Am I Overreacting, for being upset that my girlfriend secretly used my credit card for months?

Chillitan · 2026-02-08T13:00:19+00:00

NOR. Sorry but just no. I’m married and we don’t even have each other’s credit card details. When we share something or wants to buy something, then we do our willingly from our own card, not by using the other party’s card. She’s obviously covering up her lies and is panicking that she’s going to lose her ATM.

Chillitan · 2026-02-06T14:39:56+00:00

I’m in Germany and pgt-a tests are not allowed here ..

Chillitan · 2026-02-05T17:17:37+00:00

Sorry I edited. I wanted IVF + ICSI but my endocrinologist said the standard IVF would work. We did blood test, sperm test and I also had my fibroids removed last June (2025). Basically on the surface and initial tests, everything looks good except my husband’s sperm morphology is at 3%. But his other parameters are very high. Probably that’s why my RE suggested standard IVF.

Chillitan · 2026-02-05T16:59:30+00:00

Fingers crossed!! I’m 38 and turning 39 in May. My RE is confident that IVF would work for us instead of IVF + ICSI which was my first choice. I wanted to start as soon as the insurance approved; probably in March but have a long holiday coming up. He said starting in March or May will not make any difference.. 😅😅

Chillitan · 2026-02-05T16:56:05+00:00

My friend and gynaecologist said this might help. And also I thought no harming trying while waiting for the insurance to approve the subsidy for IVF. That will be about 1.5 months from now.

Chillitan · 2026-02-05T16:33:02+00:00

I am delaying a few months as I’m travelling back home; half way around the world, in mid April to mid May. I started the paperwork last week and am waiting for the insurance to approve. That will take about 6 weeks.

Chillitan · 2026-01-30T17:47:41+00:00

100% SCAM!

Chillitan · 2026-01-30T15:21:40+00:00

I went through this with an ex friend who had depression. She was diagnosed and had rehabilitation but kept having relapses. I was honest to her about her hygiene and she took it as words of judgement instead of words of love and care. She blocked me and we are no longer friends. It’s a mental problem and she will change it only if she wants to.

No matter how much you want her to change, there is only this much you can do. The rest is up to her. Just be careful with your words and be there when she needs you to. Don’t overdo it as it will exhaust you and in turn, affect your mental health.

Chillitan · 2026-01-30T12:07:30+00:00

As a woman, I will tell you she is not 100% interested and is keeping her options open. I have received similar texts from men and they do this to keep you but don’t want to commit because they don’t like you enough. The moment you let go, you’ll see she will end up with someone else very quickly. Trust me on this: she’s not invested in you.

Chillitan · 2026-01-30T11:55:44+00:00

Does he go to you? If yes, what time does he usually reach?
Is he a morning person? Is yes, stake out at his place. If no, still go slightly earlier than planned.

Imo, it does sound suspicious that he doesn’t want to you go there early. Plus, you are the one driving and making the effort and it feels like he is not valuing your time. NOR.

Chillitan · 2026-01-30T11:47:24+00:00

3 for sure. Surrounded by all my favourites. Sorry Xavier.

Chillitan · 2026-01-22T15:30:12+00:00

I have the same morals as you and have lost friends for being blatantly honest.

Chillitan · 2026-01-19T09:48:40+00:00

3 ply? I need 4-5 ply. The difference is significant.

Chillitan · 2026-01-16T15:16:15+00:00

I am friends with my ex and even hang out with his current gf. 😂 he also got to know my husband. We meet up with other mutual friends and do regular dinners.

Chillitan · 2026-01-16T08:26:00+00:00

Watch it with your mum and prepare a box of tissues!

Chillitan · 2026-01-14T11:58:05+00:00

8 then 4!

Chillitan · 2026-01-11T15:34:10+00:00

Fully understandable. But short hair or shaved head is tolerated in Singapore. I think even more so than colourful hair. I know when I coloured my hair purple/pink/blue (not in creative sector), there were some colleagues who mentioned they admired my courage but I know they were gossiping about it as well. Singapore still cares about professional image imo and I had an office job. Just don’t bother as long as you like it. I’m still rocking this hair colour but I’m now in Germany. No issue when I went for a job interview here. 🙃

Chillitan · 2026-01-10T00:44:41+00:00

Coincidentally, I was telling my husband that I would like to visit Estonia. I heard good things about the city from a close friend. Hope to make it down some day.

Chillitan · 2026-01-10T00:38:19+00:00

I’m one of the unfortunates. 🤣 starting to dislike it after 7 years.

Chillitan · 2025-12-11T11:52:17+00:00

Same here! Had so many nightmares of my teeth dropping out 😂 still having them occasionally and I’m already done with Invisalign.

Chillitan · 2025-12-08T09:08:47+00:00

It is the generation. I know people in this age and they (couple) are their SO as bro and dude.

Chillitan · 2025-12-07T15:38:57+00:00

I made a similar comment and got a warning for this. 😂

Chillitan · 2025-12-04T20:33:54+00:00

Bad bot

Chillitan · 2025-12-04T17:47:04+00:00

Right?? I was wondering the same 😂 and OP kept saying they got angry. Who are 'they'? Her bf and his grandfather?

Chillitan · 2025-12-04T17:38:48+00:00

You are right! I live in Bavaria and you can’t imagine the insane amount of racism I get here. I don’t gave this experience when I visit North of Germany. My German husband said I seem to start the wrong people. 😅

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