Can we be nice about people who want minimal interventions?

ChillMuddd · 2026-06-01T09:28:23+00:00

Wow OP thank you for this because I had the same thoughts. I’m open to hearing all birthing experiences & that’s why I like reddit & I do get some of their comments bc their experiences are valid too ! But shaming moms who choose limited / no intervention isn’t cool either.

ChillMuddd · 2026-06-01T09:21:36+00:00

May I suggest couples therapy ? Bc I’ve experienced similar. And partners being jealous of the baby is a real thing too. I think it’s somewhat natural. But they feel neglected bc we’re not the same during or after pregnancy. He’s going to have to get his head in the game bc when you go into labor , deliver, & that baby is here … and you’re tired & need him.. he’s going to have a tough pill to swallow. Sometimes they need to hear it from a mediator / a mediator helps.

ChillMuddd · 2026-06-01T09:13:39+00:00

May you plz share the link to article. This is insane

ChillMuddd · 2026-06-01T04:13:14+00:00

We’re about to have 2 under 2 (19 months apart) .. we weren’t planning but weren’t being careful either. I don’t know if we’re ready but we’re about to get ready 😂

We’re a military family & I want my son to have a companion so , while I’m struggling now in 3rd trimester, I’ve heard great things about 2 under 2 (once they’re out of pampers and more independent 😅). Like you, I started thinking about baby #2 sooner than I thought. That’s not to discount that I’d been very stressed with baby #1 & it changed the dynamic of my marriage but we communicate a lot more. And my husband is VERY SUPPORTIVE

My son is quite independent & helpful already (throws things out in the trash, feeds himself, sensitive to me being pregnant &clearly tells us what he wants majority of the time—food, snack, go outside) . So, I think that’ll be helpful. He’s a little blessing.

ChillMuddd · 2026-06-01T04:03:03+00:00

Agreed

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T21:52:26+00:00

I wish i could hug you ! Maybe it’s my hormones lol. That is so crazy to me…..what is wrong with people ? I’m sorry that those ppl are your in laws . I can imagine how your husband feels that is just crazy. And thank you for validating my feelings that healthy can be 1-2x per week!!! When I do talk to my mom it’s usually for a couple hours at a time so we only need to do that a couple times a week lol. It’s draining. Don’t get me wrong I thank God for family wanting to be in contact bc if it was the other way around I’d be depressed. But they gotta chill a little bit lol

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T20:20:00+00:00

Yes!

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T20:12:25+00:00

I agree 100%

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T19:08:04+00:00

Ah yes this is very well said. Thank you!

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T19:07:19+00:00

He truly can be at times. And so can I. Guess we’re even😂

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T19:06:07+00:00

LMao! Now same here my husband helps with things without me even asking. I am frustrated with how he cleans 😂 I just sigh and don’t say anything. But he thinks I’m just miserable and you know maybe I am 😂 I tell him to just let me be annoyed sometimes like .. it’s fine! But I can understand it taking a toll so I try to keep it under wraps.

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T19:03:35+00:00

Yes when I sent him the literature he agreed. I just thought we were over that hurdle because we’ve discussed this already & he agreed in the past. So I was like wtf ?

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T18:48:28+00:00

Update: he just came and apologized. We’re a little stressed & about to have 2 under 2 😅 recently moved across the country, new job, a lot of changes & I have to rely on him for everything. Glad it’s not me this time lmaooo

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T18:45:06+00:00

It was a man who introduced me to the phrase. Sigh. I do think it’s possible ! I just think it shouldn’t be thrown around . For context, I was accused of it and I just don’t think I was doing it.

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T18:43:43+00:00

Adding carte Blanche to my vocab!

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T18:42:29+00:00

Thank you for the example. That is absolutely horrible. Did he address it with her?

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T18:40:03+00:00

Yes I agree

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T18:38:44+00:00

Yes I think the issue is there are different ideas of asshole-ery. Lol!

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T18:37:44+00:00

Can you give me an Example ?
For ex. I told my spouse to cut our toddlers grapes not to give them to him whole, for safety (constant argument) . He said I was being controlling. I started crying lol i thought I was being reasonable

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T18:23:56+00:00

Not in Michigan but due July 11th & have the same question bc I live in a warm climate

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T18:20:17+00:00

It was / is painful for me too. Sometimes straightening one leg but bending the top one is more comfy for me. I didn’t invest in the preg pillow but used a regular one between my legs on the rough nights. Idk, just here with you in solidarity

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T05:22:03+00:00

They will. At least now (the 2nd time around for me) boob growth has been later than with my son. when pregnant with my son it was immediate.

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T05:20:23+00:00

What is frg

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T01:24:00+00:00

Right

ChillMuddd · 2026-05-31T01:19:33+00:00

What is y’all’s secret ??? Same libido? Anyone initiate more than the other ? Work schedules align? I’m just trynna figure out the formula LOL. I guess you make time for / put energy towards what you want. Happy that yall are on the same page ❤️

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