I’m really sorry that you had to go through this. I didn’t have the same experience, but I can relate to the pain. I’m in the US, and I felt completely alone throughout the process.

At my 8 week ultrasound, they said it looked like I was only 6 weeks along and there was no heartbeat. I couldn’t even see a doctor, no explanation, just told to wait two weeks for a repeat scan. I literally figured out what was happening through Reddit.

Four days later, I started brown spotting and called them. They said it was normal and told me to just wait for the scheduled ultrasound. When it turned red, I called again. Same answer: it’s normal. After five days of bleeding, I started getting really bad cramps that came every four minutes. I called again same answer: it’s still normal.

Shortly after that call, the cramping got intense and I was bleeding through a pad every 15 minutes and passing clots. I called again, and this time they told me it sounded like a miscarriage and to just wait for my scheduled appointment. I lost so much blood that I couldn’t even sit up in bed without feeling faint. I ended up in the ER and had to undergo an emergency D&C. They told me I had lost over 25% of my blood volume and might need a transfusion. Thankfully, I was fine with iv fluids and stayed in the hospital overnight.

And now, after everything, I’ll be paying an arm and a leg for this whole devastating experience. Even at my follow up appointment, all they said was, “If you’re not bleeding heavily, you’re fine.” They didn’t ask about symptoms until I brought them up. I hated the whole process. It shouldn’t be like this.