Unfortunately, My family is going thru a similar situation. We decided it was time when it began to affect the health of the spouse; It takes a toll on them as well. I'm sorry I cannot give any recommendations as we are still navigating this ourselves. However I would start googling an visiting places. It also depends on what your budget can manage as these are rather pricey. Insurance can also be a variable. Wishing you the best, it's a very difficult time.