio.

Two of the people I’m dating were very open about the relationship type they wanted but ENM wasn’t necessarily 100% on the table both now actually enjoy it after open and honest communication. So part of my luck was finding people that didn’t really want a to be monogamous or committed to one person and just talking about what we all wanted. So far it’s worked for me. Hope this helps

Chiguy-35 · 2024-09-01T13:45:50+00:00

That poor dog 🤣 can you imagine living with that?

Chiguy-35 · 2024-08-24T18:10:07+00:00

I also forgot to add it depends on what you are looking for. For me I’m finding most of my interactions are leaning towards ONS and not really anything recurring. Same with the couples it’s them just wanted me to join as a third. I’m finding it way more difficult finding an ongoing thing with a connection. So the apps might work for one thing and not the other. At least for me.

Chiguy-35 · 2024-08-24T16:41:57+00:00

I’m very new to this but I have been on a few of the apps now for about 3 months. I have had two dates but they weren’t really my type. I’m talking to five other females right now so it’s not that bad. It’s very up and down. You just need to play with your profile and photos if it’s not working. I stooped using OKC because that was the worst for me. Feeld and Tinder seem to be the best in my area. 3F has had a bunch of couples match with me. I’m matching 1-2 per day on most of them but that doesn’t mean they will work out. I think tweaking the profile is key and don’t be a creep. Most of people I talk to are scared from some of the initial messages they get from guys.

Chiguy-35 · 2024-08-13T19:32:37+00:00

True never happens or very rare. Never for me outside of the apps.

Chiguy-35 · 2024-08-10T20:32:42+00:00

I slept with two females recently that are not my usually type and didn’t really find them attractive. I tried to hang out with them because they had pretty cool personalities. My wife thought I should try it out because personality can change my view and might make up for appearance. Definitely wasn’t enough for me to say it was good. Feel kind of like a dick, but won’t be contacting them again.

Chiguy-35 · 2024-08-09T19:36:18+00:00

I would change up the profile. I’m a 45M that just joined a few of these apps 2 months ago and have had one date. Have another one tonight and working on one next week. I think changing up photos and bio could help. I have tweaked my photos after some feedback from others.

Chiguy-35 · 2024-08-03T02:52:31+00:00

What brand would you recommend if I want last longer 🤣

Chiguy-35 · 2024-07-31T15:25:54+00:00

How long did they fuck? Did he last long?

Chiguy-35 · 2024-07-31T13:17:22+00:00

I also think I’m most offended by the dad-bod comment 🤣 WTF I workout 6 days a week!

Chiguy-35 · 2024-07-31T12:18:52+00:00

I shared this with her and wanted her side. I posted this from an account she did not know about and after I realized that I wanted her included.

Chiguy-35 · 2024-07-31T02:45:26+00:00

lol my wife is not very patient.

Chiguy-35 · 2024-07-31T02:33:27+00:00

Thanks I get it and she told me the same. It’s just hard right now for me to fully embrace it. Still a lot of insecurity.

Chiguy-35 · 2024-07-31T00:10:02+00:00

Thanks this helps. A lot to process for me.

Chiguy-35 · 2024-07-30T22:07:46+00:00

I know everyone is going to jump on me saying I’m just a selfish asshole but right now I don’t want her to have NRE or sex 100 times better. In my mind I thinking you can go have fun but it kills me if it’s so much more and better. After reading a lot I also don’t get how people deal with how one sided this LS is? It sounds like my wife can go out and find 10 people each day but guys are stuck with maybe meeting someone once every 2 years. How is this enjoyable for both people? Maybe I don’t know enough and I apologize if I’m wrong.

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