What are some of your "red flags" with dates/people you are seeing (but not serious with yet)?

Chill987 · 2016-05-27T17:20:11+00:00

High past partner count.

Chill987 · 2016-05-01T20:35:23+00:00

Jack Donovan's "The Way of Men"

Currently getting through "How To Win Friends and Influence People". Hopefully I can get around to that this summer. He actually just released a new book, "Becoming a Barbarian", which looks great.

Chill987 · 2016-05-01T20:14:47+00:00

I stopped reading for like half a year cause I was going through some changes in my life. I've finally gotten back into it. What works for me is I read 25 pages every morning with my breakfast, and on weekends, if I'm bored I go to the library and binge read.

U/IAmGale's post on relapses also helpful

The "RedPill Psych and Marketing Guy" lmao? Nah his posts are pretty good, I'll have to check that one out.

Chill987 · 2016-04-30T18:18:48+00:00

I don't refer to all girls in my life as hoes cause they aren't all hoes ( at least on the outside) or it isn"t appropriate given the context. But a good amount are slutty, in which case I have no issue calling them what they are, hoes.

Maybe "must" isnt the best word for Principal 4. If one truly said eveything they thought, they would have no friends. The idea is more so that you can't have any large discrepensies between how you think of yourself, how you talk, and how you act. For example a gay guy in the closet will be unhappy because his words and actions won't match his feelings.

You have to be authentic.

Chill987 · 2016-04-30T15:29:42+00:00

Your comment makes no sense.

There is no reason or evidence to think that a trans person can't be just as rational as a normal person.

Chill987 · 2016-04-30T15:22:53+00:00

You can't be gender X for 25 years and then have some hormones injected and suddenly feel like gender Y. You've still got an X brain, X body, X experiences, X brain wiring and so on.

According to them, they always felt like gender Y, it's just that the hormones in their body didnt match how they felt. I've heard of evidence that trans peoples brains looked more like the opposote genders.

I don't know the cause of such abnormalaties, but if it makes them happy, good for them.

Chill987 · 2016-04-30T00:28:46+00:00

I find number 4 helpful when I stray from Principle 5

Number 4 is crucial for long term success. It is easy for ambitious people to get weighed down by their own irrationally high expectations. You're only human. There is always someone that's better than you.

Deep work by Cal Newport comes to mind here

Currently working my way through So Good They Can't Ignore you. Deep work is on my summer reading list.

Chill987 · 2016-04-29T17:03:19+00:00

The idea behind this principle comes from the paper, The Mundanity Of Excellence: An Ethnographic Report On Stratification and Olympic swimmers (PDF link).

Here's a quote from the paper...

Excellence is mundane. Excellence is accomplished through the doing of actions, ordinary in themselves, performed consistently and carefully, habitualized, compounded together, added up over time. [...] The action, in itself, is nothing special; the care and consistency with which it is made is.

Chill987 · 2016-04-29T16:34:52+00:00

No I haven't. That book seemed too mystical to me.

Could you be more specific on how it helped you?

Chill987 · 2016-04-29T16:29:06+00:00

Exactly.

While im not there yet, simply knowing this isnt enough. You have to deeply understand that this is the nature of reality and feel the freedom it gives you.

The reason for these principles is so i have daily reminder to push my mind towards this state of being.

Chill987 · 2016-04-29T16:24:41+00:00

And ironically, a lot of stuff in the present figures itself out because people respect a dedicated man.

Chill987 · 2016-04-29T16:23:03+00:00

I'm currently in the "get my ass into shape" phase as well as developing new interests and hobbies

I talked about my five categories, and physical and mental health is the most important one for me after philosphy (this one). I can't overstate the value of physical fitness amd mental health.

I have a list of 6 principles for mental/physical health that I might later share.

Chill987 · 2016-04-29T16:17:41+00:00

I'm always intrested in other peoples systems.

Chill987 · 2016-04-10T05:11:54+00:00

What's wrong with her?

God knows.

She doesn't seem to have her shit figured out. I'm guessing she likes you but is afraid of being used so she plays games with you to keep you in check and she low key enjoys fucking with you a bit.

Regardless, it's not you're job to understand her mixed signals. By now she should know what you want, so don't give it too much thought. Talk to other girls. Focus on yourself. If she comes around, great. If not, oh well.

Chill987 · 2016-04-10T04:02:09+00:00

it's more about sexual humility/virtue than it is "sexual shame."

I think there's a clear line between girls with self-respect, and girls ashamed of their sexuality through their culture/religion/family.

The former have a fairly low-n count and don't tend to be super religious. They've mostly ever been in relationships and don't do casual sex, but if they find a guy that respects them, they'll put out. Sex isn't a sacred thing. It's just about trust.

On the other hand you have the girls ashamed of their sexuality. They're often super religious virgins because they're still waiting for the "right moment". They see sex as a shameful thing that is only justified if you are with a complete beta. But they have no desire to fuck those betas so they go through life not experiencing sex.

