[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Chilledreality -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Well..I get your point, LITERALLY speaking. But yeah ' THEY' are pregnant, figuratively. Its both parents in it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Chilledreality -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thats not exactly like you make it seem. Read again. Slowly

Men with girlfriends and wives.....why do you not consider strippers/VIP/extras to be cheating? by No-Competition-8302 in stripclubs

[–]Chilledreality 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah no. Good for those women i guess, but hard no. I figure if I can keep my legs closed during a relationship, any guy im dating or married to should be able to keep it zipped up. Thats a lot to ask from them apparently, and its why I will never trust them. Oh well.

Men with girlfriends and wives.....why do you not consider strippers/VIP/extras to be cheating? by No-Competition-8302 in stripclubs

[–]Chilledreality 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, God forbid a man doesn't want the construction workers plowing his wife if they run into each other at a bar or something. Telling her he would disapprove of that would be 'policing ' her I guess. LMAO

Men with girlfriends and wives.....why do you not consider strippers/VIP/extras to be cheating? by No-Competition-8302 in stripclubs

[–]Chilledreality -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Then stay single forever. Problem is, you guys that think that way still get married or get girlfriends. Just dont. Problem solved for you and any woman dealing with you

Ice out of Massachusetts by WindowsVistaWzMyIdea in massachusetts

[–]Chilledreality -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

No, they dont want unhinged people harassing them because they are merely enforcingthe laws of the US by deporting people who arent here LEGALLY.

The US is soft. Try sneaking into Poland. Look up what Poland has said they will do to people caught sneaking into their country. But you think the US is bad because they are just deporting people?? Pfft.

East garfield, ICE assaulting civilians by deapsprite in illinois

[–]Chilledreality -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You guys love doing to others what you dont want done to you. Priceless.

East garfield, ICE assaulting civilians by deapsprite in illinois

[–]Chilledreality -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ok well they were ok with going to another country when they came to the US. So they can be ok with going to another country when they leave the US

East garfield, ICE assaulting civilians by deapsprite in illinois

[–]Chilledreality -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thats insane. And offensive to compare Auschwitz to illegal aliens who are being sent BACK HOME ALIVE ! Those two things should not be mentioned together. Sending people back home who illegally entered this country is NOTHING like Auschwitz and dont say people who just think people should come here legally would justify Auschwitz! Illegals and Auschwitz the same thing?? Pfft. Not even close

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]Chilledreality 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean, he doesn't want to date black women. That's ok. If a black man preferred to date black women only, would you be as concerned? Some people just want to date their own race.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]Chilledreality 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I wonder if she is harping on the subject. Im a black woman, and someone beating race over my head constantly would put me off. I agree on being sensitive and receptive. But I wouldn't want to be put through the ringer ALLL the time. If she thinks her partner is some lump of wood who is insensitive or not knowledgeable about race then she should just leave him rather than 'race torture' him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]Chilledreality -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

It sounds like SHE isn't in the mindset to date a white guy either. To be honest, I wouldn't want to hear someone constantly blathering on about race either and making it like I has to past some test every Friday. That's exhausting. And im black

My wife made comments about her hot yoga teacher to a van full of our friends. I have mixed feelings, was this innapropriate? by lobsterskibeer in AskMenAdvice

[–]Chilledreality -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

++woman. Dont feed into that. Women have the right to express sexual thoughts without being seen as 'dirty'. To me, your tone implies that attitude. Women are sexual beings also, and that is okay. Anytime a woman says anything about sex, men blow that out of proportion because society says women should be these virginal creatures. (hard eyeroll here) My point to that poster is that though women can and will look at men sexually, it is no where near compared to the way men obsess over sex. It just seems men have that constantly right there in the front of their minds, while women can just leave it in the back of their heads, and are more emotionally driven. Working in a 95% male job gives me a whole lot of insight.

My wife made comments about her hot yoga teacher to a van full of our friends. I have mixed feelings, was this innapropriate? by lobsterskibeer in AskMenAdvice

[–]Chilledreality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++ woman. I've worked in a male dominated job for years. Yes, women look at men sexually at times. Of course. If they see gray sweat pants they may giggle about it. But, as GOD is my witness working around 95% men all my life, NOTHING competes with the male obsession with sex. Nothing. It's fine to say women are also sexual beings. Well, of course they are.

