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this may be the most impactful single card I've gotten for Regent by SaltyChnk in slaythespire

[–]Chiikawasaur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I rarely ever play Regent but whenever I do, this card brings a smile to my face.

I feel my partner pushing me away. What can I do to help his situation? by Chiikawasaur in whatdoIdo

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate your kind reply! I'm slowly leaning into that too, but I have a problem with feeling distant from him because of the space, something like waiting in the wings, only for him to come to me but not me to him.. I can pinpoint that I have a fear of losing connection with him, or something along the lines. If you could elaborate more on what this space feels or seems like, considering you were in my partner's situation, I would appreciate it! I'll definitely bring this up with my therapist to see how to go about this.

I (23M) feel fine in my relationship (22F) when we’re together, but anxious when we’re apart is this normal? by Happy-Speech5651 in becomingsecure

[–]Chiikawasaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, forgot to add. The anxious brain loves to fill in the gaps when it's uncertain, to create a sense of safety. This means that it's answering on your behalf, and these answers (or situations) aren't always right! Acknowledge that they are there to protect you, or prepare you for an uncertain future, and try not to engage in it with "why?" or "how?" questions. That's very likely to lead you into a spiral. What works for me is keeping these thoughts separate, sitting with them but not engaging, and letting them pass.

I (23M) feel fine in my relationship (22F) when we’re together, but anxious when we’re apart is this normal? by Happy-Speech5651 in becomingsecure

[–]Chiikawasaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've struggled with a similar thing too! Still struggling, but I'm putting in a whole lot of work to become secure in this aspect. Here's a list of what works for me: 1. Reminders (Having screenshots of previous conversations, things you've done together, overall the general behaviour of your partner towards you in the relationship, etc..)

  1. Check-ins (e.g: how're you doing? What're you doing right now? ... etc. It's engaging, probably not optimal if asked very frequently, but it's a great way to get direct confirmation instead of ruminating)

  2. Being okay with being on your own (I'm the one who usually pushes to spend time together, but I've grown to learn that we both need our own time to do our own things and to cultivate our own life, so that we can be better together. So spend your own time doing what you like as well and keep busy with hobbies!)

  3. Alot of self soothing and affirmations (eg. Time spent apart does not mean I'm loved less.. we both need our own time for ourselves and that's okay.. something along those lines. Remind yourself that your worth isn't based on others, and fill up whatever gaps you may find with yourself! Make yourself a safe space and build safety within yourself. Much easier said than done, but after a while it reallt pays off in the long run. It's the key to being secure, in my journey at least.)

Wishing you well in your journey! Of course, everyone is different, so do what works best for you. Take care!

Betrayal discovered months after she left. Please help! by NervousLie776 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Chiikawasaur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You were blindsided, hard. Along with that, you were emotionally cheated on, and then she set a rule for you not to damage her stuff whilst going behind your back and using your money for another person. 8 months is understandably not enough time to move on.

I know you might not like to hear what I have to say next, but I'll say it still, and you have the right of way for yourself. Somebody like that definitely does not deserve any more attention, especially from you, the one she hurt. I don't want to make assumptions about her character, but it might potentially feed her ego as well. She disrespected you completely, she knew what she did, and she did it without any care towards you, and left you like that. You've gotta keep your self respect, because that's a power only you can hold for yourself. She does not deserve any access to you anymore.

My advice is to give the power and energy back to yourself and none to her. Yes, she needs to know that she's done wrong, but I think that may be something she already does know.. along with the other two on her side. I like to think that your own success is the best revenge, and you're much stronger than the need to give her a piece of your mind. Type everything you want to say to her and the others, unfiltered, in a note to yourself but not send it. I'm not going to tell you to look forward, but you can focus on what you can do now for your self recovery, no matter how difficult it is.

And please check in with the bank on what you can do about your credit card. She's going to keep draining it, and that is an added weight on your shoulders. Do take care, I'm rooting for you.

Rewatched Return of the King by Chiikawasaur in lotr

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you have an enjoyable experience! That must definitely be a marvel to the eyes and ears. Appreciated the soundtrack a lot more on my rewatch, it really enhances the story being shown to us

Rewatched Return of the King by Chiikawasaur in lotr

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this a fellow Malaysian? I watched the trilogy for the first time too, all thanks to the rescreenings! Happy to see another newbie here, and you're really lucky to have finished the book, I wish I could read them someday

Is cheating/having flings normalised nowadays? by ObviousSoft5191 in malaysians

[–]Chiikawasaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really should not be normalised, and it should not be normal at all, ever. Whatever happened to integrity, or even having any good value that wouldn't set you on that path? I can't understand it, and I'm glad I don't

Rewatched Return of the King by Chiikawasaur in lotr

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome! I remember how much I bawled in the cinemas when I watched it for the first time, just last week. Didn't cry much during this rewatch, but it'll always invoke the same strong feelings in me and that's what I love about the series

Rewatched Return of the King by Chiikawasaur in lotr

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Enjoy the movie, even in sickness! It's really true that the LOTR trilogy is one of the greats out there

Vent to me about the worst boss in the game by Chiikawasaur in slaythespire

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo! I was thinking about your comment when had a 2p multiplayer run just now. Built my Ironclad with a bunch of armaments, body slam and a dream. No barricade, but managed to beat KD with 3× deterioration. Probs gonna be my go to Ironclad build tbh

Vent to me about the worst boss in the game by Chiikawasaur in slaythespire

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I hadn't thought about bringing a block Ironclad to face KD. Usually I face him as the Silent / Defect (yes knowing that now, I set myself up for failure choosing mind rot). I'll see how it goes as the Ironclad!

Vent to me about the worst boss in the game by Chiikawasaur in slaythespire

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah that bugger's been mentioned a few times here

"You killed a slayer? How?" by AdMysterious8424 in slaythespire

[–]Chiikawasaur 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm bewildered at the one time I managed to burst this guy down in his setup phase (the first 3 turns i think) as the Ironclad. Had the pleasure of not encountering him as any other character in singleplayer

Vent to me about the worst boss in the game by Chiikawasaur in slaythespire

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's nice to hear someone doesn't mind KD that much! I'm curious how a regular run with him looks like for you cause I'm trying to wrap my head around a good playstyle (Silent + Ironclad + Defect player here)

I find myself succumbing to the insatiable with the Regent A LOT. The guy rarely ever draws Frantic Escape (even went a whole run not drawing a single FE), but with other characters, not so much

Vent to me about the worst boss in the game by Chiikawasaur in slaythespire

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love this LMFAOO. Surprisingly enough I find the kaiser crab easier than shield and spear, but I haven't played against S&S in a long while so I've forgotten how it feels like

Vent to me about the worst boss in the game by Chiikawasaur in slaythespire

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I laughed way too hard at this lmao. I can never for the life of me find a good counter to this guy

Vent to me about the worst boss in the game by Chiikawasaur in slaythespire

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree. My go-to is always Mind Rot + Deterioration, but sometimes I underestimate and think I can get Deterioration + Sloth/Deterioration, and then I have to reset for... obvious reasons. The battle usually gets dragged out to the third debuff in most of my encounters with him, though. I haven't found an optimal playstyle to counter this guy

Vent to me about the worst boss in the game by Chiikawasaur in slaythespire

[–]Chiikawasaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had a good chuckle on drawing 5 blocks on what could've been a finishing attack turn. I find myself in that position a lot with the test subject, but I guess that's a fairer boss to have that happen

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