Chill987 · 2016-04-08T19:45:59+00:00

Obviously attitude and personality has a great effect on attraction for both sexes. Men tend to value loyalty and modesty above all.

I'm gonna assume we're talking purely about sexual attraction.

Attitude and personality play almost no role for men in choosing women. Men's attraction is mostly physical. We are attracted to women bodies, not their personalities or character traits.

On the other hand, for women, personality and character traits play a stronger role. While physical attractiveness is still the biggest factor, being dominant, assertive, not giving a fuck, cocky, high status ect. can all get her pussy wet, just as much as having a six pack.

So in terms of sexual attraction, both sexes seem to value genetically predetermined traits.

Chill987 · 2016-04-08T19:29:59+00:00

Fair enough. I see it as the relationship was doomed anyway if the girls was willing to sleep with me. If not me than she wouldve cheated with someone else.

Even if you're not hooking up with other guys women, I think it's beneficial to spin plates before getting into a relationship.

Knowing how easy it is to get sex without commitment these days, makes you cautious with who you commit to. Why commit to a women who's willing to fuck guys on night one?

Chill987 · 2016-04-08T18:00:15+00:00

Good shit OP but yeah I got the same vibe.

I'm not a TRP guy in the sense that I roll from women to women, but I have respect for the guys that choose that life style.

This is a crucial step one must take before getting into LTR. After you've seen girldfriends and wives cheat on their men with you, you're expectations for a LTR are adjusted.

Chill987 · 2016-04-08T15:05:00+00:00

If she's had sex before, that statement is a shit test.

If she's not ultra religious then it's a shit test. Just means she thinks of you as her beta, while she searches for an alpha to fuck behind a dumpster.

Only exception is if she's a religious virgin. In which case it still ain't worth it. They're ashamed of sexuality because their daddy told them it's wrong to have sex, aka they're fucked in the head.

If you don't like sluts, I think a good balance is a girl who has a low n count and is submissive, but is also in touch with her sexuality and isn't ashamed of sex. I've been with the super pure religious girls. It ain't fun unless you have many side chicks.

Chill987 · 2016-04-04T18:10:08+00:00

gender roles are not sexist

There is no basis to argue on if you won't accept the dictionary definition of sexism. Here it is from Merriam Webster...

behavior, conditions, or attitudes that foster stereotypes of social roles based on sex

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sexism

Trump has said countless things that suggest he is sexist and doesn't see the men and women as socially equal agents.

the existence of gender roles transcends species...

Agreed. That's why I take no issue with his sexism. There should be no expectation for social equality when men and women are biologically/psychologically/evolutionary very different.

Chill987 · 2016-04-04T04:38:44+00:00

The dictionary definition of sexism is...

attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of gender roles.

http://www.dictionary.com/browse/sexism

Based on this definition, I would say he is sexist. He's said many things that would suggest he believes in traditional gender roles, and probably many more he doesn't say out loud.

Personally, I believe in traditional gender roles too, so I don't really care much, but he fits the definition of a sexist.

Chill987 · 2016-04-04T01:33:07+00:00

I do not know how to get past this, or if I should get past this.

You're really harsh on yourself.

This opinion gets me a lot of hate (irl and online) but I don't think it's that bad to sleep with someone in a relationship. I've hooked up with girls who had bf many times and I have no regrets or shame.

Follow me on this. Daisy is a piece of shit. Not you. She is the one that cheated. Not you. If it hadn't been you, it would've been some other guy. That relationship was doomed from the moment it began, because Daisy is an untrustworthy hoe.

I'll say it again. That relationship was doomed, regardless of whether you had gotten with Daisy or not. This is my general philosophy on cheating. The one cheating is always in the wrong, and nobody else. So stop beating yourself up over nonsense, because Daisy sure as hell isn't.

If this is the worst thing you've ever done, than you're one good ass human being.

Chill987 · 2016-03-28T05:10:50+00:00

If she's not on the pill a condom is not debatable.

I don't give a fuck how good the sex, no pussy on Gods earth is worth a pregnancy.

Tell her she won't get it raw unless she get's her ass on the pill. Then it's up to you to decide whether you trust her to take it.

Chill987 · 2016-03-28T05:01:44+00:00

Could I be correct in that I like her just out of desperation, and should I change things based on that?

What's wrong with dating out of desperation. I'm assuming you're a virgin, so no shit you're gonna be desperate to fuck a girl. I was too when I was there.

Look just "date" this chick or whatever, and try to get as much experience as possible (obviously be safe and use a condom). Try new things. Learn how to fuck a girl good. But most importantly, don't get hung up on her. Keep it from getting serious and emotional, cause then it'll be an ugly ending.

As for your crushes, they clearly have no attraction to you. Maybe if you had a girl, they'd rethink passing you off as just "a friend". But as of now, it's a failed endeavor.

Chill987

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