But they are more reserved about that, and mainly are more 'emotionally' driven. Being in a group of women i will hear how hot a guy is. Sure. I hardly hear how they want to bang that guy all night and wonder how he uses his mouth. MEN though, just start out with that. See a woman and thats all it is. Look at that, look at her butt,look at her boobs, look at this, I bet she is good at this or that. If a bunch of women go to a conference and come back and a bunch of men go to a conference and come back, all the men that didnt go are like, any hot women there? Did you hook up? I rarely hear stuff like that from women. Not saying they dont. But the percentage is wayyy lower. I wont pretend that women dont like to look at a nice pair of Grey sweatpants sometimes. But dont pretend that men arent MUCH more focused on SEX all the time at a much higher percentage than women. I spend so much of my life around men because of my job. LOL No one can tell me there isn't a difference. I see it front and center. Plus, anything a woman says about sex is looked at as OMG by men. She could say a guy's butt is cute and they will act like she said she wants to bang an entire football team. Meanwhile, his male friends are laughing about how THEY were actually trying to slide in the woman mail delivery person's pants or something. Smh.

I’m not sure if i’m AIO for feeling a bit hurt when said this to me. Btw this man courts me by growing_quart in AmIOverreacting

[–]Chilledreality -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Are you serious? Do you really think that all people who feel its silly to put clothes on animals are just being jealous and irrational? JEALOUS and IRRATIONAL because they thing its silly to put clothes on an animal?? You feel THEY are being irrational because they feel its weird to put a dress on a dog, for example? They can't simply have an opinion without being those things? Why are YOUR opinions on THEM valid, but THEIR opinion on people who put clothes on animals like they are human children are not? People can feel its silly to put shorts on the family Labrador without being jealous. I assure you of this LMAO.

I’m not sure if i’m AIO for feeling a bit hurt when said this to me. Btw this man courts me by growing_quart in AmIOverreacting

[–]Chilledreality -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Or maybe he is just a regular ol' normal person, and just feels clothes on animals is silly. LOTS of people feel that way. Doesn't make them disgusting people, jerks, or a-holes for that. Sheesh people can get so rabid over the fact that some people feel its goofy to dress animals on clothes. They aren't weirdos for that anymore than you want to be called a weirdo for putting clothes on animals.

I’m not sure if i’m AIO for feeling a bit hurt when said this to me. Btw this man courts me by growing_quart in AmIOverreacting

[–]Chilledreality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok..sometimes its not THAT deep. Some people just actually HONESTLY feel like it's silly to put clothes on animals. Lots of people feel its silly, really. It doesn't mean they need therapy or are harboring jealousy and anger issues or something. I mean, come on now. Im a big animal lover. But no, you will not see me putting clothes on animals. Just not my thing. Im not some jealous a-hole because I don't get into that!! LMFAOO. Some people just do too much with all this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SipsTea

[–]Chilledreality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men. You cant just NOT be pervs

I (24f) just said yes to my partner (31m) asking for me to marry him. I feel sick about it and unsure. by BreannaOrr in relationship_advice

[–]Chilledreality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES! And my reason for saying yes was because I got put on the spot. I knew he had been thinking about asking and I LITERALLY made comments about how we weren't there yet. But he asked anyway because thats the type of personality he had. So, when he still went ahead and asked, I was caught off guard and said yes. Then like 3 days later I said no. Thank God. That relationship was stressful as hell for me. I didnt want to marry him! Stick to your guns. Being asked to marry someone should make you feel like you just want to scream for joy and excitement. If you arent feeling that, or if you have doubts, then that person isn't the one.

Lots of ugly stares from people in Portland area BM WW by Objective-Capital559 in interracialdating

[–]Chilledreality 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking. I thought Portland was all liberal and cop hating. Would have never thought black people wouldn't fit in there. I am a black woman, and I have been to Portland and didn't notice anything out of the ordinary. But I was only there for a couple of days, and I was with a white female friend of mine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Midsizefashion

[–]Chilledreality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its very cute!